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Published: 2012-09-19 03:29:09 +0000 UTC; Views: 1515; Favourites: 25; Downloads: 4
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I've been helping a friend try to fend off some bullies. And thinking about it lately, I realized the big advice for dealing with them that most people repeat is "ignore it." Well.... that's the exact OPPOSITE of how I was told to deal with bullies when I was a kid. And I've also seen bullies who don't care if you fight back or ignore them.... and I've seen people who struggle with bullies but few, if any, other people help them through a difficult situation. It's all very confusing if you're dealing with a bully (or trying to help someone deal with a bully) because...it's not very clear just WHAT you are supposed to do with them.Models:
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I haven't been bullied personally because everyone knows I don't take any of it, but when my friend got bullied I got sooooo pissed off I just walked up to the person and told them a freaking huge speech XD in fact it happened this week... So I was like:
"I will personally beat you or you can stop, I don't want to use my karate on you nor am I allowed to but loyalty is stronger and you are weaker since you have to find every single little problem with everyone else just to feel better that you're just a failure currently, man fix up your life study! EDUCATION is what high school is actually for right now when you walk out of this school when that graduation is over you won't know what the hell you're doing since you were so 'cool' in school but university don't care 'bout your popularity, you didn't get invited to freaking birthday party?! (My friend didn't invite her to her party so she started attacking her) You are older than that Jesus, you whine in school and make everyone hate her because she had a personal choice I didn't get invited, why? because she only wants to invite the people who she has a long term friendship with I'm friends with her this year you aren't even friends with her at all! And you had the nerve to say 'go back to Egypt' ? Let me tell you this, you are the most ignorant person I've met, You even told me 'go back to China' now I just laughed because you can't grasp the fact I am Japanese and those are two completely different countries and I'm born and raised in Australia AND the fact you said 'Abo' to my face that word is HIGHLY offensive and you're lucky I didn't beat your ass up there and then but you don't know what HER family has been through, you don't know if they came here for a better life I know Β her family did everything they could to come to this country you dumb ass get it through your head! You call everyone else an idiot but you can't get one 'A' to support your words, I don't think you know how disappointed my dad got when I got a 'C' on that report, man what the hell are you trying to escape? You think calling everyone names gets you somewhere away from your ignorance? Because you made yourself look like a fool right now!"
I spent the whole of lunch saying that... I felt so angry I guess, I got thanked by my friend later on though XD I've said these things so many times that they go speechless after it! AWESOME! I HAZ THE POWER OF WORDZ! XD she tried telling her friends I threatened her but they actually saw the whole thing so they just stopped her talking.... I never got crap from them again!
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I know these feels 
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Good to know you managed to find some peace.
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Okay, that last panel....That made me even more sad....
I was and am a victim of bullying, I just don't have it as bad as others, and I really want to help those people....
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The saddest part is when you want to help but can't for whatever reason...
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Yeah, I hate that...
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It works for some people... But not always. At least you managed to deal with it, that's something.
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yeah but i had been bullied i wouldn't have a backbone like i do now
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i no i was bullied all me life because i have a medical condition which effects me hip and all they said was they get the best rection from me pathtic and me school just said to et over it i was crying my eyes out i was so mad at them me mum told them to stop treating me like crap and sort it out it never got sorted out i had stones thrown at me and they got me hip and it hurt i have trouble sleeping now because 1 me hip and 2 now i'm in college i'm scared someone will start on me
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I hate when people say "ignore them" because that's just one of the stupidest things I've ever heard.
I was always taught to fight back, my dad even taught me how to fight just in case, luckily I've never been bullied.
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That's what I was always told growing up too. And my dad is a retired middle school/high school teacher.
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The sad truth. I hate when I see bullies. BTW, I read the text document that came with the Bone Wings DL.
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I have...actually never been bullied and if someone has tryed to they've fail because I haven't noticed. I'm someone who goes along with whatever people say and sometimes I can twist peoples words around so they mean something compleatly differant without even realising it. Trying to bully me would be pointless because most verbally rude remarks would go in one ear and out the other. Thats why I can't realate to some of the people on here who are bullied. But I do my best to at least be there for them when they need a sholder to cry on or someone to just plain listen. Although I'm rather suprised I haven't been bullied becuase its usually the people who have something 'wrong' or 'differant' about them get bullied....*has dyspraxia*
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At least you've been spared
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Yes, I feel like i'm one of the lucky ones and apparently there arn't many of them. So I try my best to help out which usually isn't much but at least something...
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Good job! Thanks for putting this together!
I take bullying seriously probably because I was bullied almost everyday in school. None of the techniques worked, and people usually didn't stand up for me, even when I called for help. Even worse, people, including staff, blamed the victim.
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This is amazing. I used to always be confused when people showed ne how to deal with bullies. This expresses what I used to feel. Thank you.
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You're welcome
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Before my first bullying in middle school, I was all sweet, nice, and intelligent. But most of all: naive, which they probably took advantage of and not taken seriously. I just transfered to the school, knowing nothing. That, and I was alone for most of the time. Once I found some real friends, it began to gradually stop, but it happened in smaller degrees. My homeroom teacher even began backing me up a little. By the end, it barely ever happened and most of the girls in my class began to ban together against the female bullies, but when two of my closer friends got harrassed was when I finally snapped.
What are the reasons people bully each other? Is there a reason at all? In my opinion, I don't know if they should go through a whole presentation on what to do against bullies. One, it gives them ideas on how to work around the method; 2) They're probably not listening; 3) I dosen't work anyway. It's only funny until it's taken too far. You know the suicides from that? I wonder how they feel, knowing they lead a person to their undeserving death.
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this is true but the bullies i had either kept telling me shit or push me pull on my hair or kick or punch me which then i try to forget that happened people are stupid for telling us to ignore the bullies it just gets worst even my sister bullies me and my parents dont do shit shes older im the youngest the best way is to avoid them if there in your class then your screwed this year i havent gotten any bullies yet but im sure that i will :I my sister left a couple days ago so she wont bully me any longer for the school year only in summer but other than that bulling should be stopped its stupid to even do it some bullies are now my friends i dont know if its a "test" to see if you would pass or not some shit like that but oh well now me and my friends will beat the shet out of them if they bully any of us we promised if someone got in a fight we will be on there side but i dont know i think it would still be bulling eh i no that 3 bullies are in my after school class which sucks =.= but she talks to me like she wants the answers and all :I
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From what I've seen, there seems to be three types of bullies.
One is the type that doesn't know how to deal with people that fight back. These will back down if you stand up to them.
One is the type that does it for amusement. These will get bored if you ignore them.
One is the type that won't quit no matter what. These are the ones that need someone else to step in...but it sucks if no one helps.
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I been through types two and three.
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yea i actually gone threw all 3 before
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All of mine are the third type...and I'm in the situation Iggy's in.
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I hate bullies. I've delt with them all my life in school. The cowards always insist not bullying me solo, but by doing it in groups. I could never turn to my friends, but only to the adults. Why did these yellow-belly cowards bully me? It was because I was the smart, friendly girl. Know the funny thing? there was this stupid group that insisted on bullying me one day when the teacher was gone (there was only a cowardly sub there). A teacher in the next room stepped in, as did the vice principal and the principal. What punishment did they get? Getting held back two grades! Ha!
Sure, turning to adults may be "cowardly", but there are plenty of bullies that will leave you alone when they know you can turn to someone who has more power and control then them. I've had friends who say that they'll back me up, but it's often the other way. Why? I'm not afraid to back up people! If I see someone getting bullied, I jump to the victom's aid, regardless of how how "rash" it may be.
(Sorry for the wall of text. I just hate bullies with every fiber of my being.)
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I had something very similar in middle school. I was intelligent on my own but my father was also one of the teachers at the very school I attended. He was reasonable if you were a good student or had a genuine need (I remember him telling one girl who was going to be sick in class "forget your hall pass, if you need to throw up just go to the bathroom!") but he was also strict when it came to rule violations, repeat offenders, and things that genuinely weren't his fault (like not giving someone extra time for an assignment if they didn't have a valid absence). So the dumber kids and the troublemakers that were on his bad side would always go after me since they couldn't touch him.
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(I had to deal with the bullies. I was told to ignore them, but I couldn't. And even when I told my teachers, that didn't help at all. So I suffered and was alone most of the time because I didn't have many friends. So I had to deal with all the bullying with no help which caused me to have trust issues with new people.)
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Bullying hurts. Maybe the best thing we can do is try to help eachother through the pain.
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Well,I was bullied through out most of Elementary and through all of Middle school and I wasn't able to make friends with anyone until I finally started comforting people who were also being bullied.So basically I just made a bunch of comforting groups and every time something bad was happening in our lives we would all talk to each other and support each other and give suggestions on what to do.Basically like group therapy.
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The best way to deal with bullies, is not being intimidating, not being unresponsive, but either being so funny that the laughter you bring them will make them warm up to you, or so creepy that it completely turns them away. However, being "creepy" might earn you a label as a "freak", which might make the bullying worse. Sooo, it's a bit of a gamble.
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