leyalimeyt [2018-11-23 06:25:54 +0000 UTC]

i realize that when i read these comments, your not alone... other ppl feel the same way... and some of these ppl have gotten through it and will give you advise. im weird too and the ppl in the comments are as well. and ya know what !!! i am weird and proud!!! and you will fit in with the ppl just like you, the people that aren't like the rest, people that feel and think the same. we all fit in somewhere and if you still feel this way, then you haven't found where you fit in yet... you will find it someday ... trust me
we are all just a little weird( just like meh drawing... its a lil weird lookin)

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CrystalEnceladus [2017-07-24 19:57:49 +0000 UTC]

    I feel ya.

Worse than not fitting in (I have my mother's grating personality, which fortunately drives away most people but in turn I get really good friends; I made my very first friend at 14 going on 15, and we're still friends donkey decades later ) is being mediocre at everything.  For example, I'd just had a novel I'd worked on for donkey years ripped apart by an excellent beta. I am grateful I never sent it off to agents.

If you need guidance and feedback on your novel, check out absolutewrite.com. 

You're great at guiding people and your art is pretty good and getting better, especially in the last year. I don't follow sparkly people with sparkly art.

I do hope you've a goodly bunch of friends, and I don't mean online. 

Anyway,     

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Byassu [2017-05-16 06:27:53 +0000 UTC]

oh... How well i know this feeling, of not fitting anywhere >_>
but there`s the secret... once you stop thinking about not fitting, and keep on doing what you love most, eventually you fit somewhere.
being where I am now, I realize that i spent more time worrying instead of creating stories and drawing them... and now when time is short I really regret not drawing my stories first and worrying later.

anyway... when you have some free time? i`d love to catch up!

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kaipur [2017-05-08 06:35:45 +0000 UTC]

Own it. My weirdness isolates me and makes people despise me. I don't care. I enjoy what I do. I'm perfectly fine being on my little ole loneseome. Well, I have my wife and my son and they seem well enough with me. If people like my work, then awesome. If not, eh. The point is, we're all struggling to belong somewhere. And that sentiment shouldn't be construed as dismissal. In fact, it should stand as a stark reminder that you're not alone. We're all just a buncha weirdos trying to get by day to day hopin' we don't screw it up too much. That you have the life you have and the fans you do, that should demonstrate how well you're doing. You don't have to fit in. You just have to find your niche' and be adept at what you do. Friends and family will follow. You belong in this community. And you can see others feel they belong with you. But yeah sometimes you can feel it. Like you're isolated. Like an outcast. Like no matter what you do THEY don't care. Rembrandt, Picasso, Michelangelo, Van Gogh...they all felt it. You're an artist. Let em all feel your angst and if they don't like it, fuck em. Because you're one of us.

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Hina-Monoko [2017-05-07 10:05:17 +0000 UTC]

I completely understand how you feel because I go through it even now and then. But, this also inspires me. YOU inspire me. The fact that you just don't go with the flow and do what you like, draw what you like and feel, not what people seek or what will make you fit in. Even it is hard, I think you should just be YOU and stay amazing as you are always are You are not alone!

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Emperor-of-Mankind [2017-04-27 08:14:38 +0000 UTC]

Yes, many artists as us feel like that. The real point is that, we are growing inside, creating a soul filled of richness and creativity which can be a surprise and the joy for the "outsiders". We can do what others cannot achieve. We are unique. Try meeting new people everyday: for sure, that is going to make you find there are others like us.

By the way, thanks a lot for the Llama you gave me last time! 

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DarkChaos85 [2017-04-22 16:46:59 +0000 UTC]

I too have problems fitting in. It's relatively hard for me because I suffer from both severe anxiety and severe depression. I try to use my illness as inspiration but channeling it sometimes is difficult.  Its hard for others to connect to art. It's psychologically stimulating to me. I've found myself connecting to most forms of art even if it is a subtle connection.

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Tsasu [2017-04-19 22:48:36 +0000 UTC]

wow , i feel like we met before and not in the way of 'oh hey , we talked a bit on your last post' but as in this sounded way to familiar or perhaps i felt that way at some point ..meh love your stuff tho 

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RattyRandy [2017-04-10 21:48:55 +0000 UTC]

I (think) can understand how you feel and as I was growing up felt somewhat similar.  I am not going to say "It gets easier over time" as I am now far from being a teenager, however ...  In my experiences we all seem to gravitate to familiarity, conformity, so we do feel close and have a sense of belonging.  It can be lonely being different.  Now that I am older it is the things that are different that I truly appreciate.  Finding that almost out of reach restaurant, that odd movie nobody claims to have watched, old books, different music, so many unique things to see and do and I find myself searching them out now where I tried to avoid them when I was younger.  Life is a transition and you my friend are on a Journey like so many others.  You are not alone.  Every day appreciate yourself and what YOU find fulfilling as that is what is most important.  I'm still weird but I'm okay with it now and I hope that one day you find it a blessing and not a curse.

Take care.

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Princess-Eevee9 [2017-04-08 19:37:54 +0000 UTC]

It'll probably be the same old tale, underappreciated Art until you croak then all of a sudden people flock to your creations with all the interest, it's so weird for unconventional Artists. I hope you find the recognition before that happens though, accepting your weirdness and knowing you don't care is great but yeah it would mean that you could fit in by changing yourself to what people like you even more just so you don't feel lonely would be gratifying but not good for you self-esteem. Guess what I'm trying to say is, it's always tempting to conform for the sake of approval from others but at what cost is it worth?

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bmbjr59 [2017-04-06 16:16:24 +0000 UTC]

be differnt,be yourself why be like everybody else after all you are who you are & you will be happier that way ,for years i was called weird or a nerd,because of all the stuff i do & like,but as i got older ,i dinnt care & i am happier now with it

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RussianSakabato9 [2017-04-04 03:14:04 +0000 UTC]

I know how you feel...Growing up, I never felt like I fit in. I still don't feel like I fit in. But we do belong. And your uniqueness, your variance from the norm, is what makes you you. It makes your art unique, and you shouldn't hold back just to fit in. Art is an outlet to unleash all your emotions from joy to darkness, and to be creative. It is something that can not be taken from inside you-it is your essence, your soul.

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Chaos-Within-Silence [2017-03-29 00:11:46 +0000 UTC]

I can sympathize with you regarding feeling disconnected from others and how it often feels like you must choose between what you wish to/love to do and what will connect you to others... We are different in that through the years I have built up a collection of social masks to help me fit in even among those I consider close friends(although I have learned to take them off and retire a few for good), and I can tell you it is extremely exhausting, unfulfilling, and only deepens the sense of longing, loneliness, and disconnection. Even with those masks, though, I am still considered quite strange and don't exactly fit anywhere either.

Life can be easier if you fit in, but, please, do not feel the need to change the direction you are taking with your art or stories if you feel the connection to them, even if the vast majority of others do not. Sacrificing what you love or a part of yourself(and your art is a part of you), I believe, is not worth gaining the approval of others; Having that connection to or passion for what you do is more important - at least, that is what I have thought. Besides... The things that you bring to the table here are refreshingly different, and you have no doubt seen for yourself that others have enjoyed it. It's not all bright and adorable all the time, but it is beautiful in its own way and has drawn all of us in nonetheless. And I, for one, can't wait to see what else you make of these characters and their stories.

I hope I am not out of line saying some of these things. I know this will not completely alleviate any of those feelings you may have/are experiencing(especially coming from a complete stranger) but I hope it helps to know that you and your art style, stories, and creativity is appreciated and enjoyed.

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ShiryuO [2017-03-27 14:17:38 +0000 UTC]

I think I can relate to everything but the mask part. You're right, the pretend-game becomes tiring on the long tun, so it's good you didn't do it.
Anyway, the good part of creating a rather unique art is that the ones who like it, like it for what it is, and not for the trend. Many times I find myself looking at the art of different artists and not being actually able to distinguish or feel connected to it.

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Blue-Rose98 [2017-03-24 03:07:46 +0000 UTC]

I understand. I just recently started drawing actual pictures. I was doing almost exclusively doodles of characters (for D&D) before. I wanted something memorable and nice and challenging. But I also want something I'll love. I walk a tightrope there, so I just start being honest. People today are starving for honesty. So, when I feel depressed, I express it in my art. When I feel suicidal or hated, I draw it out. When I feel ponderous, I draw what I'm thinking. Many times there is just some idea I have and I wing it. I was reading about the Civil War and felt sorry for the confederates who suffered so much, so I drew that out by drawing a picture of a little southern girl clinging to an old-fashioned soldier toy. She looked scared. I liked it. It expressed my feelings rather well. When I was struggling with some relationships and stuff in life (I had been listening to "Trouble" by Coldplay), I drew a girl all wrapped up in web, stuck in the middle of the web, and I mad the web lines spell out words like "Hate", "Bitterness", "I Hate You", "Pride", etc. I got the idea from the song. I'm not done with the picture yet, but I like it. It again helps me vent my emotions. And when I felt like I was literally suffocating on stress, pain, etc. I drew a picture of a girl beinbg suffocated by plastic wrap. Hey. It's how I felt. Some might say my art in these pics is "dark" (though I would disagree and so would many, I believe), it's just...honest. And I'm not ashamed of that....

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LabSister [2017-03-23 21:59:28 +0000 UTC]

I feel you with this whole thing
I've gone through my whole life being labeled as an outcast, being rejected by almost every group I've tried to become part of, just because of the person I am. The sporty girl who's a mega nerd and likes books more than she likes boys. But, there's nothing wrong with being yourself. Today's world is harsh and judgmental and biased, sure, but it’s the people who are strong enough to stay themselves through all of this that shine like bright stars, y'know? So many people pretend to be someone that they aren’t that it makes life boring to live sometimes. It makes me want to reach out and peel off their masks just to see who's hiding underneath. It's the moment when that one weird geeky person who isn’t conventional approaches you and touches your life, even for just a fleeting moment, that you get reminded how everyone has their own place and their own purpose.
You're not alone in this  

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StrayQrow [2017-03-22 19:57:51 +0000 UTC]

I understand - sometimes it feel s like having to choose between one or other until you have a some people who decide to follow regardless of what you make - and sometimes that's a good way to introduce them to new things

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UsagiYogurt [2017-03-22 16:22:25 +0000 UTC]

Well, I think it's great that you draw what you want to and not stuff to make you popular. You have your very own spin on things and that's what makes it interesting. 

There are plenty of times when I think that maybe I should be more like other people so that I'll fit in better and maybe they'd like me more and I might get more attention... But then, really, I don't think we'd be quite as fun or interesting. No one wants to hang out with someone who is exactly like themselves. It might sound like a great idea at first, but it would be very boring and annoying fast. 

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Misaki-onee-san [2017-03-22 13:54:41 +0000 UTC]

maybe it is cause the art you make is very unique and no one else makes the same art as you?

If i could draw really good i would be really happy cause latelty i feel that i such quit drawing
but i think i am going to leave now i don,t want to bother you with my negative feels   

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PhantomDragon1 [2017-03-22 03:24:40 +0000 UTC]

This has been me my whole life. You really have to find the right crowd. Cause when you find it, it's gonna be a suprise. Like mine is i hang out with all of the boys not the girls as much. The boys just get me better and we joke around and play football and knock out and tell jokes and fun crap. But they're just my crowd for now. They're not perfect, but no one is. I (just like you..?) Maybe haven't found the right crowd yet. Just cause I hang out with the, doesn't mean they're my kind of people. I understand soooo much. I'm often put in some category because I'm a girl and stuff like that. So you really feel alone sometimes. Much understands. 

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UnbridledMuse [2017-03-20 22:57:37 +0000 UTC]

I know how you feel.   The cycle I find myself in is: do I change to fit it and if I did and there was more of a connection, would I actually feel any better or would it feel just as fake as wearing the mask?

I think the cute and sparkly art can get very tiresome very quickly.

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chibidragonfire [2017-03-20 18:26:58 +0000 UTC]

I've always been weird too, and I had a hard time fitting in.You just have to find the right people, and get to know people better. Weird people always have a way of finding other weird people to be friends with.My advice is just to do things you like because other people who like the same things will end up in the same places. just try talking to more people, because I was so nervous to talk to someone but when I did i found out we had a lot in common.

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Jeda-Teq [2017-03-20 14:30:42 +0000 UTC]

I don't feel like there's much I can say that hasn't been already said, but from my experience you don't have to connect with anybody with your "weirdness"(That's such an opinionated word). If you just continue to express it, like you do, then people will gravitate to it and be curious about it, Like they have.

Even people who you feel like you don't connect with. In fact a lot of people who you feel do fit in probably feel the same way you do about fitting in and may be holding back their own "weirdness"and are looking for someone like you so they can actually express it.

Remember these things:
1. The most interesting people are the people who don't fit in. PPL are drawn to the unique. That's why individuality is so important.

2. They say to be successful look at what everybody else is doing and do something completely different.
 

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Erimill [2017-03-20 14:13:29 +0000 UTC]

I feel like there should be some weird proverb to explain this situation... Let's see...

While uniformity may bring you comfort, it will also bring you monotony. Running with the herd may be the easier and safer path, those who chose a separate path are the ones who stand out.

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Shiroichi-chan [2017-03-20 12:12:27 +0000 UTC]

Don´t feel like that, the art that you make is amazing and when I see how much better you got over the years I feel so much inspired! And to me thats more important as only drawing just beautifull glittery lovely stuff, if you get what I mean.
Every art can be different. Not every art has to be cute and beautifull, even if your art is beautifull in its own way

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Siestalan [2017-03-20 11:14:46 +0000 UTC]

Same here.
I've noticed the trend for a while as well, but I'm consciously deciding to keep doing my thing and drawing what I love instead of following the masses. Sadly it doesn't bring me friends, connections or success on social media, but the best thing to do is to stick to what you like and be true to yourself rather than pretending to be someone else or do something that you don't enjoy.

Likeminded people will come and find you as time passes, it might take longer if you know and feel like you're not the norm but there's always the other side of the coin :'>

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HowlingArc [2017-03-20 08:29:13 +0000 UTC]

FUCKIGN SAME
I dont like having to choose to produce art people like or something I like. I put masks on just to talk to people and it drains me. I watch everyone smile and laugh in arms of their friends and it makes me feel all the lonelier. I wish I had things like that, but then I realized I actually dont like things like that. I like my dark room, dark art, bad taste in music, and the time I spend talking to myself. I mean Its weird, but Im never disappointed when Its myself Im talking to.

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Fayrea [2017-03-19 15:16:02 +0000 UTC]

The struggle is real.. but believe me or not, there are many people in exactly the same situation. Especially when it comes to creative people or artists in general.  I go even as far as to say.. It's really a minority of people who feel really connected with others and to some extent all of us felt that way at least once in their lifes and/or are still struggle with that.
I am myself living through that since I'm 17. Most of my connections/friendships were rather superficial and often turned onsided, especially in real life and tend to be breaking apart pretty easily after a short while. I don't know if it's because I am weird or anything.. I wouldn't even say that I am... neither are you (at least in my opinion) But.. We are all just very.. different and in the most cases the 'normal people' don't even try to understand that. So it's kinda hard sometimes to find someone who is.. 'friendship material' (lol)
That's probably all. :/
But I know, that there are people who do feel connected to you and can relate to the way you think. ♥ Don't shove us off by saying 'I'm too weird for you anyways'. You can stay the way you are, we love you nevertheless xP

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notecardPasta [2017-03-19 14:51:14 +0000 UTC]

The thing is, I've found that oftentimes you can connect with people even if your art/interests are completely different. You don't need to fit in more or anything to find people that you enjoy talking to as long as you really reach out and look. I've met a lot of friends just rambling to nobody about my headworld, and it's kind of suprising how many people are interested in worldbuilding and stories too.

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oshRED [2017-03-19 10:00:05 +0000 UTC]

Your loneliness is unique to you, but I think anyone who's a little bit different has gotten a taste of this. I think what I'm curious about is what you're actually looking for. It's hard to imagine a way of looking at another person and seeing if they really, truly understand you--I don't imagine one can look at another person's cuter, sparklier work and see if the people commenting on it actually are connecting to that artist either. Isn't it all "I LOVE IT SO CUTE" anyway? What are the rubrics for "real connection"? Would you be satisfied if one or two people out of hundreds left you a detailed, thoughtful comment about the world you're creating even if all the rest just said "this is cool"? What are you looking for Mikaz?

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Emmaderpypaws [2017-03-19 03:40:37 +0000 UTC]

I can relate to this. All my life I have been called weird and other not so pleasant names... I have always hated not fitting in anywhere. It seems as if I have always had people who hate me. I always say the wrong thing and end a friendship. I loose people quickly.

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