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i can imagine the pain, i wish you a great future to compensate your suffering
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It's not your fault. And you'll be okay. I know it.
Best of luck.
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I understand how you feel, and i hope that you will have a way to make things right in the future, by either surgery or just acceptance (it's your choice).
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Don't worry, it'll surely turn out okay. There are operations, and nowadays the results are amazing and barely flawless (depending maybe on where you live in. Here trans operations are hard to get, hard to find, hard to pay and hard to be pleased with results. Hopefully you live in a better place than I do. ^^)
In the meanwhile, just do whatever you can to feel less dislodged. New clothes and a haircut might not change what you are nor how wrong it feels, but you'll see that it's better than nothing.
I'm so sorry I can't be of more help, ST =/
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I'm sorry if I sound like a mean person, and I'm prepared for the snarky comments, but honestly, ST dear, you WERE born right. You are YOU. You can waste money on an operation or you can simply embrace the person that you are. If you want to enjoy girl things, nothing's stopping you. But being 'trapped' in your own body? Come on! Love yourself a little more!
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If I were the ST, I would be slightly offended by that. I can tell you mean well, though.
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I don't know why it would offend them. I didn't say anything offensive at all.
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I've felt like the ST before, and if someone had told me "you WERE born right" I would've felt hurt, because I wasn't (born right). I would've also been hurt when you called the operation a waste of money(which the ST did not mention whether or not he wanted). Many often get the surgeries for their own well being and ease of mind, trying to become more like what they feel they should be (think of it as making the outside match the inside). Some people don't want to continue living in a container that is so unfitting to them. If he wants the surgeries, let him be. If he does not want surgeries, let him be.
trapped-Prevent (someone) from escaping from a place.
He is trapped in a female body. He can't escape it, and it hurts. I know it hurts. You tell him that he "isn't" trapped and should love himself more. How does one go about loving a vessel they do not feel any attachment to?
That is just a little bit of why I, personally, would be offended by your comment. I'm sorry if I come across as rude, because I am really not trying to be.
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I agree with Masfemneunouns.
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I understand your reasoning, but with all due respect, I'm still going to disagree. Agreeing that someone's been born "wrong" isn't going to make the situation any better; supporting someone in their pursuit to become the best "me" they can be is the option that would benefit them, which implies self-acceptance. Also, in our culture today, it's frowned upon to have an eating disorder, even though that's someone obviously directing dislike toward their body. People look down on people who get plastic surgery because they're "fake". That's all hatred toward the vessel that they're in. Of course I don't endorse eating disorders, and plastic surgery unless it's needed for a medical reason, but I think that someone's never going to be happy unless they learn to accept the circumstances that they've been given. It takes a great deal of courage but in the end it pays off. And I encourage the ST to look at the bright side, because most people don't have the money for a surgery, and if the ST doesn't, they'll have to believe in themselves as they are now. And ST, I believe in you. I believe you can be a strong and powerful individual just the way you are.
I'm not going to change my opinion, and I'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings. Rather the opposite actually.
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I like you. You're nice. ST, take what this person says into consideration. She makes some good points.
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Thank you.
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...so i'm guessing you don't know a lot about transgender stuff do you?
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This is just my opinion. I think people shouldn't change themselves. There are a lot of things I would like to change about myself, but I can't because that's just the way I am, and so I have to grow to accept it and become a stronger person through that. I'm not asking you to agree with me, just respect my opinion.
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Well there's kind a difference between "oh I don't like my hair/complexion/weight" and "I am male but have a female body and no one can understand that/accept it." It's a struggle and it's harder than surface issues. The ST probably can't easily "embrace themselves." Just sayin'.
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Yes, I agree it's not easy embracing yourself. But we all have to do it at some point. Sure, we can be uncomfortable in our own skin, everyone is. But literally undergoing surgery to change the way you were naturally born...it's just going against everything I've ever believed. So someone's a male and has a female body, that's what makes them UNIQUE. It's part of them. And I hope to goodness that the ST can embrace who they are NOW.
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Agreed!
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I heard somewhere that the easiest place to get a sex change is India... but the expenses saved on the surgery go towards the plane ride there :/ (from america anyway..)
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Really? I'd heard Thailand from my counselor... I'll need to remember to look it up when I'm not on a public computer...
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Ahh well better from a human than google i guess 
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How many results did you check?
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eehhh it was more yahoo answers results 
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I agree with this, I even have two accounts because sometimes I can't stand been noticed as a girl - I feel wrong, and distracted.
My mom thinks I'm going with the whole 'butch lesbian' theme but I'm not...
Madison Ramskill in body.
Scott Eren Ramskill in mind, heart and soul.
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I love you for saying this. Just sayin'. xD
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;D I love you for actually reading it
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As soon as you are old enough, start living as a man. There are so many resources out there to help trans-gender people that you should have no trouble doing what you need to do.
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I'm sorry about your situation ST
I don't know what you're experiencing but I hope you find the answer to your problem as quickly as possible
Good luck
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I'm sorry, ST =\ But at least now is the time for people to break out of their skins and become their true selves. It's time to force the world to learn to live with things that aren't traditional, to learn to understand. It'll be a painful journey, but know that there are people out there that DO accept you for who you are, and there always will be. <3
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*hugs* I've been there, bro. Just hang in there, maybe someday you will be alright.
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oh ST you are not alone. i feel the same only not the Trans-gender part. i kind of wish i had been born right too.
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Do what you can to make yourself comfortable. Get to the place you need to. Put some money back for an operation, bind your chest, find a name that you feel fits you, whatever you feel. Just keep safe and be happy.
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I understand, but it really does help not to think about it.
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It's pretty hard not to think about it.
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Then you aren't trying.
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I'm trying damn much.
I agree with you that things'll be easier if you don't think of them all the time, but it's still hard to ignore your body.
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I don't see how, but alright.
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One of my greatest friends is a man in a woman's body. He can't afford any operations and has to make due with binding his chest and all that, and hiding it from family online and off. I can't imagine how confusing it is to be referred to by your birth name and gender with some folks, and another name and gender with others and then tell them they have to refer to you as female on Facebook so your family doesn't get suspicious. But no matter what, the people in your life that are worth it will support you even if they can't understand your pain.
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