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Beastlygrrl [2012-04-15 18:33:19 +0000 UTC]
Sometimes, it is good to risk it. If this person rejects you but cannot accept your feelings, then they are not a friend to be had.
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KalineReine [2012-03-15 22:07:38 +0000 UTC]
Awwww <3
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Tada-no-Yume [2012-02-26 15:22:58 +0000 UTC]
Tell them.
If they don't return your feelings, your friendship will still go back to normal
Best of luck ST!
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Omega23 [2012-02-25 19:51:05 +0000 UTC]
I used to think the same thing too, back when I was "just friends" with my best friend. Now we've been together almost a year and we're still going strong. I know it can be scary taking a chance on something like that, risking the loss of something you already love for something that might not even happen, but know this: sometimes the other person is thinking the exact same thoughts, and by not saying anything you could be denying both of you a wonderful opportunity for a happy relationship. Just something to keep in mind.
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AllThemAreTaken [2012-02-24 00:12:04 +0000 UTC]
For Gods sake, please do it. My best friend confessed she liked me about a year ago, and only then I had the courage to make clear I'd been in love with her ever since I knew her.
You should so just tell them. If they're a good friend they will deal with it, and maybe more will happen (:
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adrwolfie [2012-02-23 16:50:54 +0000 UTC]
My own advice would be, if you're a teen, to wait until after high school. High school can put such a strain on relationships. Unless you've really been best friends for...basically forever. Otherwise, just let them know! Most people who really care about you won't be offended that you have strong feelings.
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ThousandCookie [2012-02-23 13:59:24 +0000 UTC]
What *RemiroQuai said. My boyfriend (while trying to hook me up with someone else) admitted that he would've asked me out long before, even though he knew my main interest was in the other person and I at least wanted to find out where I and the other person stood before getting with anyone else, and so had no idea whether I had any feelings for him, no matter how small. We'd had a policy of being completely open about ourselves and our pasts and being non-judgemental of the other person beforehand, so it wasn't something that weighed on my mind. Around a month later, nature took its course and we wound up together.
Not using this as a soapbox to talk about myself, just as an example - do you have openness with each other? Do neither of you judge the other? Do you always actively try to understand each other when you don't? That way, you know you won't ruin it just by talking about it.
If it's breaking up in the future you're worried about, then give it time. If you know there are some massive life changes coming up that will last for extended periods of time (I'm talking university for 3+ years, moving far away etc) then it may not be the most wise thing unless you have a few years to go before that. Otherwise, keep your cool. Constantly worrying about breaking up - or things that could lead to a break-up - is an aggravating factor in itself. You create problems that aren't there or intensify ones that are small or won't come around for a long time. Your partner will pick up on this and become worried themselves. You might have an adverse attitude change, and so on. Just a few pointers,
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RemiroQuai [2012-02-23 11:18:11 +0000 UTC]
If you feel like your friendship is that awesome and you can talk about anything... then also talk about this. Just tell your friend that you might have developed some romantic feelings and that you wonder whether those feelings can be returned.
If not, ask your friends help with just keeping the friendship. It really is not that hard and could well be worth it.
Good luck to you!
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