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depends what kind of rude in my opinion and even if its bad, for some people thats the only way they know how to show they like you as a friend or crush so i see this secret as perfectly fine im neutral towards it
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Am I the only one who doesnt see this as ok? Why would you wanna be friends with someone who is rude to you? And it means you like someone? I think you got things mixed up.
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Isn't that how friendship works? I call my best friend a cunt all the time, and she calls me a whore. 
I get the feeling you'd fit right in with my friends.
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You know, honestly, I am the nicest person with all my friends. But with my best friend, well, we are both very argumentative and disagreeing with each other. But in the end, we kind of feel better and know that we will always be friends. XD But there is nobody else I act like that with
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Sounds familiar... *looks in mirror*... Oh so that's why.
I do this to all my friends. If you can withstand me being slightly insane then I know we'll get along quite nicely.
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-facedesk-
this is me, (well was me)
so to fix it... i guess i just started not talking to anyone that wasnt my friend "XD
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This is sadly a way of mine too... It's not a good way.
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I don't think so...
Being honest or even blunt means you care about someone enough to tell them something difficult which needs to be said.
Being rude means you're just disrespectful and uncaring and you're going to hurt people this way.
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be mean to the people you like and be nice to the people you dont like??? wtf...
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... A FRIEND IS ONE WHO STICKS UP FOR YOU, NOT ONE WHO IS RUDE TO YOU. ALL DA SECRET IS, IS A BUNCH NEEDLESS WHINING FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE OVERLY- EMOTIONAL, JUST BE GLAD YOU HAVE FOOD IN YOUR MOUTH, A ROOF ABOVE YOUR HEAD AND A SHIRT ON YOUR BACK.COMPLANING IS NOT ART. DA SECRET, IF YOU DISABLE MY COMMENT, IT MEANS THAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF CRITISISM AND VIOLATEDMY RIGHT TO FREE SPEACH.
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You sound... very very new. Welcome to dA, you just described it.
No really, look up RealitySquared on everywhere but dA, that's even staff.
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i think that's pretty normal. i see where he/she's coming from. i don't think they mean that they are downright mean to you, just joking around is all.
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I say, this way of thinking reminds me of bullies.
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Hm, from what I understand you have a problem expressing your feeling freely
that's why you are being rude,that's your way to show affection.
but you have to understand that some people are sensitive that you could lose them because of that.
Just show them between time and other that you care!
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Well if so try to make sure you tell your friends that you care about them every now and then so they don't feel bad.
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Tsundere actually exists in real life after all?
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My dreams have come true! Lol
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Exactly, My friends and I are so damn rude to each other. Yet it is all out of love, and friendship for one and other. none of us would be rude to someone who isn't a friend.
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I'm going to screenshot all this and next time someone doesn't understand why I'm being rude.. *points at screenshots*
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Me and my friends do all the time sure we throw insults n' such but we all know we don't actually mean it even if we do get carried away I don't see why everyone's complaining about this one
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I have to realize this sort of behavior from my adopted brother, but his sarcasms can get a bit tiring after a while... least he realizes that, too... I think. Odd we tend to razz on at our best friends, huh?
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I think it's good to have a level where you can joke around with your friends, bring up touchy subjects, or even occasionally straight be a dick to them. On the other hand, many people take this way too far. I myself do this, but know when to stop, and know when my friends need to be complimented and boosted up. I would not keep you as a friend if you were only rude to me, and never complimented me.
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I'm honestly not sure why this is a secret. These friends of yours...do they know you consider them a friend? Those who are rude to me are the LAST people I'd consider a friend, personally. And that's coming from someone who loves sarcasm and whose friends find her sarcasm relatively entertaining.
I get that everyone has their own way of doing things, but treating people you like as if you didn't is...rather juvenile. As if there's something wrong about being nice.
As some others have said, there's a difference between insulting a friend who KNOWS you're joking, and just being flat-out rude. Without knowing you, ST, I can't say for sure which category you fall under. But for everyone's sake, I hope it's the former.
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I've done this kind of thing before...a long, long time ago. I even wrote that when I said "I hate everything about you and I never want to see you again", I meant "...please don't leave me, I'm vulnerable, I've tried to say I was sorry, but you walked away..."
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Irreverence is not rudeness. Telling someone jokingly to fuck off is very different from saying go fuck yourself and die and meaning every word of it. Or breaking their ankle in one instance.
This secret was probably written by someone who still fails to grasp either the English vocabulary or a good understanding of how society works. I sincerely hope it's the former.
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Seeing all of these comments I can clearly see that most people don't know the difference between rude and joking around/being sarcastic/being honest.
Being rude is punching someone or hurting someone and not saying sorry. Or saying things so bluntly they hurt others.
Being rude is NOT cursing/using insults/sarcasm around your friends; those are NOT ill-willed and NOT said to hurt your friends ON PURPOSE. Those are ways of joking around!
Rude usually involves someone getting mentally or physically hurt on purpose or without an apology.
You cannot make me believe in any kind of way that hurting others on purpose or without an apology can make long lasting relationships.
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Thank you. This needs to be said. Irreverence is not rudeness, particularly when there is a mutual understanding between both parties.
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Sometimes I want to throw dictionaries at teenagers...
And English isn't even my native language :T
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i totally get this and it makes complete sense to me!
i told my bf and his friend something similar and they didn't get it either. oh well.
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I dislike how everyone else is taking this.
If someone is rude just because they like you, that could be because they don't know how else to show their affection.
I've had a person love me, but he was a total asshole alot of times. Turns out he's had a hard life, not to mention a recent skull injury. He's a very nice person now and a good friend.
Point is, you just need to teach these people the right way to show affection, because at times it's not their fault.
It's also a thing boys tend to do. They're rude to girls they actually like. That one I don't understand, even if they're having a good life, I just don't understand how that one works.
Love your enemy. They just might love you back, but don't know how to say it.
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Your anecdote is just an extreme case and it STILL doesn't excuse this type of behavior. Having a behavioral problem is not fixed by telling other people to "understand" your made up reasons for your shitty attitude. The only way you can improve as a human being is owning up to your flaws and making an effort to change. Don't be an enabler.
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Alright, I had to rewrite this so I didn't sound like an asshole. xD
It does not excuse this kind of behavior, I agree. But, I prefer to give people one last chance BY trying to understand them. If it turns out they lied, then the gloves are off.
I probably should have added that to make myself not sound like an enabler. ^^
Anyways, people do have these reasons, but even if they do, that does not stop me from kicking or blocking/ignoring them mentally as a response. It takes me quite a bit to forgive someone, but I'm not the kind of person that holds a grudge very well. But I at least try to understand why they're doing this a little to uproot the situation, otherwise I'm just being a jerk too. Again, that does not stop me from kicking and/or blocking/ignoring with my own free will.
But yes, I do try to teach people to work on their own flaws, while trying to remember my own flaws and work on those. The beauty of a human being is that there is always room for improvement, but only if you actually choose to learn from your mistakes. A confession like this can open the gateway for that, or it's a chance to become even more hated. I prefer to expect the best, and if I'm painfully disappointed, that means the nice guy gloves are off.
Sorry for my fragmented...ness...I'm tired and forget to think about what other people think in the morning. 
OOOH, and could you tell me what anecdote means? I'm sorry. xD I just remembered that I know nothing of that word, and should probably learn about it before it bites me in the butt later.
Sorry.
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This idiot replied to my post too. Thankyou for commenting back. This idiot believes everybody has a 'shitty attitude' apparently. What a way to live. Also who the hell has a cheeseburger as an icon. This person simply shouldn't be on an art site. He doesn't even have one favourite after a year of membership. The guy is just here to argue.
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I never looked at it that way.
But he slightly had a point, I only agreed with how I understood what he said.
He probably shouldn't be an asshole himself though if he's talking about not being an asshole.
Ironic.
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well, remind me to be a complete asshole to you when you're being nice then.
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Sorry, but if you're gonna be some rude and disrespectful asshole to me, then don't expect me to be your friend or show you any respect!
I prefer people who show that they like others by being kind and honest about their feelings.
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Sometimes being honest requires a little rudeness. Because even when you like someone there are moments when you just have to say something negative. Being all positive, kind and sweet all the time is not what being honest is about.
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Rude is rude, it just means you're an ass. THE FACT THAT YOU'RE ADMITTING THIS MEANS THAT YOU ARE AWARE OF IT. SO STOP BEING AN IMMATURE ASS. Jesus Christ... like anyone wants to be treated like shit because you're buddies.
So how do you treat people you don't like, smile and ask how they're doing? Grow the fuck up.
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