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It may seem kind of stupid, but I don't understand people who commit suicide.
The idea of killing yourself is weak to me, but I can sound like a drill sergeant sometimes so... ._.
I've got a army dad~ haha.
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Thank you for saying this I have to go through my friend saying this all her life and she has everything and still complains so I always want to say this but I don't have the courage to.
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YES ST YES.
that really needed to be said.
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"If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back."
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nice point thank you st that helped me a little bit
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I wholeheartedly agree with you ST. Not only are they blind to those who do, but they probably don't give other people the chance to understand either.
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One of my friends, when I have a problem, always compares them to hers. Like her problems are worse than mine - her problems have been bad, but it didn't make problems any less important to me :/ she was quite rich, until her parents said that she has to pay for her own petrol (they bought her the car!) God forbid, right? 
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I only partially agree.
I know people who can relate to what I
have to go through, but not entirely
understand, which I hope they'll never
have to do.
And yes, there are people who have it
worse than us.
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let me jut say: just because someone else is worse off than you, it doesn't mean they own the feeling; you're allowed to have it too.
but i really like the way this is worded.
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I think there is a lot of truth in this secret, and people can interpret it the way they want to.. but I'd like to live for the people who didn't have a chance to go on but would have wanted to.
As a secret teller, I sometimes think no one will really get what I mean but then there's often lots of people who agree.. So I don't believe that no one in the world wouldn't understand.
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You know what I know, ST? People always fail to see the bigger picture. They see and hear the words, but not the words and feelings behind the words.
People see things quite literally, and are more often than not too blind and stupid to see any further than what's put directly into their faces. Try to guess how many people will read this, and feel offended. Claim that I am ignorant and not all-knowing. That I should shove it and pound sand. Oh, yes, people, I very much know you will, and I very much expect you to.
To me, "nobody understands" means two things. There are two types of understanding. Understanding the shallow, and understanding the deep. If somebody says to me "Nobody understands", I automatically assume that this person means, "Nobody knows to me to my core. Nobody understands me inside out. Nobody could ever be inside my head." The other type of understanding, would be if somebody said they wanted something and asked if you understood why. "Nobody understands why I want this." When people want to be understood, they want people to understand with EMPATHY.
Acceptance is very important to people, and there are people who want to be deeply understood above anything else.
ST, next time you hear somebody say "Nobody understands", you should consider that.
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This is a little bit ignorant to other people's pain, ST. Not to say you are wrong in that someone else always understands, but that telling people to think of others in more pain, because frankly how often do YOU do that when you're miserable? Nobody wants to. Sure, there's a kid in Africa starving somewhere, but the world has gotten so used to it to be indifferent. It has nothing to do with us. So people just... well, ignore it. Not saying it's right, but it's true.
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Some people who are depressed or have low self-esteem don't understand that there are people who do, or at least want to.
If it depresses someone that no one understands them, I don't understand why they don't reach out and try to explain their feelings. Often, they have no idea how, maybe they don't know how to express themselves properly.
It could be a whole mess of psychological issues, bad habits, or even -slight- selfishness. They want help, maybe NEED help, but if all they do is whine about it... it can be hard to sympathize.
I understand this secret--and I'm NOT just saying that!! XD I wish a few of my close friends did......
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If there's a chain of people that have it worse off than you, there has to be an end. So someone out there can really say no one understands?
You know. Just the thoughts of a jumbled mind.
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Goodness, what a mixture of optimistic ... morbidity o.O.. No, not really but still. That last part is rather depressing, if true.
*sigh* smacking people does sometimes clear their vision - but not one hundred percent of the time <3..
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That doesn't mean that the people that matter understand.
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Unfortunately, depression causes egotism and makes people think their problems are worse than everyone else's. It's the nature of the disease.
I know from experience. When I was in a psychatric unit, a girl who had been through much worse than me and was on her way to recovery told me that things do get better. I wrote her off as self-rightous because in my depressive state, I didn't understand. Three years later, things have gotten better. She was right all along.
I just wish I could thank her.
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This, this a thousand times. What's worse is that the only people I've met who had it bad enough where, yea, they're freakin allowed to say stuff like that are so strong and never mention it. It's the melodramatic, heads-up-their-asses teens who use phrases like that all. the. time.
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"I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I won't tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn't change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have. Good and bad."
-the perks of being a wallflower
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But that someone who's going through the same thing isn't AROUND the person hurting. So in their world, nobody understands.
Don't be so harsh.
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there is always someone out there who is going through something exactly the same as you. (well, I'm sure a few things are excused by this... but they're really strange)
I don't think saying someone out there is worse off than you helps at all, it just makes you feel stupid for being upset. but I do find comfort in the fact that other people are feeling the same way as I do.
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It's true 
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It's true
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i agree, you shouldn't say that no one understands, cos you haven't met everyone yet.
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Instead of smacking someone [or wanting to] because they say 'nobody understands' how about WE be the ones to understand? instead of looking around for somebody who DOES, lets listen to that person, get them to talk. Lets listen to them so they aren't the only one. Because maybe, those two words will bring that last breath closer...
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it doesn't matter when it stops, but it matters before it's over 
and - once you suffer yourself, you don't care about people having it worse than you, believe me 
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The problems of others do in no way relativize how someone feels about their own problems.
And I think it is indeed true that no one can really understand someone else. You can say "I can imagine how you must feel, I see that you feel bad, etcetc".
But if your brain isn't built exactly like someone else's and if you didn't make exactly the same experiences in life (which is not possible because you cannot use the same physical space that someone else is already using) it's not possible to completely KNOW how someone else feels.
This is not a bad thing, though. I don't find it very important that someone understands me, as long as they're trying to, as long as they know my general attitude towards some things, and as long as they are there for me.
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Even if there is somebody out there worse off than you, it really doesn't matter because the only person that really matters is yourself. If anybody did actually pay attention to that ridiculous rule, it'd probably just make them feel worse for feeling bad about anything, so don't pretend that steaming pile of shite makes anything better for anyone, because it doesn't.
However, I do agree on the first point when it's all they ever say and do. But it always takes time, ST. If something is making you feel that awful about life, it's difficult to take a proactive stance.
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sure there may be someone worse off,
but that doesn't mean anyone out there understands.
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Or even wants to.
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Apathy fails, so I kind of see where you're coming from here.
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it's true, there's always someone who's worse off..
and people say that maybe because they don't think anyone will, but someone will. they don't have the courage to tell someone half the time, so they'll never know.
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just because someone is worse off doesn't make it any easier.
But yes, I agree with you ST
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And I would quite like to meet this person who is worse off than me. And then I'd like to meet the person who is worse off than them and so on and so on until we find the person is worst off in the world.
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perhaps the person who is 'worst off', doesn't even know they are?
I mean, if you've ever been to a third world country, your probably quite likely to find that many of the population are far happier than any of us ever will be.
'Happiness' and 'worse off' are both relative terms. We, as humans, give them meaning - they didn't exist before us.
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And I find myself wondering if they're happy because they don't know that in our eyes, they're not well off. It's a very thinkable topic.
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From my very short experience of staying with a family in the third world, it seemed to me that one of the reasons they were happier than many people in the developed world was because they had very few choices/opportunities in life. One of the few choices they have is whether to be happy or sad. Whereas we have so many opportunities, that we always put off happiness until such-and-such happens.
Now this family had food and shelter and a settled community. Outside of the basics, human happiness is a fickle thing. The more complicated life gets, the more things you have to worry about. Course, I'd choose this life over that. But then, I know people who've chosen the opposite.
And I don't really know why I commented, sorry for spamming your inbox
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I completely understand, I spent a lot of time thinking about it and I came to a few self-realisations.
And don't worry; I love getting responses. c:
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Humanity will never 'want' what it doesn't know.
For example, I would love to live on a star cruiser travelling from planet to planet for my entire life. However, its impossible for me to do so as science has never progressed that far; i.e: it's unknown to me, and hence I don't spend my life searching for it.
God that was a horrible example, but you get my drift.
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No, it did help me understand your point more clearly, and I understand what you're saying. Thanks a bunch.
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