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The Secret teller would also like to sayPlease, Person C, I don't want to lose your friendship, but I can't deal with what could be your jealousy of him. I just wish I knew I was right, so I could talk to you about all of this..
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I think you should have a talk with C. Jealousy is an ugly thing, and it does ugly things to your soul.
However, you have also been presented with a wide-open opportunity with B, so I wouldn't waste it.
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If person C loves you, they'll be happy for you. And if person B says person C is harassing them? Talk to person C first, don't just assume.
I've been person C. And I've been lied about and lost the friendship of Person A. The jealousy could go both ways.
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You love who you love try gently explaining it to C say you cant sstand to lose them but you have to be fair to yourself, person B and person C
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I would stay with person B, and explain things to person C. if they really love you as a friend, they will understand completely.
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go with the person you love not on who loves u
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I wish I could help, but I'm feeling like person C right now (though I don't have any jealousy. I just feel kinda bad.)
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Tell person C to cut it out or else that friendship arrow will disappear.
In a much nicer way though of course.
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I know how it feels to be person C. The worst thing you can do is cut person C out of your life. The guy I liked didn't like me back and just ignored me, because he couldn't deal. If he was happy, then I would have loved to just be his friend.
A bit long-winded, hope this helps.
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Person C may not be able to handle it for a while, but will come around. This is a much simpler picture than my freshman year of college and I'm friends with them again now. It is unlikely to be a huge deal, he just will need to adjust.
Don't have person C be a reason not to be with person B. Just make sure that you aren't overly touchy-feely around him and that you tell him and explain things to him and let him learn and start understanding rather than have it flaunted in his face.
Be extremely clear to person C. I wasn't and I lost a friend for two years because of it. But even then we get along again now.
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if you don't feel love for person C. but have returned love for B. it should be obvious. Don't think twice when it comes to things of the heart.
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Please be aware that you may lose some or all of your friendship with Person C. I've been Person C, and when it finally got through my skull that there would be no reciprocation, we drifted apart quite steadily.
Sometimes when explaining "how it is" to Person C, you can't be vague. You have be very clear and leave no room for alternate interpretations.
It won't be easy or simple, but sooner is better than later.
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I'm in the same situation. But there hasn't been much that doesn't upset person C that I've tried so far :c
But person C is getting more and more clingy and starting to upset and stress me with it, so it might be best for me to cut ties with them.
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If C is a good close friend, then talk to him with care and understanding: then you will know if you are right about it. If your relationship to B is what you want, then a friend should understand. Don't lose the good things in both relationships if you don't have to.
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it sucks. 
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I identify with this triangle very much.
but person B and me aren't together, so it's a bit of a stalemate at the moment.
go with your love, and don't take responsiblity for your friends' happiness.
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I agree. ST, if your friendship really matters to person C, they should be able to understand that you are already happy with someone else [[if you are]]. You are in no way responsible for C being in 'love' with you, but both of you are responsible for what happens. If it isn't already clear to C that you only see them as a friend, then there isn't much else you can do and the rest lies on them.
I wish you luck, ST. I'm sure this is really hard on you right now 
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Person A and B should be together if they have a healthy, non-jealous, and reciprocated love. Person C? Well they seem to have issues. 
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i am in the same exact situation now
just a few more jealousies in there
i dont know what to do myself
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I know what you feel. Sometimes the world doesn't work how we'd like.
This is hard for all involved, especially Person C. If he really does love, he won't get over you easily. If it's gotten to the point of pure jealousy... then, well. It's really awkward, but I don't need to tell you that ST.
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Person C should respect the fact that you only feel friendship towards him, but you and Person B should be careful not to hurt his feelings too much (assuming that persons A, B,and C are around each other much)
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No, B and C aren't around each other much. Not at all, really, which is good. B has already made a threat against C, though, so even if C respects B (which I can tell he does, C can just get a little too violent at times, and any jealousy wouldn't help the issue), that's probably the hardest part for me, purely due to me not liking having to restrain myself due to fear of B getting hurt.
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I don't see the point of B making a threat, but if they stay away from each other enough, I think it'll be alright. Best of luck either way ^_^
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Sorry, I mean that C made a threat to B. I missed it when re-reading it...
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Ahh... well damn. Like a "give her to me or I'll break you"? Or "break her heart and I'll break you"? The second one isn't so bad, but the first one could be really bad.
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No, the threat was under other circumstances, but the fact that he would jump to that threat immediately, over something that was in no way serious enough to warrant it (combined with previous and later actions), was what lead me to the conclusion in my secret.
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I certainly hope things work out, and I'm pretty sure they will. C will most likely move on[hopefully soon] or at least be able to accept only friendship without any hard feelings
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Yeah, I'm hoping that too. Because we both want the same job, which means we're taking pretty much the same classes for the next 2 years... then chances are, we'll both be doing the same university courses... then competing for the same job... so it's not like I'll be rid of him anytime soon... which could make things awkward.
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Oof x.x You could always try finding C a D?Setting him up with a friend might help, or at least take the focus off of you
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It's not important now. Person B dumped me a few hours ago (last time I ever make a wish on 11:11)
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Ouchh.... Sorry that it didn't work out :/
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Thank you. I never would have thought of including a D in this... goes to show how smart I am! XD
The question is, though... who should I introduce as D... I'll think of someone. Thanks again.
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You're welcome, glad I could help ^_^
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..go with person B and try explaining it to person C?
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my thoughts exactly..
if you love person b, then maybe explain to person c..
and tell them you're sorry, but you're going to go with person b.
but that's only if it feels right.
if it feels better or more right with person c.. go for it.
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:] oh, and good luck to you, st. <3
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Thanks. But he's seen me in another relationship, heard about yet another, and I'm sure he knows full well that I want to be with B, and that he knows I don't give up anything without a fight.
I could never see myself with C, though. We're both similar in more than a few ways, but there are views that we don't share that I know would kill the relationship anyway. It's a road I've been down before, and I don't want to visit it again.
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ah, wow, that's trickier.. :/ i'm sorry..
but if you can't see yourself with person c, doesn't that sort it?or at least partially..? if you don't wanna go down that road again, don't.
you should be happy, so do what makes you happy. although i understand that maybe you don't know what would make you happy, or that there is some complication, but do whatever you feel best.
if you want to be with person b, then be with person b. good luck though.
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Thanks. It's moreso that I don't want to lose C's friendship, because we've been through a fair bit as friends, and for it to be over because of this... but at the same time, I just find it impossible to be with him.
My main problem, I think, is that I'm the type to try and make everyone feel good, whenever I'm not being a bitch in jest. This is a real test, because it's not possible to make person C happy, while keeping myself out of trouble. And there's the added complication that another person stuffed it all up for me, making it impossible to get a trustworthy answer out of him now.
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aha okayy, so you've been through alot with person c? okayy. hmmm.. it's horrible to think it could be over due to all of this and stuff, but if it's impossible to be with him, maybe it's just what you've got to do.. :/
i know the feeling, wanting to make everyone happy and stuff, i used to think like that all the time. maybe you just have to work on not doing that..
someone else stuffed it up for you? hm, this does get more confusing each time! well that sucks too, but if you can't get a trustworthy answer out of him, or trust him anymore, maybe it's time to let go of your friendship with them. [if you're friends, or if that's possible.] :/ or maybe you could try to restore your trust and faith in him? although, you're supposed to ''forgive but don't forget'' right? so if they do it again, you give up on them and move on. unless they've already done this. if that made any sense.. ^^ ;]
since i don't know everything about this obviously, i'm sorry i can't help too much by the way ^^ but i hope i could have helped you in some way, by talking about it [kind of] and stuff.. :/
and when everything's sorted out - because someday, i hope it does get sorted out - i do expect to hear what happened and how you are :]
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Well, the situation has... sorta been resolved...
B called it off. He was afraid he was going to hurt me, and make our friendship awkward. Funnily enough, I tried the 11:11 thing today, for the first time. So much for that working...
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oh really? wow..
oh. i'm sorry, but i hope you're okayy. <3
ahh i've done the 11:11 thing a couple of times.. well, you never know, it could work another time. but i'm glad things are kinda sorted for you.
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Hopefully I'll be fine soon. Sucks it had to be at the start of Christmas break (What is it with guys and hurting me right before a major event, anyway? I'll wind up fearing Christmas and my birthday... My first boyfriend joked about cheating on me on Christmas Eve, and my second boyfriend dumped me shortly before my birthday... Like, 5 days beforehand.) That's gonna really limit my ability to get over it, cos I knew it would have been hard enough finding another decent guy who isn't taken, 6 weeks of having no reason to get out of the house is just gonna make it even tougher, and therefore harder to get my mind off it.
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ahh true, christmas.. that kinda sucks :/
wooaahh seriously? that does suck, i'm sorry.. unlucky..
well true, i don't know how i'd manage, but you must be pretty strong to go through all this in the first place, so hopefully your mind won't be too stuck on this. hopefully christmas, new year, and any other exciting events happening will take your mind off of stuff like this.
i mean, santa wouldn't want you thinking negatively around christmas, would he, eh? ;] sorry, but i really do hope things will work out, and that this doesn't spoil your christmas or new year.
and hopefully, come the new year, 2010 will bring you better luck with boyfriends :] and everything else really, i guess.. :]
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Yeah. Ah, well, I'll get some good luck some year, hopefully. And hopefully the next guy will actually not break up with me shortly before/after major events and dampen the mood.
One of my friends said that they knew that I'd pull through, cos they knew I was a strong person (and that's only knowing me less than a year).
Haha, no, thinking negatively about Christmas won't be a great help, and I doubt that Santa would like that.
Things will work out, I have confidence about that. After all, everything is alright in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end.
Thanks. I could use the luck!
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yes, definitely i hope! :]
and definitely that too, i'm sure you'll have better luck next time. you deserve some luck at least, i'm sure of that much ;]
aw, that's sweet, and i'm sure they were right too! i'm sure you will :]
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That's true, cos I think I can say without being full of myself or anything that I am actually a fairly good gf, and that it's their loss for breaking up with me (except for the first one, in which it's his loss for being such a douche that I wound up breaking up with him.) So, hopefully, karma will give me a break sometime, and sometime soon preferably.
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