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Published: 2015-05-02 23:40:32 +0000 UTC; Views: 479; Favourites: 21; Downloads: 0
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i have incredibly mixed feelings right now
last week i got word my uncle on my dad's side was in hospice and isnt doing so good
today i got word he died the day after i was told
my uncle passed a week ago
but what he had wasnt instant
had i been told sooner
I could've spent time with him and cherish it
but no
they waited till the last moments to tell me
there was no chance to see him in his final moments
I am on incredibly bad terms with my dad and his side of the family but the few aunts and uncles there
am I in the wrong for being incredibly mad at them ....
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atleast my uncle isnt suffering anymore , may he rest in peace and know he will always be loved
may i never forget the memories I have with him of those happy times
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Drinking alcohol is never a good way to handle your sorrows
never
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this is weird
i get word from my mother that someone in mexico is not doing so well and he will die soon even though he wasn't A family member he did feel like one and i will miss him though i regret not spending more time with him so i feel you so if you want to talk about it more let's ok <83
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Even though I hate to hear the words myself I feel like saying "I'm sorry for your loss," which is what people have been taught to say when what they really mean is "Your grief makes me sad too," but don't want to trivialize the sadness of the person they speak to. So with my clumsy words I'll try to say something more helpful.
I've lost both an uncle (when I was a kid) and an aunt (last December). I don't know if it would help to know, but my family is on good terms and both times the family I live near and I didn't hear about it until a week after they died, I don't believe it's uncommon to find out so much later.
I don't mean to excuse the fact that they should have told you! But when someone it in that condition and you aren't someone close to the situation they might not have even thought about it telling you. It probably wasn't done in hurt you. As someone who has mixed feelings about departed relatives, it's better for you if you don't burn a scar on your heart for some shitty people who spent more time suffering the anxiety of his condition than you did. I know from experience it's not easy see some you love like that and be able to do nothing, it's one of the worst things I have ever experienced.
My aunt actually visited less than a month before she passed and I missed out on spending time with her because I would have had to spend time with people I'm on bad terms. All the while thinking, "I'll find some time with her later," only to find out I'll never have that opportunity. You have no guilt in things you could have done to spend more time with him.
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;n;
I'm so sorry for your loss, and the way your family treated you. Feeling angry with them is certainly a normal reaction.
Praying you have the comfort and peace you need.
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*offers a hug*
That hurt simply reading, that is the most terrible way of getting news like that. Please take care. >':
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Yeah I would probably be mad, too, personally. I hope you find good ways to cope with your loss. Take your time in feeling better.
You did well showing emotion in this drawing. I guess that happens with lots of feelings, eh?
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Oh I'm so sorry for your loss <3
I don't think it's wrong of you to be mad at them.
Beautiful work!
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is this true, i'm sorry for you if it is...
this is a picture that defines the word sadness/melancholy.
it is beautiful
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