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Inspired by a highly cooperative friend. When asked why she stopped cutting, she just smiled and held up her baby. (Nikon.)Related content
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please tell me u will work on it
im so sick of that people throwing their lifes away
there always is hope!
not for the humanity but for the people
the world is a sick world but there is always reasons to stay alive maby to curw what others destroid
but to be there as un angel for someone small
thats a reason
every time u feel down or that life isnt worth the pain turn a look to the feature
the day u will become a mother/father
the day u will be able to make your child smile and stop cry
the day u may get to feel that u are there for someone who needs u
the day u will be a grandmother/granfather
The day when u will die and u wont like now stand alone u will have the hand of your child in yours u wont have to die alone someone who cares are gonna be with u to the bitter end u just have to figth for it
never ever giv up
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ofc, there is no reason giving up! :3
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How do you explain the scars?! *sighs* how do you explain the scars if your children ask! I'm worried about that in the future...
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Well, that's nice that you're thinking ahead like that. ^_^
But really, it's not as big of a deal as you might think. My kids are 2 and 3 years old right now. They already notice my scars--both the self-inflicted and the ones resulting from a car accident. They see them as 'owies' and touch them and kiss them sometimes.
When they are actually old enough to ask, I'll just play it by ear with how I explain it to them. A seven-year-old will get a much simpler explanation than a ten-year-old, etc. Around the age of 12, when I feel they are mentally ready, I'll lay it out for them on more of an adult level. To me, it's important to be honest with them, and make sure they understand that I want them to learn from my mistakes--so they won't have to make the same ones themselves.
I look at SI in the same way I do recovered alcoholics or drug addicts...they're all negative coping mechanisms--ways we tried to manage excessive stress that potentially could have killed or irreparably damaged us. I sometimes hear people distraught over wondering how they can possibly tell their kids not to do drugs, when they themselves dabbled in it in their past. But I don't see that as hypocrisy. We are uniquely qualified to warn others and help them understand the behavior and it's consequences--to have empathy and insight into other people, even if those we're explaining it to don't personally relate.
I intend that my children will enter their teen years with a solid grasp on recognizing things like SI and depression--in themselves and in their peers. It is my prayer that they will have the hope no one knew to give me, and that they will be able to supply others with hope and perspective.
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My baby niece is the reason I stopped cutting. This picture honestly moved me to tears because I see the parallel to my own life.
Simply beautiful.
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Thank you so much for taking time out and sharing this. Even if you were the only one affected by this piece so deeply, it would be more than worth it.
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Thanks, I'm still hanging in there, and though I have rough days, my son still inspires me to be better, in fact it is for him that I've begun seeing a therapist again. Well wishes to all those recovering and still struggling.
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I'm glad you're seeking help. Don't give up--sometimes it takes a few therapists to find one you can work with.
Prayers and best wishes for you in your journey!
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Thank you! I'm so pleased to know it affected you. ^_^
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This is so powerful and the story behind it is just as powerful
(I would be honoured to have this in our gallery in my group btw)
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Thank you. ^_^ I'm pleased it spoke to you.
And you have my permission to add this piece to your gallery.
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I sent the submission request for your piece to you 
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Got it!
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I'm so glad it spoke to you! ^_^ Thanks for taking the time to let me know!
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Could I post this in my gallery?
For more information go here: [link]
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I'm sorry, the link you gave me doesn't seem to be functional...
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I usually don't like anything cutting-related on dA (or anywhere else, for that matter) but this is so precious. ; u ;
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Thank you! I have a rough idea of how much related material is out there--you've paid me a high compliment. ^_^
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Thank you for letting me know it affected you.
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Thank you. ^_^ You're not alone in that at all--children have a remarkable way of adjusting our priorities and purpose.
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This made me cry. I am legitimately sitting here, at my computer, just bawling. It's so amazing to see how one small thing can change the entire world for a person~<3
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Thanks so much for being brave and letting me know that, dear. ::hugs:: Truly, I'm grateful and humbled it affected you so.
I know it can seem hard to believe, but for all their miniscule size, children have some strange ability to turn your life upside down and make you look at everything from an angle you didn't even know was there. And this is coming from someone who didn't really see their appeal until I had one myself, lol. ^_^
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I love this and understand it completely, my baby is why I'm cut free for three months, I had a slight relapse in the early days after we brought him home but now even though I still have urges often, I'm cut free and will do my best to stay that way. Kudos to your friend for her strength and bravery and to you for being supportive of her
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Thank you so much for taking the time to share this.
Congratulations on the birth of your baby! And kudos to YOU for loving your son enough to want to quit. Don't let a relapse get you down. I've known so many people who've overcome self-injury--not alone and not easily, but recovery is so very real, attainable, and edifying.
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Hi! I am an advocate for those who are victims of self harm and those on the road to recovery, sort of a self-help and an online, no judgement therapy session. I am revamping my website right now and would love to use your photograph in some way?
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Hello, and thank you for your interest in utilizing one of my photos for a good cause. I'd like to consider your request. Do you have a link to the current website I could review?
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I was wondering if I could use this in a powerpoint about addictions for college. No one else will see it but my professor. It means a lot to me because I had cut since I was 14 and only stopped by 19 due to being pregnant. If I had the courage, I'd take a picture of my own scars but I don't. This is an amazing photograph and explains my situation perfectly.
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Hello! And thank you for taking the time to ask permission to use this piece.
I'm honored you see it as a fitting personal representation for you. If you would like to present it to a classroom, as well as a professor, I'd be agreeable to that as well. Education on the topic is very important to me. And not just for the public at large that doesn't seem to 'get it', but for those struggling with the behavior and/or recovered from it who can benefit from the principle of 'know thy enemy.'
I want you to know, I'm so pleased and touched to hear that you, like my friend, were able to love your baby enough to end a destructive habit for their sake--if not your own. I've worked with new and about-to-be new moms for a long time now, and it tears me up to see how often I come across those who won't stop or even slow down in their smoking and/or drug habits to protect the most innocent of bystanders.
I hope one day soon you can allow yourself to be courageous, my dear. Our scars are not who we are, they are only reminders of where we've been and how far we've come.
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I have relieved myself with cutting before and although it's not an everyday escape, it's present in my life. I don't have a child of my own but I do have some very precious people and this gives me hope to stop for them. Thank you, to the model and photographer.
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Thank you for taking the time to let me know. It means a lot to me that the piece meant something to you.
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i was a cutting addict. have about 6 months clean & going strong. its hard every day. i love how this portrays hope.
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This is beautiful, and it is so, so very moving. ♥
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Thank you! I'm so glad it touched you. ^_^
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Truly fantastic.
love the piece, shared it on facebook.
got 6 likes within a hour.
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Oh, well awesome!
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This is a very, very powerful picture, especially to someone who is still struggling with the problem. It's really, very well done. Simple and very poignant. Nice work.
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Thank you for taking the time to comment! ^_^ I'm so glad the piece spoke to you. What you've said is exactly what I'd hoped people could get out of it.
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This picture is amazing. It's simple, but powerful. I wish I will be able to stop someday, too.
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Thank you for taking the time to let me know that this piece has affected you!
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AWWWWWWWWWWWW! CUTE!
this might just give me a reason to stop! i never thought about this
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Thank's so much for commenting!
It's amazing how much a person's thought processes can change when there is a helpless little person depending on them. As much as society might try to make children out to be an inconvenient burden, they have the ability to teach us things that might not have 'clicked' otherwise.
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