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The problem with being the go-to advice guy in any group of people is the bewildering thought all those people have that you know the first thing about their myriad problems. They come to you, baring their minds and hearts out, and they expect just the right combination of words out of you to take their troubles away. Of course, most of the time they already know this series of words they're expecting to hear, otherwise they couldn't tell when they'd be satisfied with the advice. When they don't know the words is when it gets interesting.

People who don't know the next words that are going to come out of your mouth are some of the best people around, because they have to expect criminally little from you. You could give them a clinical description of their problem and they'd go with it. For a very special reason too.

When you don't know the words, and when you expect the least, what you hear is possibly the best solvent for your problems. The only words you should be hearing when asking me for advice are your own, echoing off of me to turn back around and say "Wait a minute, I've got it!" in such a swift way the therapy of it astounds me. When you spend more time listening than you do saying words, you will have molded the "advice" out of everything they say, because it's all you have. Listening is much more empathetic than talking, which I guess would be narcissistic, and you won't help a thing unless you learn that well.