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For those who don't know what sensualarians are:
A person who “blurs stereotypical” relationship titles,all done with all partner(s) consent. A sensualarian might not see much of a difference between say, a boyfriend/girlfriend and fiance/fiancee. A sensualarian might be a romantic partner with someone (as society would view it, such as: holding hands,going on “romantic” dates, kissing, etc.) but neither of them ever officially say “we are boyfriend/girlfriend”). A sensualarian is different from a polyamorous individual because this doesn’t necessarily mean they are willing to have multiple partners at once. It could just mean that “official” relationship titles that society projects onto the masses just don’t fit a sensualarian, they are “outside” and “between” the relationship lines.

*What they said below*
As a sensualarian, I was thinking about what it means and my personal experience as one. When I was in high school, there was this girl that I basically a girlfriend with, but neither of us ever officially stated “we are officially a ‘thing/couple’”. We held hands through the hallways, we kissed, and we felt extremely comfortable talking to each other. I think the “spark” chemistry wise (however you wish to interpret that: physiological, how well our personalities mixed with each other, etc.) between us was felt pretty soon after we became friends and things just naturally progressed from there.We never said “you can’t date anyone beside me” but at the same time we never said “we are dating”, despite the fact that the things we did with each other, an average Jane/Joe would think we were a “couple” based on society’s standards. That’s why looking back, I always call her my “almost-girlfriend”. Another way would be “girlfriend…adjacent”.

We lost contact with each other as the years went by, just because life took us in totally different directions. Now, I am a graduate student and my serious romantic partner and I live together. My partner never “officially” proposed (the whole “down on one knee” crap) but I feel like the term “girlfriend/boyfriend” is WAY too “superficial” as a way to define us. At the same time, since I don’t wear an “engagement ring”, I feel like the term “fiance/fiancee” doesn’t quite fit as well.
I recall talking to some friends I made and when they asked me if I was single, I told them that I was engaged, because I felt it was the most appropriate way to describe my relationship (I see it as “in spirited I am engaged”, but knew that would raise question marks, so I just used “engaged”). They responded with things like “Wow, that’s a big deal!” and I suppose to most people it is. However, to me, I just kind of shrugged it off. I didn’t see such a HUGE difference between “girlfriend/boyfriend” and the “fiance/fiancee” relationship “stage” for my own relationship.
For us sensualrians, I know there’s an official Facebook page but that’s about it. I would really like it if we had more out there (Tumblr page, facebook group, hell maybe even a forum, official website, and/or deviantart or SOMETHING out there for us). I know there’s other people who feel the same in regards to relationships, but feel isolated because they feel “alone” in their own perceptions of relationships. I think it would be awesome for us to collaborate with each other and basically spread the word to try to connect with us and possible make new terminology for how we view relationships (maybe “in between” titles between “girlfriend/boyfriend”and “fiance/fiancee” for example).

Description
For those who don't know what sensualarians are:
A person who “blurs stereotypical” relationship titles,all done with all partner(s) consent. A sensualarian might not see much of a difference between say, a boyfriend/girlfriend and fiance/fiancee. A sensualarian might be a romantic partner with someone (as society would view it, such as: holding hands,going on “romantic” dates, kissing, etc.) but neither of them ever officially say “we are boyfriend/girlfriend”). A sensualarian is different from a polyamorous individual because this doesn’t necessarily mean they are willing to have multiple partners at once. It could just mean that “official” relationship titles that society projects onto the masses just don’t fit a sensualarian, they are “outside” and “between” the relationship lines.

*What they said below*
As a sensualarian, I was thinking about what it means and my personal experience as one. When I was in high school, there was this girl that I basically a girlfriend with, but neither of us ever officially stated “we are officially a ‘thing/couple’”. We held hands through the hallways, we kissed, and we felt extremely comfortable talking to each other. I think the “spark” chemistry wise (however you wish to interpret that: physiological, how well our personalities mixed with each other, etc.) between us was felt pretty soon after we became friends and things just naturally progressed from there.We never said “you can’t date anyone beside me” but at the same time we never said “we are dating”, despite the fact that the things we did with each other, an average Jane/Joe would think we were a “couple” based on society’s standards. That’s why looking back, I always call her my “almost-girlfriend”. Another way would be “girlfriend…adjacent”.

We lost contact with each other as the years went by, just because life took us in totally different directions. Now, I am a graduate student and my serious romantic partner and I live together. My partner never “officially” proposed (the whole “down on one knee” crap) but I feel like the term “girlfriend/boyfriend” is WAY too “superficial” as a way to define us. At the same time, since I don’t wear an “engagement ring”, I feel like the term “fiance/fiancee” doesn’t quite fit as well.
I recall talking to some friends I made and when they asked me if I was single, I told them that I was engaged, because I felt it was the most appropriate way to describe my relationship (I see it as “in spirited I am engaged”, but knew that would raise question marks, so I just used “engaged”). They responded with things like “Wow, that’s a big deal!” and I suppose to most people it is. However, to me, I just kind of shrugged it off. I didn’t see such a HUGE difference between “girlfriend/boyfriend” and the “fiance/fiancee” relationship “stage” for my own relationship.
For us sensualrians, I know there’s an official Facebook page but that’s about it. I would really like it if we had more out there (Tumblr page, facebook group, hell maybe even a forum, official website, and/or deviantart or SOMETHING out there for us). I know there’s other people who feel the same in regards to relationships, but feel isolated because they feel “alone” in their own perceptions of relationships. I think it would be awesome for us to collaborate with each other and basically spread the word to try to connect with us and possible make new terminology for how we view relationships (maybe “in between” titles between “girlfriend/boyfriend”and “fiance/fiancee” for example).