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mdchan — Will Always Be
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Published: 2011-04-11 22:46:51 +0000 UTC; Views: 1669; Favourites: 39; Downloads: 0
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I drew this when I was annoyed at my folks. Even though they've been divorced for years, they still manage to both annoy me for various reasons.The only reason that they annoy me the same is on the subject of my Asperger's Syndrome (Autism).
Mom refuses to acknowledge that it exists (and doesn't even speak to me anymore), and dad either constantly forgets about it or expects me to be a "normal" person despite it.
In the case of the drawing, it was more anger at dad, who kept harping on me about a job, and how I had to work a normal job like everyone else instead of trying out a plan I came up with.
Oh, I'm gonna do my plan, anyway, when the job counselor contacts me, since nothing else has worked...
...and pray he doesn't kick me out.
-_-
But, it just annoys me that he expects the same of me as he does my brother, who doesn't have any mental disabilities; work fulltime at one place for years and move up the corporate ladder.
So, yea...I'll always have autism, and I wouldn't even want a cure if they invented it since it's part of me. I wish people would stay open-minded about folks that are different, and just try and learn to accept one another.
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I feel really sorry for you. And I mean it in a nice way! You seem to have it worse than me! I seriously feel for you!
I hope you parents will understand you someday and realize you are the way you are, you have your ideas of things, and you cannot change everything about yourself. And I hope they start treating you better because (some of this coming from my own experiences) this is not fair!
LISTEN ALL YOU PEOPLE WHO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH AUTISTIC PEOPLE, STOP TRYING TO MAKE US ACT NORMAL! WE'RE AS NORMAL AS WE'RE GOING TO BE! TREAT US WITH RESPECT AND THE WAY YOU'D WANT US TO TREAT YOU! STOP TRYING TO CONVERT US, TO MAKE US BE SOMETHING WE'RE NOT! PLEASE ACCEPT US FOR WHAT WE ARE AND FOR THE THINGS WE DO! DON'T MAKE US OVER!
(Some of this from "Don't make me over" a song by Dionne Warwick, and later covered by Sybil.)
I mean some of you mean well but still your good intentions are not always going to help us!
I'm adding you to my prayers!
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<3
(sorry it took so long to reply; I did read your comments, I just sometimes don't know how to respond)
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I feel ya! I know just how that feels, not knowing what to say!
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Yes
and you will also always be cute Kairy
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Yip! Welp, as okay as I can be for the moment. There have been some downs, but there have been ups as well.
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well i hope things will turn out alright
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Also, after reading the description, I agree with you. I wish that people would be more understanding of those that are different from them. This society needs a major reboot. MAJOR!
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SO CUTE! I love your art style! So very adorable and fluffy!
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i'm an aspie and i will say that my situation with my family is not much better. My brother is so incredibly rude, and my parents don't stop it at all cause they think it's ok. I often get blamed for being rude, today because my dad ate my plain bagel instead of his rosemary one that he ordered from a bagel shop not far from here, and so I told him he should try to look at what he eats. I was also called rude yesterday because my brother was having a bad attitude with me because he didn't like me talking about our cat, which is what I often talk about, and he won't tolerate me talking about something often talked about. So I told him to get earplugs if he didn't like it, and then bam, I'm somehow impolite. My family also makes me go to Mass without anything to help me get through. I have to be around so many people, and they make me focus without thinking of anything else, which is incredibly difficult because my autistic brain doesn't shut off. In addition, I have to wear clothes that may not be meant for hot weather. Wearing pants in hot weather could be common amongst autistics like myself, but being FORCED to is another thing, but I had been told by two Catholics to "offer it up", and one of them even said I should do it anyway because Christ suffered (there's a difference between suffering for your cause and just plain hurting yourself, but apparently, they don't see that in this case).
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yea. i mean if they find a way to make low funchnal people into high fuchtnole, GO AHEAD!
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Yikes, sorry...That has to be hard. Yeah, people don't seem to understand us half the time.
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Even worse when you have dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia and PTSD in attrition to autism like I do and everyone you come to for help tells you you're just being lazy and want them to do all the work for you or that if you were truly capable you would know exactly what you need and would already be doing it.
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have you seen the documentary in this link made by my mom, me, and my family made? (and yes i'm the animated character and this was back in summer of 2011 
[link]
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I don't have the money to buy it, but I think it's a great idea! Sounds like your family is really supportive...that's great!
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You're very welcome.
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It's such a cute drawing.
Hope your plan worked back when.
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The idea for the plan was good...but getting hired didn't exactly pan out.
>.<
It's hard to get hired in one's late 20's with no real job history to speak of (and no college degree).
But, thankies for fav'n this!
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Aww, it's so cute! I really hope your plan works out! I bet it will.
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Thankies...
...and for fav'n it! ^w^
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Amen. My mom expects SO much more than I can accomplish because my annoying brother has straight A's, is a freaking honors student and can DRIVE, not to mention is "handsome" and "popular".
Did you know that 50 years from now there will be more autistic people than non-autistic?
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I've been wondering about that...there seems to be an increase in the diagnosis of autism and asperger's. I just hope folks start getting the diagnosis when they're young to get the proper support.
I wasn't diagnosed until I was over 21...but looking back all the way to the first and second grade, I can easily point out and find the symptoms. They were there, and starting around second or third grade, I'd gone to a psychologist for OCD (I had a germ phobia back then).
If more was known about autism back then, and that psychologist knew what she was doing, I would have had the diagnosis, and things would probably have been easier, especially with my folks.
I can understand parents want the best for their kids, but I don't understand how they can expect such unreasonable things from their children (like perfection).
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully you'll manage to straighten things out with your folks
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I've pretty much given up with my mother...she loves playing "victim", and we don't even talk. Last time I called her, I only managed to get out "hi, mom" before she hung up.
Dad might be workable if I can get him to somehow understand. Unfortunately, there is a lack of good books on autism and asperger's (particularly concerning adults), and he lets his frustration cloud his judgment most of the time.
Still hoping he might understand, though.
PS: Thanks for fav'n it! ^^
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i know the feeling i get family who forget i have visual trouble all the time. then wondering why i don't have a high paying job at my age drive an ... way to much crap. its like they cant remember even though ive had the trouble my whole life.
wonderful pic
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Suxxors when folks forget. I have auditory issues (either part of asperger's, or just Central Auditory Processing Disorder on top of it; we're not sure), and my dad insists on giving me verbal directions for things he wants done.
So, of course, I forget a step, or something in that list, or don't really comprehend/hear what I'm being told if he doesn't have my full attention.
We need to like...sticky-tape notes to our family's foreheads or something. XD
PS: Thanks for the fav on the drawing! ^^
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Cool pic.
Sorry to hear about what happened to your folks.
(I have a mild case of Autism myself)
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Thanks...and for fav'n it.
I hope your family is more supportive. Only one in my family who doesn't really say anything is my brother, but there are certain behaviors I have that gets on his nerves from time to time.
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Cute pic :]
Sorry about the confrontation with your parents :/ Hope everything works out for the better :]
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Thanks!
Yea...I'm still hoping for the day my dad understands. I've given up on my mother, but my father had no problems telling people that I have asperger's; he just has trouble remembering that some of my behavior is because of it and not an "excuse".
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No problem :]
Yeah sometimes I have the same problem with my parents and my Anxiety disorders.
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Awwww, thats so cute ^^ Sorry to hear about what happened with your folks though.
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Thankies! I wanted it to appear more like he was looking up instead of forward, but it still came out alright.
Eh...I've given up on my mother, but things are always like a roller coaster with my dad. I know he still loves me, he just doesn't know how to deal with me the majority of the time.
And, since (unfortunately) most support groups for parents with autistic kids are for parents with non-adult kids...
...he can't get the support he needs to be able to deal with some of my behaviors.
And since there's little to no support for adults with autism, I don't get the support I need, either. It's really messed up.
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Awwww, that sucks. 
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Yea. There's the whole "children are our future" thing, and so much support for kids, but it's like everyone forgets that kids do grow up.
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Yeah, its a shame. Everyone needs help, not just one particular kind of people.
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