Miyori999 In reply to Neti165 [2017-05-15 07:07:49 +0000 UTC]
Childhood was a pretty screwed up place for me, and a lot of kids like me. I've taken what's been thrown at me and managed to let it dictate my actions in the positive, but I'm not going to condemn those who cling to their (very understandable) anger and resentment. Sometimes, that's all you have the mental energy to focus on.
I remember the analogy about the twin boys with an alcoholic father. One became an alcoholic and one became abstinent. They both said they watched their father as to why they did or did not drink. In this example, the moral is something like "be positive" or "have a positive outlook and be the bigger person" but what people fail to realize is that both twins' points of view are valid. Sure, one way of coping might have more negative side effects, but that does not invalidate the alcoholic twin's point of view. Each of their points of view is wholly valid to them, and that's what matters. Now, if the alcoholic twin wishes to quit, I'll be ready to help him, because while valid, it is manipulative.
I'm so sorry this response is so long, but yes, I've come some ways, but deep inside I feel sadness and hurt and resentment, and I know that those feelings are valid, whether or not I express it.
Thank you for being such a sweetheart and letting me know you see these things and care so much!
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