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Published: 2014-06-14 03:24:18 +0000 UTC; Views: 1923; Favourites: 97; Downloads: 0
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Low-intensity vent.Whining and griping ahead. Just a warning.
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I feel pissy today, and I predict I will continue to feel pissy for the next week, just about. Some relatives I don't really know are staying over and I was guilt-tripped/forced to relinquish my room in order to accommodate all the guests. Not something I wanted to do, but my parents are still largely the bosses of my life, and there's nothing I can do about that right now, seeing as I don't really have any money of my own.
Was considerably less pissed about this when I thought this would only be for four nights, not ten. Way to go, Dad; telling the whole house for months that it was only four nights, only to correct yourself the week before they arrived. That's real adult-like. Now I have to spend my birthday and my first week of summer classes living out my sister's room; an inconvenience to her and a suck-trip for me. I've never been kicked out of my own room for this long before.
I am unfortunately an extremely material person; I treasure some of my things over some of my friends. For this, I blame an inconsistent childhood filled with nannies, babysitters, tutors, and caretakers that flitted in and out of my life like a constant stream of passing cars, combined with parents that worked so much I hardly saw them sometimes. The presence of specific things was more dependable than the presence of specific people.
Knowing that, I thought the suggestion of a material incentive would help keep my attitude less unpleasant. The whole "reward =Β motivation to do stuff you are otherwise disinclined to do" thing. I thought that was a good idea, seeing as I don't like being a bitch to my family, but am too emotionally shaky to rein it in most of the time. However, my mom didn't like the sound of "paying me for behavior she expects me to do purely out of the goodness of my heart".
Bullshit. I'm not doing this "out of the goodness of my heart" and she knows it. If I was, I wouldn't have this urge to flip off my visiting relatives every time I see them.
She said she'd gladly get me what I was asking for as an incentive (a coyote skull), "because you want it and I love you", which completely kills the point of a reward I have to work for and that doubles as a partial solution to my current issues. I really detest the fact that my parents spoiled the shit out of me growing up, and sometimes continue to do so. I feel like I'm two-parts craptastic individual, one part not too bad.
And the kicker is that I know that this issue is a trivial one. I know my complaints sound like the whining of a spoiled teenager. Loads of people everywhere have dealt with harder things than this and not pitched a fit about it. Yet here I am, pitching a fit about it. Makes me feel both pathetic and angry.
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Man, I know the pain of having to surrender your room to visiting guests 
*ahem* Anyway. What I'm trying to say is that I understand, at least to some extent, what you're going through. And I'm hoping those ten days will pass quickly for you!
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Your reluctance to give up your space is understandable. And I don't think your actions/reactions make you the "craptastic individual" you think they do. First of all, your mother is right. You had agreed to give up your room, without the need of any incentive, so sure you weren't elated about it, but that only makes you not a hypocrite. Meaning, you were ready to sacrifice space and comfort for others, you just hadn't expected it to be for so long. And about that cool sounding coyote skull, does it really matter if she doesn't consider it a prize for good behavior? Who cares. It's what you think that matters. If you think you deserve it, then firstly, you are not taking it for granted like a spoiled brat, and secondly, it will make everybody happy. You let your father's kinda dick move slide, put on a brave face at the strangers in your room, be extra-nice to your sis and pleasant all around, and after ten days you'll get a damn cool coyote skull. I think it's a good deal all around. In time, you'll have forgotten those miserable ten days but you'll still have a pretty neat skull. So he. Not so bad.
Also, damn, parents of the world, be honest with your kids. One of the biggest pillars of parent-child relationship is trust. Don't chip at it dumbly by lying to them. -_-
On a happier note, cool snarly Neko, lovign the blue/red play of colors!
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I had agreed to give up my room because I honestly didn't have a choice; my parents can be extremely manipulative and have no qualms about using that on their own children.
I would like the coyote skull to be a reward for dealing with this and not being a bitch to everyone. If someone offered me the skull with those conditions, I would comply. But somehow, being told that "no, I will not agree to giving you a reward in exchange for not being malhumorada to help you stay in good humor, I'd rather give it to you anyway and risk your bad moods" doesn't sound like circumstances under which I would want to getΒ anything. Makes me feel like she doesn't really care about what I was trying to do with that plan.
Supposedly my dad "forgot" that the time was different and merely corrected himself, but part of me suspects he convinced them to stay longer and then just forgot that he did that. I wouldn't put that past him.
Now when he sees me pouting he goes "we're all uncomfortable, dear. So just deal with it" (which is not true, he's happy and peachy as can be)Β
funny, I don't see him giving up his room for anyone else...
Thank you so much buddy!
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Being 'good' works to some extent, with an actual rolemodel, you know one who does actually try to practise what he
preaches. But I know what you're talking about, I've been trying to start living my own life for quite a while and I'm looking forward to good
and bad times which are results of my own decisions not stuff I've been talked into :/
Hope your situation will get better soon
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I know what you mean; good and bad situations that are your own doing are easier to deal with than situations that are forced upon you.
Thank you
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True
You're welcome ^^
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I never been in your situation nor have i comment on amazing art work before (Sorry about that)
I can say this though. I do not think you are whining, nor pitching a fit. I think you did the right thing drawing that amazing picture and writing it, because from what I know and experience, you are at least getting some off or all of it off of your chest. Some people would do very violent things when face with a situation such as that, plus I think venting is good and something that is necessary once in a while so we don't just bottle it up.
I hope your situation does get better and if you need to draw more art work, releasing some of that pissed off-ness. Write more if needed, I don't mind and would always not mind and thank you for being amazing.
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Neko looks ready to pounce right there! I love the red you used!
And I feel your pain. Every once in a while these weird friends of my parents come around our house. They're always travelling so they often spend the night in our house on their way home OR on their way to some weird place they go. And where do they sleep? In my bed of course. Fact is, the only beds in the house are my parents' bed and my own bed, so, if my parents get to keep their own... I get to go. I spend the night at Grandma's house, some way away from my own, which is not a horrible thing of course, because I love grandma, it's just... the principle.
Moreover, these guys drink and smoke like there's no tomorrow.
So great to be welcomed by that inviting smell of nicotine clinging to your stuff when you get back in your room thinking it was over. Yippee.
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It's the principle that really gets me. It's like "they're your guests not mine, why do I have to leave?"
That really sucks, Arven. Sucks even more than my situation; at least I'm still in my own house .___. Wow, that makes me feel better. If you can stand that, then I can definitely last through this. Thank you
Man, if someone smoked up all my stuff, I think I'd be ready to kill something. How on earth do you stand that??
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That's exactly it D8
And not a problem, I'm glad my comment was helpful somehow! Did everything go okay with your relatives in the end?
FFF I honestly have no idea. I hate the smell of smoke, and for God's sake, there's a reason why I don't smoke, so there's no need for them to imbue my stuff with charred nicotine and frigging benzopyrene Β Moreover, we have a balcony. But NOOOOO they like to smoke inside. Like, they travel for miles to go to exotic places, then they're much too lazy to walk a few meters to light up their cigarette outside.
I seriously have no idea how I manage to stand that, sometimes I wonder it myself XD I need to gather up all of my patience for this occasion XP
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Yeah, I got through it mostly ok. At the very least my relatives were cool people that I couldn't stay mad at. but now my parents are displeased with me because I was grouchy for a week... geez
That is an awful lack of manners on their part; it's not their room, they shouldn't do that >:[
Your strength and patience in the presence of jerk people inspires me
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Geez they shouldn't be D8 They kicked out of your room, they shouldn't be surprised if you're a little grouchy during that period -.-
Hoho thank you XD
Yeah, I really don't like their attitude ;_;
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I feel so sorry for you, Neko ;__; I understand your feeling, since I'm the same with liking things over some people. Sometimes I growl only when someone reaches for a thing, not mentioning death stared when they touch it... I had similar situation when my sister had her first communion month ago... Her family came over and my mom DEMANDED me to sleep in the kitchen because grandfather of sister were already assigned to sleep on my bed. You don't want to imagine the war I started.
I just hope that everything will end well and soon for you! It's totally not fair to kick you out of your own room, especially since your family is the one coming over and should be ready to sleep on the couch or mattress.
And believe me, if I'd be on your place I would ask for something after dealing with such situation. Especially because your own comfort for these next days will be really lowered... ;w;
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That really sucks, Kagero
I agree, and personally I hate visiting a friend and being told "you can totally sleep in my bed, I'll take the couch" because I feel bad. Now I insist on getting the couch; I don't want to take anyone's bed away from them
Thank you, that helps a lot
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You're very welcome 
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You and me both are having a hard time TT___TT *hug*
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Dang that is quite the rant. Yeah it sounds like a teenager rant, but most of all, t sounds real. Real emotions and real feelings and real pissed off.
Good luck on the next couple weeks! Sounds awful ugh.
A coyote skull sounds awesome though! I have a couple I cleaned myself and they are a real treat to own. I hope you and your parents can work out a way for you to get one that will satisfy everyone's emotional needs.
Good luck.
Also, I love the side lighting on this drawing, right in the face area. Very neat. And the way you did the brilliant eyes perfectly captures that "angry feline" essence.
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