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Assalaamu alaikum [peace be to you],

The follwoing article is NOT mine, it's copied from Nayzak [link] .

By getting married the man is not just getting a wife, he is getting a whole world. From the time of marriage until the rest of his days his wife will be his partner, his companion, and his best friend. She will share his moments, his days, and his years. She will share his joys and sorrows, his successes and failures, his dreams and his fears.

She will always be with him: when he wake up in the morning the first thing his eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with him, if for a moment she is not with him by her physical body she will be thinking of him, praying for him with all her heart, mind and soul; when he goes to sleep at night, the last thing his eyes will see will be her; and when he is asleep he will still see her in his dreams. In short, she will be his whole world and he will be her whole world.

GARMENTS...
The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says:
هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ
"They are your garments and ye are their garments"
translation from verse 2:187

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the winter journey. The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable.

Only the Almighty Allah [The God], glory be to him, in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact, Allah is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
"And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."
translation of verse 30:21

NURTUR THE TREE
But The God, Glory be to him, with his infinite wisdom, knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

Know that the Prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him-, with all his responsibilities as the last prophet of the God and leader and teacher of the believing Muslims, had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Ayesha -may Allah be pleased with her-. sometimes She outran him, and sometimes, he outran her.

Remember that you will be rewarded by The God for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet -peace be upon him- said "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife"
Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. know that the Prophet -peace be upon him- used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and also pray with her. always remember that the Prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him- once said "the best of you are those who are best to their wives"

from "On Husband and Wife Relationship ". an article by Sheikh Abdullah Adhami [link]

I hope that was beneficial.

Description
Assalaamu alaikum [peace be to you],

The follwoing article is NOT mine, it's copied from Nayzak [link] .

By getting married the man is not just getting a wife, he is getting a whole world. From the time of marriage until the rest of his days his wife will be his partner, his companion, and his best friend. She will share his moments, his days, and his years. She will share his joys and sorrows, his successes and failures, his dreams and his fears.

She will always be with him: when he wake up in the morning the first thing his eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with him, if for a moment she is not with him by her physical body she will be thinking of him, praying for him with all her heart, mind and soul; when he goes to sleep at night, the last thing his eyes will see will be her; and when he is asleep he will still see her in his dreams. In short, she will be his whole world and he will be her whole world.

GARMENTS...
The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says:
هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ
"They are your garments and ye are their garments"
translation from verse 2:187

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the winter journey. The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable.

Only the Almighty Allah [The God], glory be to him, in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact, Allah is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
"And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."
translation of verse 30:21

NURTUR THE TREE
But The God, Glory be to him, with his infinite wisdom, knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

Know that the Prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him-, with all his responsibilities as the last prophet of the God and leader and teacher of the believing Muslims, had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Ayesha -may Allah be pleased with her-. sometimes She outran him, and sometimes, he outran her.

Remember that you will be rewarded by The God for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet -peace be upon him- said "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife"
Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. know that the Prophet -peace be upon him- used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and also pray with her. always remember that the Prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him- once said "the best of you are those who are best to their wives"

from "On Husband and Wife Relationship ". an article by Sheikh Abdullah Adhami [link]

I hope that was beneficial.