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Published: 2016-10-17 18:02:27 +0000 UTC; Views: 1150; Favourites: 144; Downloads: 13
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Hnn I had some drama happen with me and my boyfriend... I got reminded once again that he only dates me because of my personalty and not my looks. We had a discussion today that led to the result in me knowing he thinks I look ugly and that I just have to except that... For some reason I have a hard time getting over it... Must be because of the times we are living in, the fact that looks are so important to people these days really hit me hard... I never thought I cared all that much of my looks but today I feel so... Broken?Ugh oh well, here is a scrappy sketch I painted today. Hope you guys have a better day then me :'<
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To me, my opinion about someone's appearance depends a lot on their personality.
No matter how weird and imperfect someone's nose might be, it can make a 90ΒΊ angle to the sky, I'm going to love their nose as much as I love them.
Yet If I dislike that someone, It'll be something I'll consider bad and ugly.
Imperfections is what makes us perfect.
If people truly love you appearance won't matter.Β
I also think people should be honest, but at the right time and only if it actually matters.
Stay well!
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So I've been watching you for a while and I just wanna say youve just progressed sooo much your stuff is just amazing. I originally watched you because I thought your style was really unique and interesting, and your latest stuff just keep getting better and better, even with something like a sketch like this, you can see really great skill! its all just gorgeousΒ
and I also kinda wanted to give a small opinion on your situation seeing as other people did too xDDΒ
Im obviously in no place to know or speak accurately about your situation, but I do think the most important thing is to be comfortable with yourself before you even worry if other people are comfortable with you. If you can't love yourself, how are others going to accept you to your fullest? I completely understand wanting a loved one to love every aspect of yourself, but in my opinion its just so much more when youve already accepted yourself first. Nobody is gonna live your life besides yourself, and i think you should get to love every part of it. I've seen a pic of you on Da and i'd say youre perfectly pretty but again your opinion should matter the most against any others. I've been on that road of trying to accept yourself and while its not the quickest thing and I still see my own quirks, the more comfortable you are in your own skin the better you'll feel. Sorry if that got too heavy;w;
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Hehe yeah no I agree. I was really sad about all this at first but I have gotten better now. Plus I dont want to look a specific way for someone else. I want to look in the mirror and be proud of myself (if you get what I mean). So right now I'm just like "I will dress up for myself not for anyone else, I need to be comfortable and if this style is what I'm comfortable in then thats the style I will go for". So em yeah, I get what you mean and I do agree :3
Also thank you for liking my art :'3
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goood im so happy to hear that!~
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Really cool, kinda has a storybook feel to it. Love the hair especially
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Oh I'm sure you are very beautiful!!! If he truly loved you, he would see your beauty. I'm sorry this happened to you. People can be so mean.Β
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Well I know he loves me because of my personality. Not my looks sadly... And no it's not a misunderstanding, I talked to him about it and he made clear he really do not like my style...
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Ok, still. That isn't nice to say.Β
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Hehe yeah... He is very honset about stuff... But we kinda talked more about it and now its better
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...Well all right.
Have a good day
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I must say that I think that you have a really alluring art style!
I really like the horns, the little bow ties and the frills, and I love the eyes. Awesome.
You'll be the very first person I follow~
If I can stick my nose in... About the thing with the guy that you have... I sort of can't forgive him for saying that to you. I've been bullied and harassed because of my looks.
Nobody wants to be called ugly, especially not by the person that you love.
I like oogling at others. Both male and females. And I am somewhat obsessed with beauty and bodies. But in the end, looks can never make someone truly beautiful.
I fell in love with a girl several years ago. People didn't think that she was pretty, but for me, she looked the most beautiful that you could ever look. She, being so amazing and interesting, really made the way that she was made be so amazingly charming and pretty. And in my heart her looks were beautiful and quirky in a really special in way.
But at the same time I knew that she wasn't what is considered to be pretty... Even more so when she suddenly turned straight for a really nice guy. Seriously, I still loved her and I couldn't even hate him. That hurt.
Maybe your boyfriend is the same as me and is just really, really bad at expressing himself? Do you know if he have a super bad day or something?
I don't know, neither you or him. Maybe this is the first time something like this happened. But to me it sounds like you are carrying a lot of weight. And are feeling insecure. As a partner you need to be aware of the mood of your lover, and try not to say things that can be hurtful unintentionally. And if he really meant what he said, in the way that it sounds, then he must be blind.
In my honest opinion saying something like that is very insensitive. To me, I've never met a person, whom I like (whether it is as a friend or as a lover) that I have thought was ugly.
Being a nice person somehow makes me think that the person is beautiful.
I don't now you, and I've never seen you, but I usually have a good sense of people. And I can promise you that you are absolutely not an ugly person. I get the feeling that you are a nice person. Take pride in that you are unique and charming.
My advice is to talk to your boyfriend about it... Say that hearing him say that really hurt.
Maybe he really didn't mean to hurt you. Sometimes people say really stupid stuff without meaning it.
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Ow your so nice :'3
And well I already talked to him about it... I said I was feeling hurt and that he should try to except my looks for what they are. Sadly he said he could'nt.
Even though I wish I was just misunderstanding him I did not... I made sure to talk to him about that fact. Now my friends are kinda furious with him and he is really down becuase eveyone are telling him that it's really mean of him to say that to me... Ugh Im so confused, but Im trying my best not to care all that much about it...
The sad part in all of this is that I care a lot about my looks and I have always got complemens of it and now suddenly things are diffrent. I just dont know how to feel about it... Hn it's difficult :'c
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Saying what he did is indeed mean. And knowing that he thinks that way must hurt a lot.
Maybe to him, looks are just not so important?
If he loves you then that is the thing that is the most valuable.
It is normal and natural to care about your looks. It is not bad to want to look good, to feel like your looks represent you, or to want to leave a nice impression on others.
Nor is it bad to want to be sexy.
What is bad is if you push yourself down because of it.
I don't think that it is shallow to put on clothes that you like or put on some make-up.
What is shallow is when you value others looks as more important than their person.
Things like this can be very big and very hard. If you love your guy then try to take it nice and slow.
As a lover he might be the kind of person that's made to act with love. What I mean to say is that he might be a person that makes love, because he loves.
If so, and if you feel loved, take confidence in that you are being loved. He might just be... odd.
Don't forget that you live for yourself.
Be honest with your own thoughts and feelings and never believe that you are not worthy of something.
You don't need to feel bad.
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Hehe yes indeed. He does not care about looks no, he loves me because of my personality and that is what matters. I just kinda wish he liked my looks too as a plus but oh well. I will have to dress up for myself from now on and not for him
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That is good
As long as you feel loved then it is good.
It is really weird that he doesn't love your looks.
Maybe he has a few screws loose. But then again, I think that pretty much everyone has a couple of loose screws in their head.
Love him if you love him. Try not to worry all too much.
And again, of what I have seen, I think that you are really pretty.
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You're welcome.
I hope things sort themselves out for you.
I'm sorry if I butted in too hard
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Haha nono dont worry about it ^ ^Β
And yes thing have gotten better now :3
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