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smolenbyy [2016-01-18 18:04:09 +0000 UTC]

I know how you feel. You'll find that amazing friend someday. You deserve a best friend. And you will get them. I know you will. ^-^

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Asako-Bunny [2016-01-13 05:05:34 +0000 UTC]

I know exactly how you feel. You give your all to them and then they don't care one bit. I hate this for you.
You're not unimportant or trash!! You are wonderful and one of my favorite artist!
You inspire me everyday! I know it hurts now, but I have come to learn time heals wounds.
I hope everything starts looking up for you! I hope you find a true best friend soon!!! <3 <3 <3

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SageOfLife [2016-01-12 02:43:22 +0000 UTC]

I wish I had someone who is always there for me a couple of months ago someone who I loved lied to me about our whole relationship tossed me aside like I was no one important all for his benefits I've been where you are right now and sometimes I think to myself what did I do to deserve this and why would someone do this😢 Anyway I hope things work out for you cuz to me you are an amazing person and you shouldn't let people treat you like that

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CosmicSlug101 [2016-01-12 02:10:36 +0000 UTC]

If somebody has made you feel like garbage, then they themselves are truly the garbage.

You're a great person (from what I can tell), a great artist, and nobody should ever make you fell like you're less than what you truly are.

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vippy [2016-01-12 01:41:07 +0000 UTC]

aww.. again poor Quill. poor baby doesn't deserve all this. Least he has Sol there by his side. I find Quill the most easily expressive out of all your characters so far that I've seen.  It is a nice piece of his character.
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I'm really sorry that someone didn't cherish what you had together in terms of characters/rp. That's really painful and can totally kill all motivation for your characters which is never good. I honestly do hate to see you down about this so I do hope that you can get back up from this. For now I say hopefully take it easy and sort everything out. There are good people out there and I'm sure you'll find them. Your ideas and characters are awesome as well are you. C: Don't let this get you down! You are a good person and if some people can't see it then.. that's their loss.

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JahiChan [2016-01-12 01:19:59 +0000 UTC]

I know this feeling in both ways. -rubs the back of her head a bit as she looks to the side- I hate it. The loved one part i have to live with. Friend part, I slowly tend to let go because I could always (maybe) find someone else who I know might stay. I don't know. xD 

I hope it gets better for you lovely. ^^ . -hugs tightly- ♥♥♥~~ 

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ashenrisen [2016-01-12 00:13:07 +0000 UTC]

animals will always be better then people. sorry for what happened though. i have had this happen before as well. Animals are better

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S0L0ngP4rtn3r [2016-01-12 00:11:19 +0000 UTC]

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Snivystorm15 [2016-01-11 22:26:18 +0000 UTC]

It's okay dear, people can be just the most heartless species. I'll wish and hope for you to find a great and amazing friend who won't use you, a friend who will look out for you. It's just it probably takes time to find that certain friend, so don't give up.

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MisfitsOfSanity [2016-01-11 22:00:15 +0000 UTC]

ah dude. i feel ya. I often call myself a door mat cause ill just let people walk all over me cause I'm too nice. that's happened to me before a few times and it sucks. You just gotta wait till you find the right person and don't give up. I hope you can find a true friend soon though. Your an awesome person(from what I know) and deserve a good, true friend.  :3

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SpiritBird-250 [2016-01-11 21:32:01 +0000 UTC]

I can completely relate to that. The same thing's happened to me time and again. Don't be sad, you're not the only one. I promise you that.

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Pandorana9 [2016-01-11 20:55:53 +0000 UTC]

*hugs* I tend to think I'm way closer to someone way too fast than I really am, so I definitely sympathize. I'm going to offer some thoughts which you can take or leave or throw out or whatever.

It sounds like maybe you're trying to put way too much on one person before you know them well enough? Forming real attachments takes time. Those incredibly close friendships don't tend to happen within days or weeks or even months sometimes. They get planted as seeds and grow and bloom as you experience things together and apart. Maybe what you need to do is plant more than one seed at once and make a few friends who you aren't putting so very much on that they might feel overwhelmed, or take you for granted because you're putting way more into the relationship than they are?

Giving too much (especially money in the form of paying for things, helping out, gifts, etc.) can cause guilt if they feel they can't do the same, and some people aren't wired to want to talk every single day. Don't give up, though. Keep planting seeds and eventually one of them will flourish, if not more than one.

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RabeaUmbra [2016-01-11 19:49:45 +0000 UTC]

I know the feeling.. I've been thrown out a few times by some of my closest friends, or in one predicament it was their wife that thought I was trying to steal her man, so now we don't talk much any more unless it's about medical stuffs that we have in common.. it just makes my heart ache all the more without being able to be open with someone.. I have a boyfriend, but.. I don't know, I feel like I'll just worry or upset him or bore him.

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Kirudon [2016-01-11 18:14:02 +0000 UTC]

I know how you feel....I have friends, but i'd like to, at some point, have a best friend. Someone who thinks that way about me, too. A pal you'd go pretty much anywhere with or talk about anything to. I claimed I had a 'best friend' before, but he denied that. Which is fine, because it kind of made sense to in his situation, looking back on it, but it still hurt a bit at the time, even if I needed to be told that.

I'm a bit antisocial. I have a small friend group, and I like it small. But this small? It might be a bit too small even for me, haha...I too have anxieties. Did I say something wrong? Am I boring? Am I weird? Do they not want to hear about this? It's constant! I'm always scared of messing up and maybe making them drift away. It's not just in the realm of friendships, but the rest of life....which makes me feel even more boring and tough to be around.
(I don't know how i'm going to deal with the anxiety if I ever get my book published and people start to recognize me....Like, I want it and I don't...haha).

But yeah....You just keep trying anyway. I've noticed a lot of people are...hmmm...nowadays they throw away too much. Including other people. And it sucks.
A lot of people might just want to take advantage. You have great art, by the way. I don't comment on it often but it's nice.
Maybe that's why I rarely draw stuff for friends...Haha...
No, actually, it's me being lazy. It probably has nothing to do with it.

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silverwing110 [2016-01-11 16:50:56 +0000 UTC]

it hurts my heart to see Quill cry. he's too adorable for that. At least he got Sol to keep him strong. I like this pic.

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KabukiRabbit [2016-01-11 16:42:32 +0000 UTC]

Must be an artist curse. I rarely make friends but if I do call someone friend it means they have my loyalty forever. BUT if you take my loyalty lightly and kick me aside because I am not outgoing  enough or whatever it may be then I will walk away and not look back. I am a very giving person but I will only take so much before I'm done these days.(must be my age) Come to think of it since we moved here I have tried twice to make friends and the people just back stabbed or left me feeling stupid for trying in the first place. I am pretty closed off now and just focus on my art and small family and that's it.

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Silberschnuppen [2016-01-11 16:11:37 +0000 UTC]

I can relate to you a lot. I´ve had these problems when I started going to school and actually a long time along with it, until I figured something very essential out, and that may sound a bit Harsh, but its not that bad altogether:
Care about yourself before you care about others.
Dont get me wrong, I help others a lot, I have a lot of good friends now and my family has been working for a childreens organisation all my live, tacking them in and helping them.
But before you are kind, create a room for you to be.
That already is your art, I know for me it will also be my own house, my pets, and hopefully my work, defintly my onw family(but thats smt else as well).
Care about yourself. Create a room, just in your head, that belongs to only you.
And then, soft and slowly, let few others in. Dont wait months. Wait years. Many years. Of course I dont mean having friends at all. But realy good friends that you want to stay in your live.
And for the, "not interesting enough" part: You only get not intersting if you either dont share any mind; hobbies with the other party or, and that´s even more important; If you dont think of yourself as intersting and Important. If they never contact you, let them fall early. If you give money, always only lend it. Do your Own things in your own space.
Lastly, accept the pain.
The feeling of loosing someone, the feeling of brocken trust and being left behind is one of the most painful. But it will be ok. And it´s not the worst. It´s never the worst. You can realy trust me in that; for Ive experienced far worse. And that is, and I wont go into detail, actually willfully leaving someone behind.
Your heart will heal, your mind has too as well.
Get near to them, have lot of friends, accept that your friends may change, they dont have to stay the same, have  a lot of fun, but care about yourself - first.

This has worked well for me, at last. I often notice, it´s not the common way of thinking, but it works well and I can focus to everything I love. It is not being bad to others at all. Im never mean to others or not helpful. It´s being good to yourself.
Please dont give up, but maybe change your mind a little about some things!

Ah, and something I needed some time to figure out after some painful bullying experiences, where everyone seems to get the same: Everyone is different. Of course there are people out there that will care greatly for you I find it so intersting how many different kind, great, gentle and adventerous people are out there to explore

excuse my englisch, I hope that helps you.

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Birvan [2016-01-11 15:43:18 +0000 UTC]

I know it's not much, but I can at least tell you are not alone. I still crave a similar type of connection, even though I often feel like I'm too emotionally detached to care about anything anymore (I went through a particularly painful backstabbing and, unrelated, depression some years ago) 

What I mean is don't let that stuff bring you down and DO NOT internalize this as somehow your fault. Being more sensitive and more "emotionally needy" is not wrong, it's simply one of the many natures people can have. And sadly its one that doesn't fit very well in today's society, where "rationality" and disposability is more valued than one's emotional well being > >
Also DO NOT allow to think of yourself as trash. I mean look at your art! I don't think a boring person would be able to be so colorful  
But in all seriousness though, everyone has their own unique, rich story to tell. It's just some people aren't very good listeners, or simply don't care about that type of stuff. And there's not much you can do there except keep searching until you find your niche (I only managed to find mine when I was nearly 30) 

As for what you can do is take a deep breath, calm yourself down and give some time to distance yourself from the event a bit. Then you can analyse the events in a more objective manner and learn where you should improve yourself. Or if you have someone willing to listen you can chat about it and try to see things from a different point of view (self-help books can also be useful)
Either way the point is to turn the negative experience into a positive one by applying some self-introspection and figuring out exactly where you are falling short and when people are placing unreasonable expectations on your shoulders

And another thing you can do, while you give yourself time to calm down, is to indulge yourself a bit to get an endorphin rush. Like eat some nice chocolate, watch a movie, go sight-seeing, meet other cultures... anything that breaks the norm and, preferably, gets you out of your normal environment and forces your body to move (sports is also particularly good for this because not only gets your body in a pumped state but you'll get naturally more tired and sleep better)

As for lending an ear, since you said you don't need that let me know if you a distraction. I know all kinds of weird stories and trivia (and I'm a big history/fantasy nerd) from this side of the pond

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Pepperistia [2016-01-11 15:13:30 +0000 UTC]

I agree with what the people above said. I know we haven't spoken much, but from the few comments between us i think you're a pretty nice person. For those who just stopped being friends with you simply because they decided you weren't interesting anymore, they don't deserve your friendship. It's their loss that you're not their friend anymore.

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FreakInkComics [2016-01-11 15:08:15 +0000 UTC]

You seem like such a deep and interesting person, and very in touch with your emotions and feelings.

For people like that, being one myself, anything you take the time to invest your feelings into becomes a part of you; it's the worst feeling when you open yourself up and reveal your inner workings and not have it reciprocated back.

I'm sorry you've been treated that way..I know I don't know you much, but if you need an ear, I'd love to hear and help. Just keep smiling, keep being amazing, and know that everything happens for a reason.

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Herobula [2016-01-11 14:38:01 +0000 UTC]

I don't think you should give up because of what these people have done to you. From what I hear you do for them, you sound like a very amazing friend to have, I'm not sure why they would do this to you.

I can say, that I've been through this situation as well. It put me through the deepest depression. I felt like all of this you listed. I went through two years with no best friend after a terrible event with my last one. I really felt like no one cared about me or that I was unimportant, until a new person came along and now we're very close... I left out so many details there cuz this ain't about me, this is about you haha,, I just want you to know how I relate.

I have a best friend after two years! What I'm saying, is don't give up! It takes patience to find that special friend who will share these same feelings as you do. I know it's one of the worst pains ever from these, oh boy do I know.... But I;m sure that perfect person will come. You seem like a nice person to me! I'm sorry, that we don't know each other that well, but I don't want you feeling like this. You seem like you really care about people.

Eh I'm bad at words! Just don't give up, and be careful. For now, stick with your current friends for comfort. I'm sure a new best friend will come eventually! I can say, that those people you lost are reallly not worth any amount of your pain, especially since they didn't ttreat you as you did for them.

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Antonbert [2016-01-11 14:06:37 +0000 UTC]

I understand the issue, I find that I kind of bore people in the same way. I'm only interested in a few varying things and peoples' interests are always in something else, and when they find that they can't find my entertaining anymore, they move on. It depresses me that I really can't keep too many good friends for too long, save for one who's been with me since near the beginning of my life.
If you want to talk about it, I'll keep my mind open and willing. Don't be afraid to click the "Reply" button.

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