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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to ??? [2016-11-10 04:40:05 +0000 UTC]
Hello!
Thanks for your visit. And thank you very much for taking the time to answer these questions. I really appreciate it!
And you are absolutely right... we have been around. I am really glad to know we are still friends after 8 years!
Thanks for letting me know that you like the traditional stuff. I sometimes think most of my watchers came for the papercuts. After all, I'm not half special when it comes to digital painting and drawing. There are lots and lots of folks out there who could do it better. But thanks for your kind words. I will keep trying my best!
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daegfire [2016-05-28 22:42:53 +0000 UTC]
1. Why did you decide to watch me?
Paper cutting
2. What kind of artwork helped you to make that decision?
cut paper
3. What kind of artwork do you want to see more from me in the future?
paper cut
4. What do you think I can improve on?
Cutting paper ... not because your bad! because i want to see what masterpieces you could create.
haha not that i have a one track mind or anything XP I'm sure i could come up with better answers, but the urge to be sarcastic is hard to fight (I almost sent with without the extra sentance)
I really like this idea, having not been on DA for a week or so i hadn't seen it, but i may do one myself ... if i can find enough pictures of faces, its not somethng i do all that often!
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daegfire In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-05-29 12:55:19 +0000 UTC]
Everyone has to excel somewhere. It doesn't meen that everything else you do is bad, just that you do paper cutting REAL well.
I get exactly the same feeling, I love painting, drawing, sawing, but never get the same response as I do to my paper cuts (with the exception of pet portraits I gues XP
I think we would all like to be amazing in every style and technique around, but there isn't enough hour in the day.
I have put one together, didn't take too long. Decided not to try and find faces and just use some of my favorate cuts from the last year or so. I'll try and post it later tonight.
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DavethXL [2016-05-24 20:30:46 +0000 UTC]
yessssssssssss!
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-08 17:49:23 +0000 UTC]
uh well, sorry i dropped off the face of the earth, i watched you because i was recommended by GhostShow i don't have very helpful feedback i'm sorry
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-09 00:27:01 +0000 UTC]
That's OK, my friend. Don't worry about it.
How are you doing lately? Everything OK?
And how's our common friend doing? I haven't heard from her for many months, either!
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-09 16:43:35 +0000 UTC]
literally nothing is okay, and i've given up on life, and accepted death as my savior. our friend isn't doing too well either, someone hurt her, but i won't go into details because that's private, i think, if you want to know more i suggest asking her. I tried to help but i'm about as useful as a banana peel.....and desired as much as a banana peel. i can't feel anything but pain and i have no one to blame but myself
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-10 05:20:01 +0000 UTC]
Oh, dear me... care to tell me a little bit about what happened since we last talked?
And please let me know if there is anything I can do to make things a little better for you. Death should be nobody's saviour. I'd like to think there's always a little bit of hope. And if it's any consolation, I don't see you as a banana peel; not in the least.
I am sorry to hear about what has happened to our common friend, too. It seems like there's a lot of sadness and misfortune that's taking place all around. I'll find a chance to ask her (if she wants to talk to me, at least) about her own misfortune. But I want to hear it from you as well. What happened?
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-10 09:07:07 +0000 UTC]
there's not much to say, i've smashed into a million pieces once more, because i'm a bad person and i'm not strong enough to fight it. it's fine though, i have a suicide plan so the world will be rid of me soon enough. then i won't have to be ashamed to be alive.....because i'll be dead.....aha...hahaha
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-11 04:08:29 +0000 UTC]
I am really sorry to hear about that.
But I still believe that death is not the only way. After all, you are here and talking to me. That's a sign that there's still a sliver of hope, right? I don't think you are a bad person, not in the least. And even if you think you are not strong enough to "fight it", there's no reason that you have to fight it alone. We all go through periods in our lives that we get in hot water and there seem to be no way out. But no one is an island. Sometimes all it takes is to reach out and get help you know?
Just give me a chance and hear me out... talk to someone before you carry out with your plan, yes?
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-12 03:06:19 +0000 UTC]
i've talked to people, it's too late for me, i'm okay with this, really i'd rather be dead than live the rest of my life like this, i'm never going to get better, and no amount of pills is going to help. i've been thinking about this for months, and everything and everyone's actions just keep pointing towards death, anyone who stuck around is tired of dealing with me, and no one's going to help me, it's crystal clear. i'll still be here till the end of the year but i plan on ending it new years, lets just try and make the time together, less than horrible
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-12 03:16:33 +0000 UTC]
I don't think it's too late for anybody.
Besides, I am still curious about what has led you to think this way. You know the thing about "never say never", right?
I hope my action is not pointing you towards death. And if you agree with me that I am not pointing you towards death... then it's not "Everything" and "everyone". I'm around... and I'm not tired of dealing with you yet. And if you say "nobody is going to help you"... at least give me a chance. We've got 2 months until the new year. So just as you've said, let's try to spend some time together. And at least give me (and whatever resources I can pull together) a chance to see if there -is- a way to get you to feel better. How does that sound to you?
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-12 14:32:33 +0000 UTC]
Well you're welcome to try,my heart has been broken beyond repair this time, I can't feel anything but pain, and sometimes it manifests itself physically. Bruno Mars just writes angst songs that are winny and talk about one sided love, id do anything for anyone, even a stranger, but it's selfish and stupid of me to think anyone else would be like that
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-15 04:58:43 +0000 UTC]
I am really sorry to hear that, I really am.
(And perhaps even more so because I couldn't get to you sooner... gotta do on-call shifts that last 24 hours...)
I hear you about the pain, though. Don't know if I've ever told you before, but I've been there in the past... sometimes the pain in your soul hurts so much that all your joints ache. It was hard to get out of bed every morning when I was like that. And even when walking barefoot on the bedroom floor hurt the bottoms of my feet. I guess what I am trying to say is that you're not alone. And one-sided love aside... sometimes it helps to know that you are not alone in the world. And sometimes... even before finding that one person to call your own... knowing that you are not alone in the world helps already.
At least that's what helped me out.
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-17 04:56:28 +0000 UTC]
i've been through this song and dance so many time, what many people call "rock bottom" is basically my home. i'm so unbelievably lonely, and people keep giving me the same damn advice, and it always ends the same damn way. "be yourself" well it turns out i suck, and i don't get a happy ending. i'm talking romantically, call me naive but all i ever wanted and still want is just someone who loves me as much as i love them...my heart has been broken so many time and each time it's my fault, i try to learn from my mistakes but everything always repeats....so what's the point of even trying if you know you're going to fail....
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-18 03:25:40 +0000 UTC]
You know... I don't believe in this whole "be yourself" claptrap anyway. Where I came from... "being yourself" isn't the ticket to success. And from what little I have heard from the dating world, this seems to be the case, too. So no, I am definitely not going to give you the same damn advice. Because I agree with you, they're kinda useless.
I do want to hear it from you, though... what do you want for your own happy ending?
And what kind of person do you see yourself with that will make you happy?
The thing with it is that sometimes it's hard to learn from what has happened to you from the inside out. Sometimes it takes an "outside-in" approach to look at the so-called dating scene. And probably from someone who doesn't date, either. We do a lot of things when we are looking for love that is a little irrational. Sure, that's what makes romance such a bitter-sweet experience, but when it's more bitter than sweet, we got to look into it to see how to make it better. But I can't do that for you without some information from you. So... just think of it as talking to a friend over a pint of beer. And try me out. Maybe I'll be able to give you a slightly different perspective?
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-18 18:59:54 +0000 UTC]
maybe, i'm willing to try just about anything.
my happy ending...just someone who loves me as much as i love them, i'm pansexual so i don't care about gender or orientation, but i know you're on the asexual spectrum, but i'm not looking for sex, just love(i've never had sex, not that i don't want it, just never happens)
but right now i don't think that matters because my heart only feels for one, almost from the moment i met her(again i know i'm naive, i have a mental relapse of 4 years so i try hard to act more like a 22 year old, than an 18 year old, but i still come off as very immature) i told her my feelings, but things were complicated and i was happy staying mutual friends, i was willing to wait as long as it took....she was so kind to me....you already know i've been through a lot of mental abuse(in the past), and it scared me.....going from a 6 year abusive friendship, because he was my only friend, and then meeting someone who was so kind, and loyal and honest and had no intent to hurt me......i got scared, it was terrifying and i didn't know why the best way i can describe it with this dog www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiOf2H… anyway i started to push her away, but eventual relised this was all i ever wanted, to be loved, and i felt at home.
my happiness didn't last for long when i started sinking into depression, she'd like a godess to me, why would i want to expose her to that? have her see me like that. eventually i told her that my romantic feelings for her had faded, but maybe someday we could try, because i knew her situation was complicated, and i thought if there was no pressure things could settle down and maybe we could try.....but i kept pushing her away, and the more i did the worse i felt, and eventually....i pushed too hard....communication was dull, i was terrified to reveal any feelings, then i learned that she had fallen for another guy.....one who she knew in real life and could touch and hold...how could i ever compete with that?
but the worst was still to come, he broke her heart from some young tail that he knew for 2 months and hid things from her, and even though i was lost a long time ago, it feels like my heart is breaking....again...for a third time with the same person, and i have no one to blame but myself, i ruined everything like i always do, no matter how much i try everything always reapetes itself....so if i know i'm set up to fail why even bother trying? to this day she's still trying to get answers out of this weasel and hurting over him....seeing her like that....i couldn't care if she loves me or not, i just want her to be happy.....even if it is with someone else.
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-19 03:37:15 +0000 UTC]
Did you say that you are willing to try anything?
That's perfect. It means we still have a chance to go forward. And after hearing your story, I want to tell you a few things. (Mind, I don't care if anyone has ever told you this before or if no one else has told you this before... but this is what I am seeing from my side of the terminal.)
I watched the video. I see what you mean. But I would also like to remind you that Priscilla (that's the name of the dog) did heal by the power of love. It took them a few days of trying to pet her before she allowed herself to be pet. But they did it. And not only that, she accepted being a part of the family and actually enjoyed taking trips in cars. What the biggest difference I am seeing between you and Priscilla at this moment is a little bit of courage. Both of you were abused and afraid. But she didn't push the people around her away and she had the courage to trust the people around her. And she was loved in return.
If you think this girl is your Goddess, then you do yourself and her a great disfavour disappearing from her life when she really needs a friend. It sounds to me that she's dealing with a tough time in her life because of this jerk that betrayed her. But you are a friend to her and you have been for many years. This is the time she needs a friend to get through tough times - and what you are thinking of is ducking out when she needs you. It sounds to me like you are afraid to try being a friend and a protector figure for her. I am not sure what you mean by "things always repeats itself" because from what I am hearing... you're stuck in that stage at the beginning of the Priscilla video. You are afraid so you push people away. You push those who are important to you away because you are afraid. And right now, you are so afraid that you are pushing life itself away.
What you don't see is that a relationship - in order to be healthy - is a matter of give and take. It's an act of courage and confidence. It also means that between you and the person you eventually choose to love, it's everything between you, warts and all. When you want to hide things away from each other, the relationship becomes unhealthy. It means when you want to shield hear away from your depression, you made the first wrong move. You didn't help yourself and you didn't let her try to help you.
So forget about the "be yourself" claptrap. The "yourself" right now is afraid, angry, and losing hope. You have a lot to give and a lot of love, but you're stuck in doubt and fear. If you really want to know what I took out of the Priscilla video, it's that in order to find your own happy ending, you've gotta be courageous and not be afraid to lose face or lose hope. Forget about "how can I compete" or "setting things up to fail". What you are doing is brow-beating yourself into a series of self-fulfilling prophecies. If you want... I can help you get out of that state of mind. And I can tell you that if you are willing to "Try anything" and you really mean it... together we can make it happen. But I can't do it for you. It's all about you right now, my friend. And I am here for you.
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-22 12:47:03 +0000 UTC]
I'm here for her now though, I had no idea this shit was going down because I distanced myself from the world. I would never abandon her, not in her time of need.
I'm doing everything I can to help, but seeing as how I'm....not very good, it dosent do much to help. I do my best to listen but it's killing me quickly from the inside out, to hear about someone she loved, and even worse someone who hurt her.
Ive told a few people my suicide plan, and they think I'm joking or just don't take me seriously, I guess actions speak louder than words. I haven't changed my mind and I don't think much will, but as I said I'm at a point where Im extremely neutral and will try anything anyone tells me....even if it's non beneficial
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-23 05:18:51 +0000 UTC]
Well... the way I think of it... it's going to take some time to get over a break-up. So if you actually commit suicide in the New Year, then you are effectively abandoning your friend because you will no longer be there for her; in the most literal sense of the word. Besides, think about it... she's already hurting and sad. How do you think she'll feel if she loses you, too?
A lot of the times how "good" you are in being there for someone is subjective. And it's not up to you, either. If the other person finds you helpful, then you are. I understand that you may feel torn and disheartened when you hear that someone you care about is hurting. And that someone has hurt her. But that's why it's important to be strong for that person. Sometimes it's not just about us personally... it's about living and be there for someone else we care about. And that's what I meant last time, too. Sure, action speaks louder than words, but it takes a lot more courage to live and living is an action as well.
I take your suicide plan seriously. In fact, so seriously that I've been trying to see how I can prevent it from happening. If you say you are willing to try anything, then give me a chance to see if I can make a difference. This is a "mood diary" www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/Moo… It's a tool for you to speak to yourself in a slightly different way than what you are used to. All the instructions are there right on the page. I recommend trying it out for a week. I believe that it's helpful to see what goes through your head day in and day out, both the good and the bad. And this is only the first step. I have a plan, too. and I hope that together we can plan something for you that doesn't involve you killing yourself.
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-12 04:07:40 +0000 UTC]
I tried reaching out to people, don't think this is an impulse, I've hinted at my pain, I called out for help, and when that didn't work I came out bluntly and got the same awkward avoidance. I'm not blaming anybody, and I accept my part, I just forgot along the way that I live alone in a one sided world. Now I know how Bruno Mars feels. So yes let's try to make the most of this
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-12 04:15:52 +0000 UTC]
Well... I don't think this is an impulsive idea, either. And that's exactly why I am worried about you. Forget all the statistics and the nameless numbers I have to deal with on a daily basis, I get worried over someone I call a friend. And I get worried when I see something dangerous.
But hey... I am not avoiding you and I don't think I ever will. In fact, ever since you came back to talk to me, I've been wondering how I can get more help on your side. I just wish I know about about what has been happening, you know? And yeah... while I don't know what happened to Bruno Mars... I believe everybody goes through periods when they feel like the only way out is the way out. Heck with it, I've been there twice myself. Got a plan and everything. But I am still here, because there was someone in my life that made it worth living. They are not lovers or anything like that... they are good friends who looked out for me. So... I want to be that person for you, too. Give me a chance to make the most out of this for you?
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DavethXL In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-11-12 17:46:28 +0000 UTC]
cool, my reply never went through, long story short, you're free to try, though my mind is made up, i feel unloved, unwanted and stomped on, and no ones made much of an effort to deny it. so i don't need much more reason than that, i'm a handful, i know that, and i'm not going to get better, i know that, i know my problems are my own fault for how i precise reality, i've been told that a few times. i'm tired of living like this and i just want it to stop....
and bruno mars bitches and whines a lot in his songs about one sided love www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4BMcF…
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SinistrosePhosphate In reply to DavethXL [2016-11-15 05:43:15 +0000 UTC]
When we stand on the precipice is when our lives change around. I believe that.
It's like how addicts don't quit until they hit rock bottom, you know?
So yeah... I -am- going to try it. And heck, I am going to try to show you you are not unloved and unwanted. If you don't think anyone has made a gesture to deny it... well, you're hearing it from me. It sounds like you've got a lot of insight into what's happening to you. And that's the first step into making things better. I believe that given time, things do get better. People get better, too. But it takes trying. And since all of us need a helping hand from time to time, I'm going to try anyway. And as long as you are still even somewhat interested in trying, we can do something about it. We can make something happen.
Oh, and forget about Bruno Mars. Most of the time people write specific types of songs to get themselves a bigger share of the market. If he's really singing from his experience and he actually means it, he won't be singing stuff like "Uptown funk". He can whine all he wants, but that's obviously not his life. And if you can see past that, you'll know that reading too much into songs can be really tough on you!
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0-CLAM-0 [2016-05-23 19:04:57 +0000 UTC]
1. Why did you decide to watch me?
You were in madmen asylum group haha
2. What kind of artwork helped you to make that decision?
I'm not sure I've been following you for years now o_o
3. What kind of artwork do you want to see more from me in the future?
I love your paper cutting stuff!
4. What do you think I can improve on?
Facial anatomy. They tend to look kinda wonky, but your coloring is A+
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ClayfrommyHeart [2016-05-22 21:24:48 +0000 UTC]
1. Why did you decide to watch me?
Because I try to watch anybody that watches me! I think it's like a compliment!
2. What kind of artwork helped you to make that decision?
Your paper cutting! I just can't do anything like that and I found yours to be amazing!
3. What kind of artwork do you want to see more from me in the future?
More paper cutting! I don't know why, but I just think it's amazing!
4. What do you think I can improve on?
I have no clue! Your art is so magnificent that I really don't know what you could improve on!
I just love your Meme!! I like all the different styles of art you chose for it!!
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ClayfrommyHeart In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-05-23 13:47:17 +0000 UTC]
Of course! We artists have to encourage each other! If not, none of us might have continued our work!
Lol I have tried paper cutting many many times... Mine always end up in the garbage because I just can't get that fine detail!
OOOhh! Yay! I can't wait to see these!! Of course!
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ClayfrommyHeart In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-05-23 16:13:03 +0000 UTC]
No problem!
Yea. Lol I have always had some hand eye coordination trouble. It's never fine details that get me into trouble! Heck I live for projects that have small details (like Xabi's feathers!) but some stuff just doesn't work for me.
Yay! Can't wait to see them! Well great art does take time!
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ClayfrommyHeart In reply to SinistrosePhosphate [2016-05-24 01:39:27 +0000 UTC]
Lol Yea! I have also tried painting (my mom is an amazing painter) and all my stuff looks like I let a 2 yr old finger paint on it. So Yea. Not everyone is good at everything!
Of Course!
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