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"Asexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who someone is. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently. Asexuality does not make anyone's life any worse or any better, they just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. Asexuality is distinct from celibacy or sexual abstinence, which are behaviours, while asexuality is generally considered to be a sexual orientation. Some asexuals do participate in sex, for a variety of reasons." - Pride-FlagsWant to suggest a stamp? Click here .
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As an ace artist who also loves pastels, I adore this little stamp! Thank you for making it! <3
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asexual, cupioromantic. using, tysm for making this!
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I'm bisexual & asexual. I feel to not need sex and children.
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so you are asexual and biromantic c:
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Asexual people are like the opposite of bi/pan people. They don't experience sexual attraction towards anyone (not to be confused with libido- ace people can still want sex, they're just not turned on by people's appearances).
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They find sex repulsive, that's why.
I'm not sure if I'm asexual or not but I hate sex.
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Asexuality has nothing to do with sex. Sorry to jump in randomly, I was scrolling through stamps and saw this. As an ace person, the best way I would describe it as a person walks by with a big butt and itty bitty waist round in your face and you don't get sprung. The term "sexual attraction" might be misleading; I think you're confusing its actual meaning for libido. Asexual people can have libido, but they don't get a rise out of looking at someone with big muscles or curvy figure, and so on. So they don't experience sexual attraction but can still crave or have sex.
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I consider myself demisexual and not 100% asexual. I might be panromantic or pansexual. I dunno. I'd rather have sex with someone I know well.
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You could be panromatic and demi-pansxual. You do youΒ Β―\_(γ)_/Β― I was just passing through and figured I should clarify, since I'm ace myself and see people get confused on terminology a lot and all.
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Okay.
Are you also saying that since you looked at my profile?
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No? It just makes the most sense according to what you told me lol
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Okay then.
Though I do have those stamps on my profile.
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asexuality doesn't necessarily mean you find sex repulsive, it just means that you aren't attracted to other people (whether in be romantically or sexually)
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asexual is an umbrella term
aro/ace means you don't want sex or a relationship
where as just being asexual means you want a relationship but no sex
at least that's what I thought
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Asexuality has nothing to do with sex. Sorry to jump in randomly, I was scrolling through stamps and saw this. As an ace person, the best way I would describe it as a person walks by with a big butt and itty bitty waist round in your face and you don't get sprung. The term "sexual attraction" might be misleading; I think you're confusing its actual meaning for libido. Asexual people can have libido, but they don't get a rise out of looking at someone with big muscles or curvy figure, and so on. So they don't experience sexual attraction but can still crave or have sex.
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but like,, my dude
i'm also ace (well grey-ace)
and asexuality varies from person to person
like some people are completely sex repulsed but they're still ace
but like,, it seems like you're just saying that ace almost always experience sexual desire
but they just dont act on it or just,, don't get aroused by looking at ass lmao
but I don't know,,
i'm still trying to figuring this out since i'm new to the ace community
so maybe the definitions just vary for some reason,,,
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Not really, I'm just emphasizing there's a difference between sexual attraction (what defines your orientation) and libido, since people get them mixed up. Sex-repulsion is actually more common with ace people than it is with any other orientation, but it's important to remember that libido doesn't determine anyone's orientation. Orientation is about who you're into, not sexual preferences or interest. You could be pan with a low libido, and you could be ace and have high libido. I was just trying to clear that up since it's a common confusion. You do you, man.
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I know, but I feel like I'm on the spectrum.
Maybe not normal asexual, but demisexual.
Maybe even gray-asexual, antisexual, apothisexual, abrosexual, or aegosexual.
There are different types of asexuality.
And sexuality doesn't define a person, IMHO.
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yeah, I get that. we're all somewhere, and it might not be too specific either. and true, sexuality really doesn't define someone.
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Okay.
Thanks for the info!
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MoonytheRabbit Β I love you with my heartΒ
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I'm both aromantic and asexual, guess that counts too.
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I'm Asexual,reply if your Asexual too
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It's not a preference the same way any other sexuality isn't a "preference". For example, gay people are attracted to people of the same sex (obviously). It's the group of people they are attracted to, it's not their "preference". Sexualities aren't a choice....
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Why so aggressive?
And your comment's two months old. If that's "goddamned old" it should have been enough time for you to figure out why people were calling you on your queer phobia. Don't comment something asking a question and then get mad at people who respond trying to answer; you obviously don't care and don't "support them fully".
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I know that you know how dA works and I think it goes without saying that you and I are the only people receiving notifications for "arguing". That being said, I'm still not sure why you're so angry at me, but I'm gonna do my best to just be nonchalant about this considering how it actually has to do with my physical, mental, and emotional safety as a person and so I'm pretty educated on it (seeing as I'm actually ace), and I just ask that you simply listen to what I have to say out of respect for me as a person and I think you'll be happy you did (especially if you have ace friends). If you hate asexuality that much then I simply ask that you read the bold/TL;DR and reconsider what you've been taught by tumblr/people who aren't asexual themselves and don't know what it means.
Being asexual has never been a choice for me (or anyone), any more than it was for you to be gay, any more than it was for me to be trans. I did not ever wish these things upon myself, and if it for some reason ever became a "preference", I would simply choose the easy (and safest) way out. I'm proud of these aspects of myself, but I didn't ever choose them. Being queer wasn't, isn't, a "preference". It's part of my identity as a person. I'm not any more straight than you are (or, once considered yourself to be). Being heterosexual means being attracted to the opposite sex. If you're not attracted to the opposite sex, then you're not straight, and no offense, but I'm not sure why this would be confusing. Pan people are attracted to all sexes and/or genders, asexual people aren't attracted to any of them; pan meaning "all of" coming from Latin,Β Β pΔnis, pΔnem (although the Romans stole it from Greek), and a(n) also coming from Latin, meaning "no/non/not of".Β Β These words are here, in English, as a prefix to the word "sexuality", obviously. So, asexuality is a sexuality, and the Latin word simply describes where the sexual attraction is aimed at; in this case, no one. To correct what you seemed to be viewing it as based on your reply to someone else, being asexual has nothing to do with how much sex someone is or isn't having. Abstinence is a preference, your attraction to someone isn't, and the term asexual only means your orientation/attraction. There's this misconception that must be spread by the same people on tumblr but.... I'll just be blunt... Asexual people can and do have sex, for plenty of reasons. Maybe just to please a partner, but still very commonly for the intimacy (oxytocin), the feeling of it (dopamine), just like everyone else. Lots of ace people don't have sex, too, of course; but either way, it's not because of their orientation, because, again, lots of ace people still masturbate or have sex.
The acronym is LGBTQIA+. Please stop excluding intersex and asexual people (not to mention non-binary) when you don't know what it means to be these things. Also, in response to what you said, gender identity has nothing to do with sexuality. Being trans doesn't mean you're not straight; you can still be apart of the community if you're straight as long as you're not cis.
I hate to break it to you, but tumblr is the only place where people think that being asexual is somehow cishet. Several years ago, they were targeting bisexual people, calling them straight (or telling them to just "choose" and stop lying), and telling them they couldn't be apart of the community. When that didn't work, it moved onto asexual and intersex people. Many of these people are also the ones who say that "queer" is a slur. You know where this stuff stems from?
Terfs. You're (unintentionally) blindly following the example of blogs who learned their values from people who want you (and I) dead. If you've ever listened to a so-called feminist that validates the murder of trans people, you'll notice the similarities (most obviously where they say trans people are just cis ("self-hating women/men"), faking it for attention, and so on). They started this, years ago, and pulled in the younger generation, knowing that at the time they couldn't know any better, in an attempt to keep their sadistic rhetoric going. Excluding people from the community is nothing new, the only thing about it is that they've moved onto asexual and intersex people now. People on the internet started the rhetoric, and now people like you, not knowing any better, continue it. I know you're not doing it intentionally, but you're recycling garbage that needs to be thrown away; it was never useful, or even true in the first place. It comes from a place of hate, one that tries to invalidate human rights.
You cannot "support" people if you think they don't deserve a voice in the community. You're telling us that our sexuality isn't valid, that we, too, are somehow just posing (like the bisexual people were accused of doing), and secretly straight.
In the real world (this means off of Tumblr), in actual LGBTQIA+ communities, I've never been discriminated against for being ace, or been told I wasn't queer and didn't belong in the acronym or in the group, basically the only safe space I could find. Since, I think it's pretty clear you don't validate my opinion on queerness, despite being an adult and having been in the community.... My existence as a queer person has always been validated for being ace, and simply ace (because I didn't always want to share my gender identity). Being asexual to everyone except for a (pretty small) population of tumblr dot com and uneducated straight people, is valid, is queer, and historically, we've always been here and we've always been included and apart of the community. As I've said, it's only on that site, and it's only popped up within the last couple years, and its origins are basically from lesbian trans-exclusionary radical feminists, who hate the idea of people being attracted to men (bisexuals), or the idea that a woman could possibly exist in the body of a man (trans women), because they hate anything and everything that has to do with men. That's it, really. It's recycled bi and transphobia fueled by terfs, from tumblr, because a website is the only place where people get away with hate speech like that. Obviously you live in Canada and don't know this, but saying a lot of the stuff they do, if they were to say it in a public place, here in the US, they would be shoved into the back of a cop's car, and potentially arrested. Tumblr is the only place where they can keep their power. Don't let them, or any off-shoot of them and their followers spreading copied/similar rhetoric, influence you. If not influenced or stemmed from it, it's directly hate speech. It's preventing people like me from having a safe place to land, because, after having to defend myself from aphobes and terfs, I can't be on tumblr without being told to kill myself by their followers for simply not being attracted to a sex/gender, and I can't be myself around my family because if I came out as asexual they would force my grown ass into conversion therapy, try to force me into a relationship, and "make" me straight. We belong in the community because we're not "het" (and many of us aren't cis, anyway), and because, as you've already proven, people don't think we're real, think we're faking, think our sexuality is a choice, or think we can be "fixed" and forced to be attracted to someone. I never chose to be ace. I'm not attracted to the opposite sex, or the same sex, and I don't want heterosexuality shoved down my throat any more than you do. In fact, considering all of my abusers save for one were men, and considering I'm hit on often by men, the last person I would want to be in a relationship with is a man. Admittedly, many times I wish I could live in a world without cis men, because after what's happened to me, maybe such a place is somewhere I could finally feel safe in. I do not like men, do not feel attracted to them, kinda want nothing to do with them sometimes.
TL;DR:
Asexuality has always been apart of the LGBTQIA+ community, we've always been considered queer and have always been included for just being ace. (We've all been included before our letters were added to the acronym. Trans women were the people who started the riots at Stonewall and created our movement, and the T came after the L, G, and B.) Only a small portion, of one website (tumblr) believe being ace is "cishet", and these blogs are intentionally following in the footsteps of TERFS, who targeted trans and bi women in the past (and moved onto ace people once people ignored them). Asexuality, by definition, isn't, nor is it similar to, heterosexuality, because we're not attracted to the opposite sex. At all. Ever. Asexual means not being attracted to someone; being asexual has nothing to do with any kind of "preference" relating to having sex, how we have sex, or not having it at all; plenty of asexual people do have sex. Asexual is only a sexual orientation. Only relates to bodily attraction. Nothing else. Β
So please, stop telling us, and others, that asexuality is a "preference", a choice, or that we don't belong in the community. My sexuality, like yours, was never a choice, and my sexuality, like yours, has always been included in our community, and excluded from the outside world due to ignorance and hate. Asexual people have always belonged, we've always been in queer spaces, and we're discriminated for not participating in, not fitting into a cisgender heteronormative culture just like everyone else that isn't.... well, cisgender and heterosexual. We deserve respect just as much as anyone else, and we're not going away, we're not going to become straight and stop being queer because of those who choose to spread misinformation and hate about us. I can't fix your hate, I can only try to tell you information like what I have so you understand us, and hopefully, eventually accept and support us. Excluding some of us = excluding all of us, because we're a community of people fighting towards the same common goal, and we're a family. We're all queer and (not to steal from High School Musical... shit.) we're all in this together.
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