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youtu.be/qzPvx8VUSDw
JAVI AHAHHAAHHAHAHA remember when you talked about playing LA noire? well, I got so sick of getting everything wrong and the game being so slow that I just watched the play through. But now I'm watching some funny memes about it, and well. It's pretty freaking funny! Lol
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Javi, I'll get to your comments and emails soon! I've been trying to finish up a lot of commissions and get ready for the school fall semester to start!
I just wanted your opinion on something! What do you think about people like this?
I went to New Orleans with some master friends for my communications program, and that was already kind of sort of a mistake because I didn't generally absolutely love them, and to go on a trip with these people with a big step. But I guess one of the biggest mistakes I made was I only went because one of them told me that I don't hang out with them enough and I should think about people's feelings. Already think that's bull crap, because I've already hung out with them enough and decided they're not the best people to hang out with. Their sensitive, they gossip, they make quick judgments, they have a lot of assumptions, etc. I don't think I grow much as a person by hang out with people like that. But I do know for sure that I have random intellectual conversations with them when I eat out with them, so I decided going to New Orleans with them for about 3 days would not be that bad. Fast forward, and one of them invites some random person from the Masters program that I barely know. And then the other one says that that random stranger can invite her boyfriend, and bam. The entire dynamic of the trip, which was based off of the fleeting once a simply just eat some food and have some small random intellectual discussions gets completely changed by these random rude invitations. By the way, I'm not really even big on using the word "rude" at all. It was a word that he's annoying people keep using all the time to judge people, like oh, that's rude to do that. Oh, you should think about people's feelings because that would be rude. Almost like being rude and caring about people's feelings all the time was a strong enough logical argument to do nothing or anything at all. the world progress freaking anything if all we do is ask permission and think about other people's feelings constantly over and over again. But you know what was truly rude? SETTING UP A WHOLE TRIP FOR SPECIFICALLY THREE PEOPLE, AND THEN INVITING IN TWO RANDOM STRANGERS AT THE LAST MINUTE. NOW THAT... IS FREAKING RUDE.
One of them even tried to invite his boyfriend at the last minute, and I don't even truly enjoy his boyfriend half the time. There's no reason to! They're already having a rocky enough relationship, so I see absolutely no reason to bring a rocky relationship into the max. I had to absolutely say no to that, which is ridiculous, because this is already going to be hard enough.
/ Forward again, and that New Orleans trip was freaking awful. This is what I need your opinion on. What do you think about people who are aggressively adamant ongoing with the flow for EVERYTHING? Like, I can understand if some things can't be planned, and you just want to see how the day goes. But there are some things that do need to be playing, otherwise you're just using up time. For example, New Orleans was going by, and they were saying they were hungry. I asked him which of the food they wanted. They didn't explain it all. I was confused, because anyone else would have replied. After all, they're the ones who said they're hungry. I asked again if maybe they like Chinese or Mexican, and if so, I'll be on the lookout. And then literally all three of them... This just isn't really normal of a response that I'm used to... They said "cants we just walk along and figure it out?" IT IS FREAKING 90 OR MORE OUTSIDE, THEY CAN'T EVEN WALK MORE THAN 2 MI WITHOUT COMPLAINING. THEY NEED AN UBER FOR FREAKING EVERYTHING. THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT. NO ONE'S HAVING A GOOD CONVERSATION. I'M THE ONLY ONE TRYING TO MOVE THINGS ALONG. AND THEY GET ON TO ME FOR ASKING WHAT IT IS THAT THEY WANT.
Even the annoying douchebag who freaking set up the trip to begin with and try to invite a whole bunch of random people in and is so freaking indecisive and random my nature, didn't say didly swat. Every time he actually has in opinion, and you complain to him about it, that's when he give you a true opinion, enclosed quarters. He won't say it in public quarters, because he's freaking afraid of this s***. I see no reason to hang out with week people like this! Throughout the entire trip, if we go to an escape room, before the escape room starts, if I asked them if they want to set up a strategy as a team, which is the whole point of team building through escape rooms, One of them will be offended like "are you asking me if we should have a plan, or are you telling me we should have a plan?" I'm just confused, because I legitimately asked as politely as possible if they wanted to have a plan, or not? I realized they didn't want it, and I regregitated that back that now I know they want to play it by ear. Most of us had already done an escape room, so it's be honest, to completely go in blind just because you're the only one who hasn't done an escape room it's ridiculous! they're just stressing out the trip more because they don't even know what the heck they want! It really bothered and made me sad because it seemed like they were trying to constantly imply that I was making things less fun. But this isn't fun! Going out in sweltering heat without having any place to go, not knowing what direction we're going to, just letting someone pull us along or not having an opinion no matter what someone tells them about... The biggest issue that I had was...
In the car on the way to New Orleans, I was trying to get to know the random strangers, and they said that they can't go to sleep at night thinking that they've hurt someone's feelings. I felt that was very sad, and I told them that they have to get used to hurting somebody's feelings out there in this world, but having a conversation is more important. The other one also said that it's really important to get to know different cultures and understand mindsets before you judge just because you have a different one. I respect it what they were saying. But what they do is completely different! They're very antagonistic, they don't answer questions all that well, they keep their opinions in until they're blowing up. They don't actually tell their opinions unless it's personal. They hide behind a lot of things. It makes communications 10 times worse. Even before the escape room, one of them said something really annoying that I just don't agree with. The whole point of an escape room is the team building. they were telling me that it will be perfectly fine, because we're all communication master students. I think that's very interesting, because just because you're a freaking master student in something doesn't mean you're actually a master in it. To have that type of random confidence in it doesn't make any sense. Sure enough, I definitely didn't blend in with how high anxiety all of them were. One of the ones very good at doing puzzles, but the other ones were just freaking out just randomly looking in. Was there any teamwork? No, there was just random flowing and a lot of shouting. I don't really think that really shows great communication skills at all. so no, just because your communication master student doesn't mean that you're excellent at communicating. To be honest, we all had different communication styles, and the moment I tried to open up discussing to try to share my communication style, they wouldn't have it. They didn't want to talk about it. What type of communication is that?
Overall, how to freaking terrible terrible time in New Orleans. But thank God for New Orleans being awesome! But I couldn't shake over the feeling that I'm going to see some of these random strangers in my master classes over the fall. A sort of be more okay if I didn't have to see them again. But some of these guys are my classmates! And now that I know that some of them are so intagnistic and would not answer any of my questions, how am I going to be able to understand them to tolerate them? I know for sure in the academic setting, you're more likely to be pressured to have to give your opinion. I noticed that the girl that I was arguing with sometimes doesn't really give an opinion, even though behind the scenes, she goes strong opinions when necessary. Which is strange, because she doesn't speak up as much? I'm really confused, to be honest? Lol
But yeah, there's just so much that was so strange. These are such a different people. But just because they're different, doesn't mean we can't have a conversation. However, the convocation station really didn't work out. I was doing my best to understand them, but they really weren't doing their best understand me. What type of tolerance was that? I was no more as the blunt person who wasn't afraid to one, hurt someone's feelings just because they're feelings, but I also want things to progress. If they can't accept that whatsoever, or can't even try to understand why I would do that, how is this going to work out? I would be more likely to accept them if they're willing to explain why they're so sensitive over everything? Terminology, anything. Anything that I said just to strike up a conversation or just give a random fact about something, they would literally ignore. It may no sense?! so I guess it's just those random moments where you can't just believe everything someone says. If they say they're such a good person, that's nice, but they'll have to prove it. And then the moment when I see you some weird just a position between their words and their actual actions, I put that into account, and I might even address it with them. And to be honest, at this point, I'm kind of done with the idea of this psycho analysis of whether it's nicer not to do or ask or confront people about things. Sorry, but I'm way past the stage where just the active asking questions and confrontation needs to be so heavily watched all the time. Either have that conversation, or don't. Simple as that.
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I totally get what you’re saying and I have mixed experiences with stuff like this before. I personally think that you shouldn’t go anywhere or with anyone that doesn’t spark an interest or joy. And yeah, your colleagues sound really indecisive and incompetent, It’s like they just thought about this road trip but with no future planning.
My parents would ask or INSIST That I would go to church every Sunday but when I decline, that’s when they start weaponizing the faith against me. I ask them, do they even know why you’re going? Because if you don’t know or give me a good enough reason, I don’t want to spend 3 unfulfilling hours of my life listening to bad Christian music and I am a Christian. Lol
In terms of arguments, Lately I’ve been trying to understand the art of arguments and why it happens. The definition version of argument would mean two opposing ideas or a dispute but in everybody’s lives, it’s more like...
HEY F@#K YOU!!! NO F@#K YOU!!! WANNA TAKE IT OUTSIDE??? NO LETS TAKE IT TO YOUR MAMA”S HOUSE INSTEAD!!! Conflict happens...
UPS is a place where this kind of dialogue could happen, Especially From a person you don’t like. I’m not saying everyone is a bad person in UPS, People are just there to work and collect their pay. There’s just people that don’t acknowledge their fellow worker and speaking to them in a condescending way. It’s funny because the supervisors don’t accept excuses but all they do is GIVE YOU EXCUSES INSTEAD when you encounter a problem that’s an inconvenience to them. I’m just not the type who likes to receive sass, I recently had a supervisor, (two actually) to tell me that I’m not keeping track of the area codes or the marked Xs but at the end of the day, that isn’t my responsibility, I’m only the unloader who unloads the stuff. If they care so much, then why there wasn’t a sorter in the area that does that for me. As if they expect me to do a 130% when really, All I can do is 50 or 60 like the average person. They preach about teamwork and safety and yet put you alone in a line of trucks and expect you to do a Houdini and make them all disappear. They'll even tell you to hurry the f@#k up so they can go home and f@#k their girlfriends. (If they have one) I won’t lie, there are days where I just wanna quit on the spot and tell them to f@#k off, I’m so close in considering another job but this is the only job on the market that pays $14 an hour and I just got my health benefits so... we will see. Man I can’t believe it’s a year now working in this joint!
I don’t have it in me to tell people the truth even though I should. I don’t mind the truth as long as the person is willing to tell me why or stay engage in a conversation with me and not just tell me shit and feed their ego.
Sometimes I Don’t say my opinions because I don’t want to disappoint anyone but when they ask me about certain things and I tell them the truth, they get disappointed and write me off as disappointing. My parents always ask me questions where they ready know the answer but if I say the answer, it starts the drama or maybe I don’t want to give them that justification but hey, this is me. But it would be great to tell people my true feelings and not have to worry about getting shot down for speaking my mind.
I understand people tell hard truths so that people could realize their situations but when you have people say... JAVIER!!! YOU NEED TO GET YOUR LIFE TOGETHER!!!
And never tell me why or Saying it for the sake of saying it. It’s like bluntly telling someone that their overweight, It’s more like telling the obvious then the truth. I could be wrong but I believe the truth is most effective when said at the right time. It’s even better if you are connecting to someone and not just saying random stuff to a stranger.
I have a mom and brother likes to preach about their truth but hates it when they’re in the wrong side of it. Can one tell the difference between truth and personal truth?
Also random fact, old Cuban folks like to say blunt things for no reason. Lol
So far, has this help you in your disposition?
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Javi, I saw your comments! Sorry for taking so long to get back to you! I have, like, 5 internships and graduate classes! I will reply to you in full as best I can when this semester ends around beginning of May, if you do not mind! I need to finish school and answer all these dang emails!
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Hey buu! will you be able to go to Supercon this year? I already got my four day pass!
Also, would you like to Go grab something to eat somewhere after the con? Since we love talking about food. Lol
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Oh Sorry if I’ve been expressive lately i like to brag every stupid thing that happened. Lol
I’m almost wrapping up school as well and UPS is being UPS again. I’ve been applying to target or hobby lobby just in case things go sour.
I have faith in you boo!
Pfft...Overachiever 😂 😝
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SUBMIT SOME NEW ART, YOU DOOFUS! I AM WAITING, ARUGHHHH
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I have been discovering new art methods for painting but lately I’ve been too nervous to pick up the pen or brush... 😔
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BTW, I remember you saying that voice acting was one of your interests. I recently signed up for a volunteer book reading/voice acting website called LibriVox, and I think you would be into it, if you want to do something fun and build up your portfolio on the side. I have not voice acted and read out books for them yet, but I like that I have the tab up in case I want to do something new!:
librivox.org/pages/volunteer-f…
Since you and I text through iMessage sometimes, I also want to know how that iPad Pro is serving you? I LOVE MINE TO *scream on mountain and middle of university clssroom* DEATHHHHHHH
Anyways, I am also doing my best not to get overwhelmed with all the work I must for school and work and finances and shennegeins, which is also why I am replying back as much as I can! Huff hfff hfff *deep breaths*
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