grievuspwn4g3 In reply to noirre [2019-01-11 07:27:55 +0000 UTC]

Hi! No Problem ^^

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noirre In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2019-01-24 20:11:56 +0000 UTC]

It's been a small eternity, how you been?

I kind of stopped coming here after I started writing elsewhere. I have a writing server on Discord if you're interested? AL's pretty quiet these days... :l

disboard.org/server/3741261468…   <- Hop in if you wish. c:

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to noirre [2019-02-17 08:41:04 +0000 UTC]

Just started teaching at a new school - when I'm no longer tearing my hair out that would be lovely.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to MewMewMizuno [2012-06-04 21:45:31 +0000 UTC]

no prob

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to 3wyl [2012-02-03 08:59:35 +0000 UTC]

Hi,

Thank you kindly.

I'll be sure to take a look around, especially as I have already entered the two current prompts. Any idea how they stack up?

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3wyl In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2012-02-03 17:01:39 +0000 UTC]

How do you mean how they stack up?

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to 3wyl [2012-02-03 17:29:19 +0000 UTC]

Bad use of slang, I apologise.

I wondered if they were what you were after.

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3wyl In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2012-02-04 14:19:18 +0000 UTC]

Ah, if they're not, we will let you know!

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-01 05:49:20 +0000 UTC]

teaching, assisting. so bellowing and instructing, by and large.

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-01 07:37:33 +0000 UTC]

Funtimes. I've been sick and more sick mostly.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-02 05:51:24 +0000 UTC]

shame. how is the training going?

Have you asked a recruiter to help you figure out a training regimen?

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-02 08:01:21 +0000 UTC]

I fell down a flight of stairs and hurt my back again and so I've stopped working out for now but I hope to start again soon.

I went to a recruiter and was told that it was impossible for me to join as I'm a single parent. My ex offered to take the kids from me but I don't know if that is an option I would want to go with, plus, the kids don't seem keen on the idea of living with him.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-04 02:27:07 +0000 UTC]

Any particular reason? Or do they simply distrust his ability to run a household?

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-05 02:28:41 +0000 UTC]

I don't exactly know why they have told me they don't want to go live with him. It's sort of a mystery, specially since he is considered the "fun" parent.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-06 07:41:36 +0000 UTC]

Would they have to leave the area?

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-06 17:06:22 +0000 UTC]

well, they wont be living in the city where they are living now. Either way they will move but neither of us live outside of this state and we both live within 1 hour of each other... so I dunno.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-08 06:05:17 +0000 UTC]

hmm... I'll go with not completely trusting him to run a household. I'm not saying he's at fault, but generally speaking a lot of children get most attached to the primary care-giver: who-ever that happens to be.

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-09 06:43:22 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, that's what he was saying too. That if I just sucked it up and handed them over, eventually they wouldn't want to live with me instead because they would grow more attached to him. I'm not saying that's wrong, I'm just saying they don't want to go and I don't see the point in forcing them.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-14 09:24:56 +0000 UTC]

It wouldn't necessarily work the way he thinks anyway. Most likely they'll go through a period of hating the both of you.

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-15 08:29:16 +0000 UTC]

I agree, they are probably going to go through phases where they dislike and are angry with us both. I have no issue with that and fully expect it to come. It's just terribly hard to deal with with all else that is going on.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-19 05:15:24 +0000 UTC]

So, give me a brief run-down. Of everything - even if you've mentioned it already.

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-19 06:43:07 +0000 UTC]

Okay but in short format

- The divorce
- not being able to find a job
- getting kicked out and needing to find a place to stay
- hold up on paperwork so no state help
- been sick
- financial problems
- stuck in the middle of a terrible argument between three other people about my car
- having to give the kids to my ex for a month because of the whole homeless factor

yeah...

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-06-21 09:29:28 +0000 UTC]

Have I got this right?

First, you got divorced -- I remember you going through what happened at the time.

You can't find work -- neither can I.

The lack of work means that you've run out of money -- I'm assuming that you got kicked out because you had no money. I'm in a similar boat. You've got financial problems, so have I. We would have financial problems, because we have no money. What are the ramifications on your end?

You've been sick -- my tonsils have been flaring up for more than a month but that's just a pain in the neck. One that I don't need while I'm trying to show what a good teacher I could be, but minor nevertheless.

Because you're homeless, you have to give the kids to your ex -- well at least they're taken care of. I'm sure that he is trustworthy. And you aren't physically capable of taking care of them anyway. As far as they're concerned, you have to find somewhere to stay. The 'sensible' option would probably be to let them stay there until you have regular work and can afford a place big enough. But that may not be the right choice for you -- what are you thoughts?

But what do three other people want with your car? If you sold it and split the cash four ways, could you still buy a small thing to live with? If so, do it -- you don't need the hassle. But tell me more.

As for paperwork -- civil service personnel around the globe train specifically to piss people off. I've dealt with them too. What have you applied for? Where's the hold up?

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-06-21 23:12:34 +0000 UTC]

I'm technically not divorced. At this point it would be more like legal separation but I want a divorce, staying married is just a hassle, it keeps me from being able to get certain types of financial help but even though he asked me for it and he left, he wont pony up the amount to pay for it and I haven't bothered to talk to him about paying half as I haven't had my half anyways.

I can't find work and I've applied EVERYWHERE.

I'm actually not being kicked out because of the lack of money. I'm being kicked out because my dad and I got into an argument because he believes I should do things to my ex that I believe are wrong to do. My dad wants vengeance for being put into a bad spot many years ago because of a situation that came up where my ex helped me. My dad brought the punishment that was dealt upon himself and so he has no one to blame but himself but he doesn't like to see it that way and I will not punish my ex for doing the right thing then just because he did the wrong thing later. I am not a spiteful or vengeful person, or at least I hope I'm not, I strive not to be.

I have been sick, the ear infection put me under far more than I expected it to. I got really sick and spent almost a week just sleeping, waking only to do some laundry, dishes and make food. Before that I had my trip down the stairs and wasn't walking much because of that but I'm pretty much back to normal now.

The kids are spending the next month with my ex because it is his time during the summer to have them. He offered to take them, though I think thats just a ploy to get out of paying child support, which sounds shitty of me to assume but seems more accurate than anything else. I am physically able to take care of my children. I was sick and injured but I never stopped taking care of them just because of that. There was no one else to do it for me and now the worse of all that is over. Yeah, I've thought about just letting them stay at their dad's place till I am really stable but it really isn't sensible to do that either. He lives with his girlfriend on post, she already rents out all of her rooms to other people, so they will most likely be sleeping on the couch in a crowded apartment type housing unit with a bunch of other people, so either way, it's about the same.

I cant sell the car and even if I did I wouldn't split the money any which way, I would just pay off my loan and be done with it and be car-less. I'm stuck because the car is my only card left. Like I said, my dad wants me to get my ex into a great deal of trouble but I tell him I cant do that because my car loan is cosigned by my ex's dad. I haven't been able to pay for the car for the last couple of months so his dad is covering it for me, as of right now, though I'm not sure how much longer that is going to last but if I go and make my ex's life hard... I'm sure it will stop immediately. However my dad doesn't think it would be right of my ex's dad to just stop helping me because it helps his grandkids but my dad wont be reasonable and understand that people just aren't like that. vengeance comes from anger and there is no better way to anger someone then to mess up their child's life. So my dad is angry at me for using my loan as a means to keep the situation from blowing up, so he has chosen to no longer help me.

The hold up is that I need paperwork saying I am on the loan but I cant seem to get the paperwork from the bank and my ex's father isn't too happy with me because I haven't been able to make the payments. This is keeping me from getting dshs help.

So there you have the billion word explanation. ^-^; I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. Wouldn't it be nice for them all to go away. I hope yours get better soon.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-07-06 03:28:05 +0000 UTC]

So... point-by-point

He has all the money, the shelter and the kids. And he won't pay for the divorce that _he_ wants. I say you play down you desires for a divorce. If he is the only one who wants it, then he is the one who pays for it.

Neither can I - a year-and-a-half and two countries (three cities) later, I am still unemployed. My girlfriend has been paying my rent. I've going out with this girl for two-and-a-half months, and I have already bankrupted the poor girl. Aren't I lovely.

Then don't be spiteful. You have enough on your plate. Either he helps or he hinders. If he hinders, then he is a hassle that you don't need, so forget him - deal with him later, when you have the energy.

What about the rest of your family? Can your mother/siblings/cousins/anyone take care of them?

See if anyone has an old banger. So long as it's street-legal and runs, you aren't in a position to choose.

Agree a sale-price with your ex-husband's father, and try run an old banger with what you have left afterwards. Failing that, get a cheap bike, maybe $50 second-hand thing. You really can't afford the extra-hassle at the moment.

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-07-10 19:08:10 +0000 UTC]

I havent played up my want for a divorce.

I'm not.

Are you kidding?

The car thing is not going to be resolved, it is just what it is.

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2011-07-10 22:28:46 +0000 UTC]

*hug*

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2011-07-11 00:09:59 +0000 UTC]

*hugs back*

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to daffodil-disease [2011-04-13 22:05:39 +0000 UTC]

np

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to TheJadeEffect [2011-03-30 03:25:27 +0000 UTC]

np

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Tivarah [2011-03-21 23:42:43 +0000 UTC]

np

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Meeq [2011-03-21 07:26:58 +0000 UTC]

np

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2009-10-30 19:06:42 +0000 UTC]

hug

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2009-11-03 16:55:23 +0000 UTC]

shnuggles back

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2009-10-20 15:43:11 +0000 UTC]

then i disappear - hehe

*hugs*

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2009-10-20 18:59:04 +0000 UTC]

But you always come back.


Shnuggles

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2009-10-21 06:18:41 +0000 UTC]

i'm the boomerang kid

cuddles

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Katalalyn In reply to grievuspwn4g3 [2009-10-21 08:55:48 +0000 UTC]

Is that your superhero name?

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grievuspwn4g3 In reply to Katalalyn [2009-10-22 04:56:21 +0000 UTC]

yup - you got one?

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