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caitlin-may — You're so skinny, eat a burger or something!
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I cannot explain how sick of these comments I am. “You are too skinny, go eat a cheeseburger” or “you are too fat, go eat a salad.” I see it on models pages, I see it in comments, I see it in real life.These comments are equally as bad as the other as they both suggest that that person should be feeling insecure about their body because it isn’t quite right.
Most of these individuals do not have eating disorders, but even if they do – do you think these comments help them feel better about themselves?
It is important to remember, that despite all the hate regardless of what the scales say – there is nothing wrong with your body. You are beautiful, you are perfect. This is a way for others to push their own insecurities onto you. To be judgmental for the sake of being judgmental. To hate for the sake of hating.
Be healthy and love yourself. That’s all that is important.
Please note that this is a self portrait. So it is me in the picture. I am perfectly healthy. I excersize and I try to have a balanced diet. There is nothing wrong with me - that's kind of the point.
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i hate eating because i feel fat vut i dont want to see my ribs i just wanna feel ok not even pretty just ok
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People should not comment on other peoples weight. You don't know what they've been trough. Some might have been through illness, mental health issues, working on losing/gaining weight or (sooo crazily) might be comfortable the way they are. Thank you for sharing this incredible and insiring photo.
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People are annoying and should mind their own business, that's what I think. I constantly have my family telling me, "You're too thin, I'm worried!" And I eat more than them, and I'm not even as thin as you. It's pretty disheartening, especially when I worked hard for the body I have.
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(This was supposed to be the last part of my comment, but I have to post it here because the page thinks it's spam. So I'm sorry for the disorganized bombardment of paragraphs... Nothing you're not used to though, as far as I can see 
The hardest thing is to convert the anger rooted in offense. This anger, derived of insults that transcend aesthetic preference and dare to criticize mental stability, is hard to overcome. (All who look a certain way MUST be victims of vanity, while others MUST be lazy. Yes that MUST be it.) Nope. It is our job as a minority to provide edification to the naïve, should they want it. Despite the oodles of fickle concern, and even jealousy masquerading as genuine worry, there is such a thing as sincere unawareness. And to THESE people, I hope to deliver an enlightening film seasoned with humor, despite the seriousness of the situation, which could only come across if it is shown with levity. So, please, if you have any ideas, stories, or even proof of health ‘despite’ being thin, please contact me and I promise that I will try to play a part in alleviating our struggles.
Good luck and never stop taking beautiful photos! Jeesh they are lovely!
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Dear fellow victims of Ignorance,
As someone who has endured a lifetime of prejudice and premature derision, I am in the process of making a documentary about this, and I was pleased to see you address both sides of the issue regarding weight- judgment, as it is not only true and poignant, but also exactly the theme of this project. Please contact me at adrienne.cicerone@aol.com if you want to be involved.
If you are interested, please let me (virtually) introduce myself, at least in the context of the topic at hand. My name is Adrienne. I am 25 years old, 5'8", 106 lbs and, frankly, I'm perfectly healthy. I have been like this since I was born; I've been labeled a "genetic rarity" and a "metabolic phenomenon" by doctors and nutritionists alike, and if I eat less than 3,000 calories a day, I lose weight uncontrollably. (In fact, I lose weight if I eat less than 4,000 calories, should I happen to do anything physical that day.) It has been a nightmare for as long as I can remember. ...But why? …I’m happy… I’m physically comfortable- in a sort of aerodynamic kinda way... I have an insanely loving husband... Then why??? If anything, the epicenter of any unfairness in my life is found in my own brain- where compliments clash with the repulsive reflection I see in the mirror; Like Gollum from the Lord of the Rings in drag. My arms in particular are freakishly skinny, almost misguiding in a sense. So I understand the judgment, especially in our day. Setting out to eradicate it would just be disappointing. But that is not my plan.
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As long as you are healthy . you are beautiful
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please keep posting pretty photos
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forgive me, I thought it was you in photo, do you have that problem with people also? do not let them get to you....
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xD Yeah I do sometimes, and it's ok! I am actually way too skinny for my age. I can see all my ribs ;n;
thank you for the advice <3
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My wife says that but I tell her I love her ribs and then tickle her. Never worry about other criticism when they try and take you down. If you are asking for constructive criticism to better yourself then you can deal with that. what is your age if you do not mind? you can answer in notes if you wish. If you are healthy you are doing well, be happy.
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No, sorry. I don't reveal that. c:
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Absolutely nothing wrong with you, Cool photo, good message. I know how you feel people tell me all the time that I look like I don't eat enough, am too skinny ect. like it's my fault and there's something wrong with me, if only they knew, I eat sooo much! Literally snacks everywhere on my desk right now lol.
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She is extremely beautiful. Perfect body. Not an anorectic - just close to - but perfect!.
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Anorexia has nothing to do with how you look. It's a mindset, it's about fearing eating food, and seeing your body different than how it actually is. People think that you have to be incredibly skinny to be anorexic, but that's not what anorexia is. You can be overweight, and develop anorexic behavior that will eventually LEAD to being emaciated, but the appearance of ones body is not anorexia.
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Beautiful! The concept of the photo is great and the description is so true! As long as you're healthy and happy, nothing else matters!
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I came across this just now when I was (to no good end) browsing for people who have had similar experiences to me and this is just so perfect. Just wanted to let you know you've managed to explain it with a photo and that's awesome.
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Trying to find an answer to that is hard... I mean there is a level of skinny/heavy that is unhealthy, because it is damaging your organs and stuff like that. Just like you said, be healthy. The question that I have is, do people that damage themselves realize what they do? As far as I know only people with a disorder don´t realize their actual self anymore, but how do you know if the person in question has a disorder or not?
However just like you said, we are not doctors, and we can´t see through a picture if a person is mentally stable or not, so the comments on gain weight/loose weight are pointless.
But how would you make a person (that you actually know) realize that he/she is damaging him/herself?
I think it is hard to give any advice to something like this, because it requires a lot of insight and it wont work at all if the person in question doesn´t want to realize it.
Bottom-line, I think sometimes people need to be saved from themselves, but is very difficult to do that, as well as judge the given situation properly. Which pretty much means that in a comment section you can do nothing, except if the person posting the image gives you a hint that he/she wants help and even then it´s better to send the to an expert rather than play psychiatrist yourself.
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I grew up with the "you're too skinny" and "eat something" comments as well, from acquaintances as well as my friends growing up, every single day. No amount of logic will make the comments stop because it's mob-mentality. I know it's so easy for people who have an average size to say "you look sick" or "you need to gain weight", but that's just ignorance. They're no experts, and they're assuming too much. As long as you know you're healthy, that's all that matters. As far as the picture goes, the message is beautiful, you're beautiful, and your resolve for not being broken down by the hurtful comments should be inspiring for anyone who gets bullied for their appearance.
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that's good you're healthy. it freaked me out for a second because when i was bony it wasn't natural, i just used calorie restiction and lots of exercise. i was miserable and wimpy. -_- better now but it's always so puzzling to me when thin people are offended if someone makes fun of them for being thin when clearly they're just jealous!you are very pretty the way you are, but you're also very good at what you do. and i think that matters most
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being skinny is someone's personal decision
Personally, I feel that people shouldn't feel the need to strive to fit an ideal "image"
But if you are skinny, that's fine with me
eat what you want! A salad, a burger or what ever
This is an awesome image btw
The way your hand is on your hip juts out your shoulder blade in a cool way and I like it
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Your words are so beautiful and this photo is too, your message is very amazing and just so right and true, congratulations~<3
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I also get that all the time, and it especially annoys people because I am vegan... Therefore I almost everyday get comments about what I eat/do not eat during for instance the lunch break at work. I am also very sick of it!
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Even when I had anorexia, those comments didn't help. Yeah let's all go eat a cheeseburger because some person thinks you're too skinny. All that does is alienate the person, it doesn't help. Now I'm overweight because of medication and someone telling me I need to go on weight watchers is more an insult than a helpful comment. Chances are, the person will KNOW if they're unhealthy and already be trying to fix it. If they're not worried, I don't understand why people can't just butt out and let them live.
In short, I agree with you 
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Some people are just thin. I wonder if it's jealousy that causes people to pick up a crusader attitude in telling people to gain weight. Because in their eyes, someone is too thin. There are people who starve themselves so they can falsely believe they're beautiful. But there are also people who are just naturally skinny.
It's a serious generalization to tell every thin person you meet to eat more food because you think that thin people only exist because of self-starvation. There isn't a perfect body type/weight that every person should be. Some people are big-boned, dense with muscles or extra fat. While some people are just naturally the opposite.
That's like telling a short person to grow taller. Which is hilarious. We are what we are, so let us be that.
I dunno why I got all preachy. But it was so refreshing to see a post with a skinny girl that wasn't being negative to thin people. So thanks for that.
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There is nothing wrong with you at all. I'm about 50 pounds 'underweight' for my height and sex, and I get the same comments all the time. Which is why I love it when people see how much I actually do eat. It always opens up the door to 'where are you putting all of that?!"
... In my 'anorexic' stomach, jackass.
Anyway, great picture, great sentiment. Love it. Don't change, you're just fine the way you are.
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If someone is obese or underweight and in denial they should be reminded of it. It may sound like insults, but it needs to be motivation because even though you might be beautiful the way you are..unhealthy is still not good for you and some people are concerned about others.
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HAHAHA.. oh you're serious?
My mistake for getting offended. It's just.. motivation for.. what? To become LESS thin? As I said, this is a natural thing for me. I am not unhealthy. Stop insulting people.
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It's not insulting someone if they need to be told they are too thin and they are not doing anything about it. It's self-destruction.
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How can you be so blind? How do you KNOW it's self destruction - how do you know it isn't just genetics?
If someone IS sick, will telling them to eat a burger help them? no. Eating disorders are serious, and the are mental illnesses that will not be helped by negativity.
And I'm not saying don't go up to someone you know who has lost a lot of weight and say "hey, I noticed you've lost a lot of weight recently, are you okay?"
I'm just saying do not go up to people and say "you are so skinny! go eat a hamburger." or "geez you're fat, eat a salad or something" THAT is rude.
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I know that the odds of a model being too skinny from genetics are far less likely than the fact that they are probably starving themselves. I'm not saying to openly attack people for their weight either. I'm just saying it's not okay to let someone who has an eating disorder or is obese to think that they are okay and healthy that way. It's more of a matter of health concern than personal attacks. As someone who survived anorexia...I'm not interested in attacking people for their weight.
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I've been working in the industry for 6 years and have met with countless models. I see them eat on and after shoots and hear them talk about how theyre craving some fast food etc.. Most models are 14-21 these days - at these ages they are still in their high metabolism stage and can eat what they want without fear of gaining anything. There are girls, of course, that do not have this, and as a result have to change their eating habits. However, they still eat. They usually turn vegan or consume mostly legumes, fruits, vegetables and organic products. Their diets just become HEALTHIER and they cut out the fast food and start paying attention to their bodies. I have never photographed anyone who didnt eat. How long have you been a photographer for? how many models have you met? Where is this statistic that shows the odds of models being 'too skinny' from not eating?
People can be okay and be underweight. Or be okay and be overweight. There are the extremes, and that is when someone needs to step in (aka, so thin they're to the point of collapsing, not eating at all - so fat they are having major health concerns) but EVEN THEN I would never flippantly say to eat a burger, I would get them medical treatment or assistance.
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Well, if they're going to get a cocky attitude with me when I try to help them than saying go eat a burger is basically the same thing as saying either be responsible for your body or fuck off. I've met a lot of alternative models. Mostly many emo and scene girls. Most of them are strung out on drugs and only eat once every couple of days. Many models do not eat because they are so obsessed with being skinny. I actually received more model offers when I was suffering from anorexia than when I finally became the appropriate weight I am now. Being underweight or overweight at any rate isn't right or healthy. Even a little bit does damage as you are not the size that is right for you. There are still many many models out there that are too skinny, malnourished, in blatant denial when people offer them help, and they even want to get a cocky attitude.
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I cannot be bothered arguing with your non-sensical ranting. I disagree with every point you say. I'm done, youre an idiot. Good day.
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Oh, I wasn't aware stating my point of view was considered ranting. Maybe if your head wasn't so far up your own ass my comment would make some sense to you. You're all the same. You people are justifying eating disorders. Having a metabolism so fast that you're underweight is an extremely RARE medical condition. Also, what are the odds that all of you underweight models give the same damn excuse? Magically being a model who is underweight it is actually just your metabolism and has NOTHING to do with the fact that you're starving yourself? You did exactly what I describe that every butthurt, pro-anorexia model does. You blindly attack my statement and are too much of a pussy to hear it from me so you block me because you know blocking people means you're clearly the better person who has won the argument right? I never block anyone because no matter how much I am annoyed or disagree everyone deserves the chance to speak. People like you irk me as someone who SURVIVED anorexia and depression throughout my teenage years I can tell you that nothing pisses me off more than someone who tries to make excuse for their eating disorders. If you wanna get an attitude with me because you want to justify the fact that you have a crappy diet and don't eat enough perhaps you should do a little growing up and realise you have a problem. Someone who lives in denial and promotes the denial of others is not something I'm going to tolerate. Being body positive requires being positive about a healthy body size. Eating disorders and being underweight or overweight are not body positive things no matter how major or minor the case it. It all does damage and if you're not going to recognize this maybe you're the idiot who can't handle the truth. Only people who are in denial and can't handle the truth block people. I always hear someone out and I continue to work it out no matter how heated the debate is. I never block because I am intelligent enough to take in both points of view and evaluate it as my own. Most of the models I met were on drugs, bulimic, or anorexic and when I would point it out to them that they really need help they would attack me just like you did. Most models who look too skinny are too skinny and it sickens me that people like you defend it! Unhealthy is unhealthy and you're defending people who are slowly committing dietary suicide and I will not have it. There's no way in hell that all models who are super skinny have dangerously fast metabolisms. That's the worst excuse I've ever heard from anyone. Please, use logic and stop supporting eating disorders. You wanted a real rant? Well you've got one, bitch.
PS. Eat a cheeseburger.
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