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Girl-Of-Roses-Hanna In reply to papuruikazuchi [2010-10-05 21:59:05 +0000 UTC]

Agreed, but sometimes the age can create a problem. Example: I'm 19 in love with a 28 year old. Sometimes it's great, we're simply in love, but other times, the maturity levels cause a rift between and I feel like a foolish little girl chasing after a silly dream.

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papuruikazuchi In reply to Girl-Of-Roses-Hanna [2010-10-05 22:06:44 +0000 UTC]

Well, maturity levels can count for any relationship. I can be much, much more mature than other people of even my very same age. I know several people older than me who have much, much lower maturity levels than people of their age as well. I guess if you can find someone to match you on your level, or not condemn you if you have your more immature moments, then it won't be as much of a problem.

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Girl-Of-Roses-Hanna In reply to papuruikazuchi [2010-10-07 20:34:47 +0000 UTC]

You're making a common mistake that has an awesome Latin name I can't remember right now but pretty much means "If its true for me, it must be true for others on a whole."

I have been known for a long time in my group of friends as the very mature one. I was forced to grow up quickly when I was thrust into a very adult situation when I was 9, so I feel older than all my peers. Even with this, I still have problems with my 28 year old boy. You can be a more mature person, but simply put, he has experienced more life than me, and that is the problem, and it always will be with people who chose to be involved with older people.

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papuruikazuchi In reply to Girl-Of-Roses-Hanna [2010-10-07 20:38:26 +0000 UTC]

"I guess if you can find someone to match you on your level, or not condemn you if you have your more immature moments, then it won't be as much of a problem. "

Y'know, sorry if I happen to use an example from my own life. \:l

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Girl-Of-Roses-Hanna In reply to papuruikazuchi [2010-10-08 19:18:36 +0000 UTC]

I'm not meaning to argue. I'm just saying.
And its a little hard to discuss something like this with someone when they don't understand that age may not matter between the people and to their love, but it will always cause problems. Whether it be maturity levels, life experiences, health, whatever.

And on the matching thing, even if you can get your maturity to match, it still isn't that person. I love Carlos because he's Carlos, not because he's 28, not because he's more or less mature that other people his age.

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