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florchys103 β€” Identity problem.
Published: 2010-10-08 16:16:42 +0000 UTC; Views: 4113; Favourites: 128; Downloads: 15
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Description I'm a girl, an average girl.

I look at other girls, analyze their potential, whether they are cute or not and I sometimes wonder if their boobs are natural or man-made. But that's what girls do, right? We criticize each other.

I'm just another girl.

I sometimes have problems with my body and how I look, problems with my reflection in the mirror. So I seek baggy clothes, to hide myself. Yet in this culture only guys are allowed to use baggy clothes, so I have to buy in the man's section, because their clothes are cuter and softer and I feel more comfortable in them. But that's something I can't help, right?

I'm… what am I?
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LeoDavidJones [2016-11-11 19:54:25 +0000 UTC]

Shut up

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Fun-time-foxy In reply to LeoDavidJones [2017-11-30 06:04:42 +0000 UTC]

Burn in hell

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QuiteLoner [2015-07-16 21:07:02 +0000 UTC]

I feel the same but the other way around,but I can only dress in girl clothes when I'm aloneΒ 

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poetreble2002 [2014-01-31 01:24:39 +0000 UTC]

Feel the power girlfriend, I face the same problem, but I keep doing it!

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TGGord [2013-11-08 13:47:25 +0000 UTC]

Don't worry, you're not alone in it.

I don't know if that would make you feel better, not that girls in male clothes are often accepted by society, but guys in female clothes are called freaks more often... well, is that just a personal feeling or truth? I don't really know.

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yamiyuki1 [2013-01-21 05:10:59 +0000 UTC]

* hugs* that happens to me too~!

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Chrissijulius [2012-12-02 20:41:05 +0000 UTC]

This is how I feel about myself too! Not the body, though... I have learned to love my body after a boyfriend (ex) that told me I was beautiful until I believed him <3 I have always loved boy's clothes and baggy pants, not because I want to hide myself, just because they are much more comfortable.

I have also wondered how my life would be if I was a boy. Once, a little boy came up to me and asked "are you a boy or a girl?" I answered girl (because I am one) and he said to me that I didn't look like one And my best friend (or mental twin, if you like) said to me that "I would marry you if you were a boy" and I wished to be a boy from that moment on. I still wish to be one..... They are not so complicated...

Well this was long......... After reading some comments I have realized that I am not alone and can wake up more confident tomorrow! Thank you for sharing your feelings. It might help someone <3

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fastpager200 [2012-10-13 20:50:36 +0000 UTC]

"I'm.. what am I?"
lesbian? cmon, gays act like girls, so lesbians act like boys, right? sorry iff anybodys offended.

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WulfHang [2011-06-04 02:43:59 +0000 UTC]

I think identity should be whatever you want, not separated by men or women

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florchys103 In reply to WulfHang [2011-07-16 15:22:38 +0000 UTC]

haha, now i know how right you are! and in my personal experience, talking here in da has helped me a lot in doing so, as you talk with people regardless their age or sex or ideology....you learn to appreciate what they say and not who they are physically

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WulfHang In reply to florchys103 [2011-07-27 20:54:35 +0000 UTC]

True that

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iridiana [2010-12-25 02:57:17 +0000 UTC]

So honest. So beautifully honest.
Thank you for writing this. This -- truthfully? -- is how I feel, vast periods of the time.

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florchys103 In reply to iridiana [2010-12-25 23:19:31 +0000 UTC]

uoh, I'm sorry to hear that.....you really should read the comments made on this piece, I highly recommend it...It helped me a lot! I hope it also helps you!

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iridiana In reply to florchys103 [2010-12-29 17:31:13 +0000 UTC]

Thanks :3 I did read some of the comments and found a lot of them quite encouraging :]

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florchys103 In reply to iridiana [2010-12-31 01:08:58 +0000 UTC]

YEAH, this piece was awesome! XD not because of me but because of the comments I received ;D

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Eremitik [2010-10-25 18:18:16 +0000 UTC]

Sounds like your comfortable...

Uh, fyi, I dont wear the clothes of the opposite gender. Well, I did once but it was Halloween. (and no, the pics arent posted)
I do know quite a few women who do though.

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florchys103 In reply to Eremitik [2010-10-26 00:42:30 +0000 UTC]

haha...damn, I would have paid for them XD haha

Thanks..yeah, I was amzed at the amount of people who do so XD

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Eremitik In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-26 01:34:37 +0000 UTC]

For some strange reason, I think they have been leaked onto facebook...uh oh

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florchys103 In reply to Eremitik [2010-10-26 14:35:48 +0000 UTC]

oh....if you get tagged, you re done for XD jaja, nah, just kidding ;D

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Eremitik In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-26 20:28:34 +0000 UTC]

Luckily its a group shot... and though I have been tagged in it, its cool. I wasnt the only guy dressed in drag.

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florchys103 In reply to Eremitik [2010-10-26 21:14:29 +0000 UTC]

haha..dressed in rags XD

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moonfaeryprincess [2010-10-24 03:05:12 +0000 UTC]

lol. sadly, I can't relate to this this week, i'm feeling very much inlove with myself : O is that terrible? but i always feel so HIGH in winter!! my hair's great, my skin great- wait, i'm going off topic.
you are not alone.

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florchys103 In reply to moonfaeryprincess [2010-10-24 18:08:41 +0000 UTC]

WHY SADLY? That's just great! I'm also very happy with myself now. A lot of people comment in this piece and helped me a lot XD haha

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moonfaeryprincess In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-24 19:17:02 +0000 UTC]

DA is like therapy!

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florchys103 In reply to moonfaeryprincess [2010-10-24 19:41:07 +0000 UTC]

Totally! the best I found XD

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moonfaeryprincess In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-24 19:16:50 +0000 UTC]

[link] <<<--- like this. some days that's me, some days it's not *grin* these days it's not, so I'm glaaad. lol. yes, i'm being random.

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florchys103 In reply to moonfaeryprincess [2010-10-24 19:44:02 +0000 UTC]

oh, I'm so reading every comment in there!

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shallow-GuRl [2010-10-14 14:40:19 +0000 UTC]

toooooooooooooooo cute

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florchys103 In reply to shallow-GuRl [2010-10-15 00:02:38 +0000 UTC]

haha! really? you think so? cute is the last adjetive i would have used..but thank you so very much ;D

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jackiewelles [2010-10-13 07:32:25 +0000 UTC]

There's always the *puts on writing poker face and starts a short composing*

'i'm just another guy'

Mesmerized by breasts on girls, swinging hips

'i'm just another guy'

Subjected to violence that leaves physical scares too by the time I finish elementary school for reasons I cant even remember. High school's worse. Women rarely gets subjected to violence by other women for the stupidest reasons...

'i'm just another guy'

Subjected to girlfriends who has raging hormones, periods with unstable emotions, hormonal reaction to anything look-wise...i always have problem being judged by how I look, and yet having to be the one to expect to ask a girl out or be lonely for life. So I seek other men to be appreciated for who I am and not because of my looks, because i'm born that way, right?

'I'm... what am I?'


*sighs* I think the truth is that each person is different, and the 'general norm' or stereotypes varies very differently between different cultures, region of living and places affected by different media and teachings while growing up. It's always easy to define oneself by information instilled in self from the growing up environment, though human kind is given the ability to reason to constantly critique oneself. Even then, it's always easier to succumb to something that fits good for 'personal mental comfort' of the current situation than 'self development and change' to impose one's own value to the world or to those people around them in constructive ways that aims at real character development, not sexual alignment change due to habitual and stereotyped comfort zones.

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thetransboy [2010-10-12 22:21:43 +0000 UTC]

i'm transgender. I'm not advocating that you change gender because it is difficult but if thats how you feel just know it's an option

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florchys103 In reply to thetransboy [2010-10-13 01:03:59 +0000 UTC]

thank you very much for the option...but honestly, I'm a procrastinator...It's sometimes hard to be a girl, but I'm sure your life is way harder. No offense, but I choose the easy way out ;D

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thetransboy In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-13 02:39:13 +0000 UTC]

haha yeahh i get that... i felt that way for a while... that it just wasnt worth the trouble...

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florchys103 In reply to thetransboy [2010-10-13 03:08:09 +0000 UTC]

Haha...All the same, in general it's fun to be a girl XD

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thetransboy In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-13 23:17:13 +0000 UTC]

haha okay cool then

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joanna5549 [2010-10-12 17:01:47 +0000 UTC]

i feel comfortable wearing tee and not girly clothes ....i dunno i want to feel me and look at the same time ....but i dun get why my parent insist i should wear more girly stuff to make me look more girly ...hello ????

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gwyn-blath In reply to joanna5549 [2010-10-13 23:36:37 +0000 UTC]

Even if you're a girl and feel like one, there is no law saying that you have to wear skirts and all that stuff. Don't let others change you, wear things that you feel comfortable in! Otherwise you will feel bad about your appearance all the time. Be strong, good luck

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joanna5549 In reply to gwyn-blath [2010-10-19 13:02:52 +0000 UTC]

Thanks ....yea ...of course

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florchys103 In reply to joanna5549 [2010-10-12 17:10:37 +0000 UTC]

oh, poor you. Luckily I dont suffer that. just a "that doesnt that good on you" kind of comment. My older soster yes. She's a pain!

I dont get why it's so hard for others to just accept we're happy with what we have! That we would feel stupid otherwiswe!

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joanna5549 In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-13 14:18:38 +0000 UTC]

it's just a suggestion ....but what i want is i feel good and feel like me at the same time , but i still a girl ...

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zerosilver [2010-10-12 13:12:44 +0000 UTC]

When I read this, I felt like I was sort of reading about myself. In the way that I'm uncomfortable in my own body, that I should always be better than I am both in personality and looks. It took me a long time to gain the confidence to wear anything more than t-shirts and jeans, and the people who helped me to be where I am now are my friends. And even now, I wear a sweatshirt to hide more of me when I can. I've had that same thought about if it would be easier to be a guy or not, and I almost always think it would be, especially because, like you said, girls are so critical of one another. I'm not sure I really said what I wanted to here...but it seems like you now know that you're not alone now and I'm glad, because everyone deserves to feel good about who they are.

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florchys103 In reply to zerosilver [2010-10-12 15:28:15 +0000 UTC]

Besides, I find girls impossible to understand! and they are so sensible, you say one stupid thing and they are already making a fuss! like, c'mon, dont be so hysterical XD

AND THANKS!

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zerosilver In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-12 17:32:46 +0000 UTC]

I know what you mean! They're ridiculous! I mean, I have to include myself in there, too, but at least I know it and try not to explode whenever someone reaches a touchy subject or something. It's just not needed, the way girls handle things sometimes.

No problem!

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florchys103 In reply to zerosilver [2010-10-12 18:15:14 +0000 UTC]

Hahah, yeah, same here, but I try my best not to show my sick and girly side XD

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zerosilver In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-12 18:56:10 +0000 UTC]

Me too. XD But it shows through sometimes anyway.

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Biizam [2010-10-11 16:13:30 +0000 UTC]

I think guys clothes are way more comfortable than what's in the women's section. Don't feel bad about dressing how you'd like to; if anything, you should feel better for not letting society dictate how comfortable you should be in your clothes.

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florchys103 In reply to Biizam [2010-10-12 14:05:12 +0000 UTC]

THANK YOU SO MUCH! Yes, you're totally right, haha, we're above average ;D Now I see it ;D

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Biizam In reply to florchys103 [2010-10-12 17:01:13 +0000 UTC]

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TheCryinClown [2010-10-11 14:02:06 +0000 UTC]

Hello there, welcome to the club! Im a girl too who dont like girly things and dresses etc. I prefer jeans, hoodie, shirts. Its me, it us and if someone cant accept it just go in the ... and dont bother us. Thats all I can say. Love you.

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florchys103 In reply to TheCryinClown [2010-10-12 14:04:29 +0000 UTC]

haha, Thank you! Now I'm very proud of being part of your group! haha, many people like you made me realized how normal/special I am XD

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