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He WitWho Has Need, Let Him Read..

Confidence is King.  Confidence is Queen.  Everyone should have something that they are good at and/or proud of.  Use it.  Show it.  Your countenance should resonate your greatness.  Your eyes should crackle with the fire that is in you.  Your huevos crack concrete with every step you take.  You have the most bodacious cleavage on Rodéo Drive and all of the other women want to know where you got those shoes.  If you don't have anything that sets you above (or just apart) from the rest, then you should FAKE IT.  Never let 'em see you sweat.
But you should ALWAYS see them.  Two eyes, two ears, one mouth.  Use them accordingly.

Introduction:  Always important.  This is the stage where you show them how “sexy” you are.  Of course, S.E.X. is an acronymn meaning: Smile, Eye-contact, eXcitement.  Realistically, there are some ugly smiles out there.  If you possess one, then learn how to 'emote' with your eyes.  It's not a bad idea to practice smiling often for several reasons.  One main reason is that it makes whoever beholds it more comfortable with you.  A smile is like the 'right-hand wave' used during medival times.  It tells the observer that “I mean you no harm..”

Eye-Contact.  The eyes of a liar would generally avoid the gaze of another.  In theory, if a person looks to the 'left' during a conversation, chances are that they are lying.  Looks to the right, suggests that they are remembering.  This is all theory, as some folks have naturally jittery eyes.  DO NOT BE ONE.  Staring is rude and weird, but a strong gaze shows fortitude.  A person is more likely to trust you.
(To reduce  your chances of becoming the victim of swindle, in the back of your mind, always remember that a good liar can look anywhere.  That is fact)

Excitement is another important part of the introduction.  If what you are aiming for is something that excites you, then show it.  People have different levels of excitement and it differs from person to person.  Being comfortable with your own level of excitement is a useful tool for attraction, expecially if it is attractive.  Practice displaying your own level of excitement to yourself in the mirror.  If you are animated, go for it, but be sure NOT to overdo it.  If visually you are a zombie-type excited person, prepare yourself to have crappy results.  You must liven up at least a little.  Otherwise, how can anyone get excited about you?

IceBreakers:  Whenever you meet a stranger, there is an invisible wall of ICE.  A cold, jagged and uncomfortable thing.  Icebreakers do just that.  Humor works very well.  Some of the greatest lotharios in the world have laughed their way into the bed-chambers of many a maiden fair.  'Jokes' are unreliable unless you have mastered the craft.  And 'humor' doesn't have to mean 'funny' per se, but it does have to mean 'fun'.  But if you must use a joke, make it a dumb one.  I wouldn't recommend any joke that is more than just 'clever'.  Intelligent punchlines at this stage may require a little more scrutiny than you want to allow them.  Make it simple and make 'em laugh.
Compliments are another way you can break the ice.  Don't get too gushy or start fawning over the target, but to notice something that they clearly take pride in is always appreciated.  Unless they are a freak (in the bad way).

Qualifying:  To make sure that you aren't wasting your time, it is a good idea to have a pre-set list of questions geared to do just that.  You must fist determine what it is that you WANT from the person.  Get creative and think about the negatives that may get in the way of achieving your goal.  Identify the top three negatives that may get in the way and form questions from them.  Ideally, if you can ask FIVE potent questions that will reveal a little more about them, go for it.  I've used as few as two before moving on to the next step.

Presentation:  Ok now, this is the meat and potatoes, if you will.  Or if you're vegetarian, I guess this would be the brocolli and artichoke soup (I may post a recipe later).  Whatever it is, its important okay—so just do the work and do it well.  There is no presentation if you don't have a clear image in your mind of what YOU want.  This is where you hook 'em.  Whatever the goal may be that YOU wish to accomplish, paint the picture for them to percieve benefit for themselves.  You gotta be like Picasso with the illustration.  Paint a picture that makes them want what you want—or imply that your desires and theirs is the same thing.  It may be, it may not be.  Your job is to show them that it is.  The 'questions' that you asked in the previous stage are put to use here.  You take what little you know about them and put it to work on them.

Close:  I can't say that this is the single most important part, but this is the culmination of the action.  Now that you got 'em hot and hard-up for what you're sellin' its time to seal the deal.  The 'close' should be done with confidence and also quickly, leaving them little chance to back out on you.  That would mean that you've wasted time.  And we have so precious little of that stuff on tap.  Remember: Quick and Confident.

Rehash: This is another acronym meaning 'Remember Everyone Has A Stash Hidden.  Assuming that this stash is something that YOU want, then now is the time to make them give it up to you.  I'll give an example of application in a social environment that may explain this concept further.

Example 1: Introduction
I step up casually and stop in a central location to survey the crowd.  Stand still.  Let them see me.  Target identified using peripheral vision.  The approach is smooth—cat-like, if I do say so myself.  And I do.
Me:  “Hey—how you doin'?” (wait for an answer or DON'T ask the question)
She:  “I'm fine, thanks.”
Me:  “Cool.  I'm Detroit.  I'm from Nevada (hoping she gets the pun). What's your name?”
She:  “Sheila.”
Me:  “Ooo—that's a pretty name.  Can I say it one time..?  Sheila. Yeah, that's nice.”
She:  (giggles girlishly rolling eyes) “..oh, here we go..”
Me:  “Wha—already?  I'll have you know that t's gonna take a little more than that to get me ready to go, ma'am. (strategic chuckle)  Nah, I'm just picking wit ya.  So..

(This is where the Qualifying Questions are asked.  I like to probe with my questions.  People love to talk about themselves.  So let them.  Likes, dislikes, family, fun, music.  I personally try to avoid talking about local news unless it's light-hearted and religion unless that's the environment.  Lead them to talk about anything else that I can use later on)

Example 2: “soft” Close (using 'assumptions' to your advantage)
Me:  “I like the way you talk.  You've got a real soothing way about you.  Your phone number—248-what..?
(I assume that I'm going to win.  Observe the way that I ASSUME that she IS going to give me that number so I start her off with her own area-code.  7 out of 10 times, she will finish it off for me)
((I assume that you can imagine what a “hard” close sounds like, yes?  Practice in your mirror))

Example 3: Rehash (after “soft” close)
Me:  “Okay, so we're gonna meet at Baby A's at seven on Saturday, right?  Cool.  Well, my boys are gonna be in town, too.  You got a couple friends you want to bring up there with you, right?  Good—good.  I'll give you a call, Sheila.  You be good, girl.”

((Recognize a few things here.  Notice that every question that I wanted her to answer 'yes' to, I answered for her))
“You like beef, right?  You wanna eat some right now, right?”  The applications are virtually endless to the creative.
Also notice that by asking her to bring friends, I've at least TRIPLED my chances of the score.  It's nothing to say that “My boys got laid over in Vegas, so they're gonna spend the night.  I will divide my attention and humor amongst the three until the 'sure thing' reveals herself.  I would say that we would ALL get lucky at the same time, but that wouldn't be true.  I never initiated either of the two such occasions myself.  One was accidental, the other was providential.  Neither is relevant right now, so nevermind that...
'Rehash' is the principle that increases the odds in my favor..)

And there you have it.  This is part of a system that was taught to me years ago by the closest thing to a 'master' of the craft that I've met.  I say the “closest thing” because there are bunches and bunches of subtle nuances to the application.  Stay on your toes and keep your eyes and ears open always.  Follow the system step by step and you may surprise yourself.
Now get out there and con somebody out of their underwear.  Did I say 'con'?  Well, I meant to say 'charm'--because YOU really are a sexy beast..

Description
He WitWho Has Need, Let Him Read..

Confidence is King.  Confidence is Queen.  Everyone should have something that they are good at and/or proud of.  Use it.  Show it.  Your countenance should resonate your greatness.  Your eyes should crackle with the fire that is in you.  Your huevos crack concrete with every step you take.  You have the most bodacious cleavage on Rodéo Drive and all of the other women want to know where you got those shoes.  If you don't have anything that sets you above (or just apart) from the rest, then you should FAKE IT.  Never let 'em see you sweat.
But you should ALWAYS see them.  Two eyes, two ears, one mouth.  Use them accordingly.

Introduction:  Always important.  This is the stage where you show them how “sexy” you are.  Of course, S.E.X. is an acronymn meaning: Smile, Eye-contact, eXcitement.  Realistically, there are some ugly smiles out there.  If you possess one, then learn how to 'emote' with your eyes.  It's not a bad idea to practice smiling often for several reasons.  One main reason is that it makes whoever beholds it more comfortable with you.  A smile is like the 'right-hand wave' used during medival times.  It tells the observer that “I mean you no harm..”

Eye-Contact.  The eyes of a liar would generally avoid the gaze of another.  In theory, if a person looks to the 'left' during a conversation, chances are that they are lying.  Looks to the right, suggests that they are remembering.  This is all theory, as some folks have naturally jittery eyes.  DO NOT BE ONE.  Staring is rude and weird, but a strong gaze shows fortitude.  A person is more likely to trust you.
(To reduce  your chances of becoming the victim of swindle, in the back of your mind, always remember that a good liar can look anywhere.  That is fact)

Excitement is another important part of the introduction.  If what you are aiming for is something that excites you, then show it.  People have different levels of excitement and it differs from person to person.  Being comfortable with your own level of excitement is a useful tool for attraction, expecially if it is attractive.  Practice displaying your own level of excitement to yourself in the mirror.  If you are animated, go for it, but be sure NOT to overdo it.  If visually you are a zombie-type excited person, prepare yourself to have crappy results.  You must liven up at least a little.  Otherwise, how can anyone get excited about you?

IceBreakers:  Whenever you meet a stranger, there is an invisible wall of ICE.  A cold, jagged and uncomfortable thing.  Icebreakers do just that.  Humor works very well.  Some of the greatest lotharios in the world have laughed their way into the bed-chambers of many a maiden fair.  'Jokes' are unreliable unless you have mastered the craft.  And 'humor' doesn't have to mean 'funny' per se, but it does have to mean 'fun'.  But if you must use a joke, make it a dumb one.  I wouldn't recommend any joke that is more than just 'clever'.  Intelligent punchlines at this stage may require a little more scrutiny than you want to allow them.  Make it simple and make 'em laugh.
Compliments are another way you can break the ice.  Don't get too gushy or start fawning over the target, but to notice something that they clearly take pride in is always appreciated.  Unless they are a freak (in the bad way).

Qualifying:  To make sure that you aren't wasting your time, it is a good idea to have a pre-set list of questions geared to do just that.  You must fist determine what it is that you WANT from the person.  Get creative and think about the negatives that may get in the way of achieving your goal.  Identify the top three negatives that may get in the way and form questions from them.  Ideally, if you can ask FIVE potent questions that will reveal a little more about them, go for it.  I've used as few as two before moving on to the next step.

Presentation:  Ok now, this is the meat and potatoes, if you will.  Or if you're vegetarian, I guess this would be the brocolli and artichoke soup (I may post a recipe later).  Whatever it is, its important okay—so just do the work and do it well.  There is no presentation if you don't have a clear image in your mind of what YOU want.  This is where you hook 'em.  Whatever the goal may be that YOU wish to accomplish, paint the picture for them to percieve benefit for themselves.  You gotta be like Picasso with the illustration.  Paint a picture that makes them want what you want—or imply that your desires and theirs is the same thing.  It may be, it may not be.  Your job is to show them that it is.  The 'questions' that you asked in the previous stage are put to use here.  You take what little you know about them and put it to work on them.

Close:  I can't say that this is the single most important part, but this is the culmination of the action.  Now that you got 'em hot and hard-up for what you're sellin' its time to seal the deal.  The 'close' should be done with confidence and also quickly, leaving them little chance to back out on you.  That would mean that you've wasted time.  And we have so precious little of that stuff on tap.  Remember: Quick and Confident.

Rehash: This is another acronym meaning 'Remember Everyone Has A Stash Hidden.  Assuming that this stash is something that YOU want, then now is the time to make them give it up to you.  I'll give an example of application in a social environment that may explain this concept further.

Example 1: Introduction
I step up casually and stop in a central location to survey the crowd.  Stand still.  Let them see me.  Target identified using peripheral vision.  The approach is smooth—cat-like, if I do say so myself.  And I do.
Me:  “Hey—how you doin'?” (wait for an answer or DON'T ask the question)
She:  “I'm fine, thanks.”
Me:  “Cool.  I'm Detroit.  I'm from Nevada (hoping she gets the pun). What's your name?”
She:  “Sheila.”
Me:  “Ooo—that's a pretty name.  Can I say it one time..?  Sheila. Yeah, that's nice.”
She:  (giggles girlishly rolling eyes) “..oh, here we go..”
Me:  “Wha—already?  I'll have you know that t's gonna take a little more than that to get me ready to go, ma'am. (strategic chuckle)  Nah, I'm just picking wit ya.  So..

(This is where the Qualifying Questions are asked.  I like to probe with my questions.  People love to talk about themselves.  So let them.  Likes, dislikes, family, fun, music.  I personally try to avoid talking about local news unless it's light-hearted and religion unless that's the environment.  Lead them to talk about anything else that I can use later on)

Example 2: “soft” Close (using 'assumptions' to your advantage)
Me:  “I like the way you talk.  You've got a real soothing way about you.  Your phone number—248-what..?
(I assume that I'm going to win.  Observe the way that I ASSUME that she IS going to give me that number so I start her off with her own area-code.  7 out of 10 times, she will finish it off for me)
((I assume that you can imagine what a “hard” close sounds like, yes?  Practice in your mirror))

Example 3: Rehash (after “soft” close)
Me:  “Okay, so we're gonna meet at Baby A's at seven on Saturday, right?  Cool.  Well, my boys are gonna be in town, too.  You got a couple friends you want to bring up there with you, right?  Good—good.  I'll give you a call, Sheila.  You be good, girl.”

((Recognize a few things here.  Notice that every question that I wanted her to answer 'yes' to, I answered for her))
“You like beef, right?  You wanna eat some right now, right?”  The applications are virtually endless to the creative.
Also notice that by asking her to bring friends, I've at least TRIPLED my chances of the score.  It's nothing to say that “My boys got laid over in Vegas, so they're gonna spend the night.  I will divide my attention and humor amongst the three until the 'sure thing' reveals herself.  I would say that we would ALL get lucky at the same time, but that wouldn't be true.  I never initiated either of the two such occasions myself.  One was accidental, the other was providential.  Neither is relevant right now, so nevermind that...
'Rehash' is the principle that increases the odds in my favor..)

And there you have it.  This is part of a system that was taught to me years ago by the closest thing to a 'master' of the craft that I've met.  I say the “closest thing” because there are bunches and bunches of subtle nuances to the application.  Stay on your toes and keep your eyes and ears open always.  Follow the system step by step and you may surprise yourself.
Now get out there and con somebody out of their underwear.  Did I say 'con'?  Well, I meant to say 'charm'--because YOU really are a sexy beast..