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Description Okay, with so many of you guys out there thinking life is horrible, that you go burn and cut yourself, I want to tell you something- you're not alone and there people who have faced your "emotional problem big enough you'll die"; and they have survived, became happy, and enjoyed life to the fullest.

Cutting, burning, committing suicide is not only dumb, but selfish. Every story of another person who commits suicide, starts cutting, etc encourages another person out there to do the same. By hurting yourself, you are the cause of at least one more person who hurt them self as well. It's harsh but true.

I could go one about about how cruelly treated I was, how I spent years imagining my deaths, how I refused to talk to any of my classmates, how I hid my pain under smiles, how I helped everyone but myself, how I was bullied, how I was put down for how smart/dumb I was, how for years I realized my dreams might be nothing but dust, how I kept dark secrets, but guess what?

I won't. I won't go into detail how grueling it was. Because I know you faced it. I don't even have a point of sharing most of these experiences. I've come out from most of these "horrors". I stayed strong, I never gave up on life, I smiled making others smile, and on the last day of school on my graduation day, someone helped break the sad spell I was in. I'm still not "okay" which is why I'm here, but I broke half of the spell I was in.

So what was my "cheats"? How did I do it? How did I manage to come out from more than half of my woes?

There is no "cheat" because every one of you has the ability to face these problems and solve it. I did, billions of others did it, so can you. Remember my drawing Masks- fav.me/d50kdj3  Marc… . I was crying, thinking nobody understood me, I would always be alone, that no one would ever see my true smile.

Two months later- major change.
fav.me/d53v00r I smiled genuinely for the first time since 2009, June fifteenth, same year I drew masks. Don't tell me my "horrors" were easy. They weren't. Maybe for you, but not for me. And I got out of it. So can you.

Truth is, people are going to judge you;some by covers, others by the inside, people will hurt you; verbally of physically, people will abandon you; emotionally or literally, life will not go the way you want, you will feel at times you're facing something bigger and riskier than you can do it, you will die at some point, you will be bullied, you will be pressured, you will make mistakes, you will to things you regret, you will be rejected, and you will feel as though the world you once knew is disappearing. It's the truth and it hurts.

But- so you're human? You're flawed and different from others. Everyone is different. Everyone is flawed. No one deserves to die. No one deserves to be hated.

You have to cope with the facts, and realize every nerve that is telling you that you can't do it is wrong. You can do it, you have the right to do it. There is no right or wrong. It's our human instinct that tells us what is "right" and what is "wrong". Is killing yourself right or wrong? For some, it's a blessing; others torment. But no right or wrong. I personally think it's selfish. Then there's hate. You have every single to hate someone. No one can stop you. But are you really going to waste your energy hating someone; whether or not they've been terrible to you?

Every single word I say is merely my opinion. But I believe everyone has the ability to stand up and enjoy life. It's not the world that chooses how you live your life, but how you cope with it. You think you're alone in what you're facing? Go ahead, comment on how you're life was miserable. I will find someone; whether its me or someone else who faced the same or similar situation. And that person I find will have come out of it.

When you feel like your life is the worst and that it can't go any harder or worse, look at the stars. That's how many people out there. At least one million people out there have faced what you faced, are willing to be your friend, and will love you to the very best.

Life is short but bittersweet. It all depends on you and how you decide what to do with it.

Thank you.
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carmachiel [2012-07-04 20:06:43 +0000 UTC]

thank you for this...

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kirafaclaws22 [2012-06-18 17:14:23 +0000 UTC]

You're right.
I am selfish for cutting and wanting to die. I know that there are people out there who's lives suck three times more than mine does, but I can't help it.
I've tried to be kind to my other classmates, but all they do is take advantage of it, or laugh at me. I've had enough of it. I don't hate them though, because I can't. I just hate myself instead. I'm just weak, physically and emotionally.

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CingCingartist In reply to kirafaclaws22 [2012-06-22 13:06:06 +0000 UTC]

You aren't selfish. But you're doing is not okay. Hating yourself because your're weak both emotionally and physically is wrong. It's okay you're not exactly strong physically and emotionally. They're flaws. I have them, you have them, everyone does. Being nice to your classmate and being treated like that is horrible. I know that.But sadly there are people who act like that. Remember that for every person who treats you like that, there will always be a person who will love you and be willing to be your friend. Find those people and cherish them. Friends can bring sweet surprises. Whether your have a tons or a close group.

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kirafaclaws22 In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-30 22:14:29 +0000 UTC]

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RinascereAddiction [2012-06-18 08:43:56 +0000 UTC]

You're right, I'm selfish. I hate myself, I cut myself and I want to kill myself. You've probably been through things that seriously tested you and you've got through it. That's fine with me and it's your life. Thanks for sharing. But this really hurt me.

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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-18 14:28:23 +0000 UTC]

Sigh... okay, for one you're not selfish. But you're doing is nowhere okay. You want to kill yourself? Why? Because the world feels wrong and that you have no reason to live? Because people hate you and you do too? It's not world that makes your decisions, you know. It's you. You can cut yourself and get away from life as you want to and die blissfully, or stand up, throw away the knives, the scissors you used to cut yourself and move on to your potential in life.

Hating yourself is also not okay. Did you do anything bad, did you hurt others, did you do horrible things to the world? So (if) you did. That's okay. Everyone is flawed. I am, you are, everyone is. But you have to get over it and see the through those bleak points to what's so great about living and simply being human. I know it's hard to get away from the hatred that plagued your mind, but you can. You have every potential to do it.

I know how you feel about this entry- I myself was told the same thing.And I was no happier than you about it. But I want to you remember, life is short, bitter, sweet, or a mix of both. But to get through it, you have to realize the truth, forgive yourself, see your potential, and move on. It's the hard and I know killing yourself is the easy way out- but believe me, the harder way makes you feel a lot more accomplished and proud in the end.

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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-19 13:10:29 +0000 UTC]

No. Because the people around me love me too much and they keep trying to get the best for me. However, I disappoint everyone because I'm me and I like things I shouldn't. My character shouldn't be like this. I should be more hardworking and I should score better. I should love medical studies and not pursue volatile dreams and think more of supporting my family. But I can't do it and I remain this way and keep hurting the people around me. I can't do what they want, which should be the best path for me.

I have no right to ignore my responsibilities even for a moment to be myself when my family need me.

It's because life is so short that it's harder to decide what is the right decision. You won't get another choice but you can't only think of yourself. I don't even have the right to kill myself. I can't leave everyone behind... I would only be hurting them more then I am now.

This sort of person I am is useless; unable to move forward or stop either.

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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 13:38:27 +0000 UTC]

ahhh I see. Choices are very hard to make sometimes. You want to make a selfless choice yet you want to be yourself. That's alright. You realize the cons and pros. Now comes the decisions.

My choice isn't your choice but life is short and you have to enjoy it. Would you be happier supporting your family knowing they could count on you, or do and be who you want, feeling freedom? I'm sure your family would support both decision because love is strong enough to dominate anything. If they see you happy, then they're happy.

Don't hate yourself because you can't move on or because your're not the person they want. You're human. You can't please everyone which sadly is the truth.

Making decisions- big ones in fact take a while. The question is-who do YOU want to be. Take out what your family wants you to be. Do you want to be who they want you to be? Will you enjoy it? Will you take pride of it. Stay strong and remember- you're not useless. I'm here for you no matter what choice you make.

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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-19 14:21:50 +0000 UTC]

That made me feel a bit more sure of myself But even if what I really want is to be myself, I still can't leave them behind.

It won't matter anyway. They won't be happy for me. It'll always be an unspoken 'I told you so' every time I fail. Their love is conditional.

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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 14:40:53 +0000 UTC]

They say that because they're worried for you. They want you to feel accomplished, happy and enjoy life. When you "fail", they believe the choice they made for you is better and will lead to a better outcome than yours. You can prove them wrong by working hard on what you want to be, and enjoy it.

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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-22 09:25:27 +0000 UTC]

And what if I do fail at the very end? All my work would've been for naught. My life will just crash and they'll be blaming me for failing to support them with the 'wrong' choice they'd told me about. Dreams never seem to happen.

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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-22 12:53:20 +0000 UTC]

So they crash. You will make mistakes in life. They will bring consequences. But that doesn't mean it's the end. You can always rebuild it, or make a new one. Don't let their anger get to you. If you work hard, try your best, never give up... well it obviously won't be perfect but your dreams will come true. Do what you love and enjoy. Even if it fails. Because with determination, you can make dreams come true. Believe me I say that

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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-23 04:03:41 +0000 UTC]

I will try. But I make no promises.

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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-23 14:24:38 +0000 UTC]

That's good enough Just try your best ^.^

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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-24 16:44:12 +0000 UTC]

Thank you

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-18 10:22:56 +0000 UTC]


how are you feeling right now?

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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-19 13:10:53 +0000 UTC]

Confused, distracted, unmotivated?

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 13:12:17 +0000 UTC]

need help with it?

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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-19 13:16:16 +0000 UTC]

How?

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 13:19:00 +0000 UTC]

not sure.
beside the codependency thing, what else are you confused/lost/worry about?

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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-19 13:58:34 +0000 UTC]

Teenage stuff? Social ability, appearance, academic grades.

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 20:40:13 +0000 UTC]

uhm, let me see...

Social ability, relatively important for long term happiness. Useful for work and maintain relationships.

Appearance, as bad as it sound, this stuffs doesn't matter much in the long run. You just need to look clean, neat, and not dirty.

Academic grades is very important since it determine your scholarship and which education you can afford.

So pick a topic to focus on first?

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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-22 09:19:57 +0000 UTC]

:\ I guess social ability? It's the one that is the most unsolvable.

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-22 14:30:31 +0000 UTC]

What problem(s) do you have with social ability?

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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-23 04:02:37 +0000 UTC]

I can't understand people's feelings. If they're talking to me and not obviously happy and smiling, I will get scared and immediately ask if they're sad, angry or anything. If they say no, I will immediately doubt myself for probably doing something that makes them not trust me to tell me their true feelings. I will keep asking and asking again and I'm like unable to guess their feelings either.

I hate it when we're texting and they don't put any smileys or anything and I can't find out how they're feeling.

I try to be friends with everybody and I don't hate anyone in particular but then there's also someone who's dissatisfied with the fact that I'm friends with someone they hate. But I can't just stop friending one of them either. And the problem is most of the time I can only find out why someone is drifting away from me when I ask them directly and if they actually answer me.

I've also been told I'm irritating because I literally go around my group of friends and telling them I love them (as a friend). Maybe I'm trying to unconsciously bind them to me? I may have a fear of abandonment.

Wow. This turned out longer than I expected.

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-25 15:55:23 +0000 UTC]

It is normal for people not able to know how other people feel. And some do have a bit more disadvantages than other at facial and nonverbal cue readings. But it can be help. You may need to do some practice and facial recognition and other stuffs related to culture cue readings. Depend on how severely flawed the system is, the practice varied. But I am no expert on the issue. This is a suggestion for you to look it u more though.

But yes, I do sense a hint of fear of abandonment. I do not know the root cause of it, however, but probably got to do with how you are unable to read other people emotion and how you have been neglected in some way during your childhood.

So in a sense, I take it as your mind is telling you that if you are unable to read other people emotion, you are vulnerable and open for hurt. In short, you feel a sense of loosing control. Thus, it make you feel anxiety, scared and restless.

Is this explanation similar to how you feel?

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xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 06:21:51 +0000 UTC]

Hm... You aren't the only one that thinks that I'm selfish. My mom, dad, and sister all think that I'm selfish and maybe I am. I cut to let my anger towards myself out. I hate myself. I blam myself for practically everything. And my parents do the same.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 13:54:02 +0000 UTC]

sigh... My point is that you have brace yourself. You're not selfish. But what you're doing isn't okay. At all. You have to get up, realize you can do better than blaming and hurting yourself and move on. It's hard- I know that feeling all too well. But by staying strong, fixing those patches you made, you can do it.

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 14:37:52 +0000 UTC]

The thing is that I have lost hope in myself. There is only one person that gives me hope, but they haven't messaged me or anything like that this summer. Hurting myself is better than hurting others.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 14:47:30 +0000 UTC]

Then you have to find it yourself. Do things, listen to things, remember things that motivate you to smile, live, and be happy. It can be from the past(old books you loved, memories from your childhood), your ideas of the future(what you want to the government to be, your ideas for artworks, what college you want to go if you haven't yet), or even from the present. If you lose hope in yourself, you still can't give up. Not now, not yet at least. You have to push yourself to keep living, keep smiling and find things in life you enjoy. Like I said, it's not easy, but it's not impossible either.
I'm there for you no matter what- in my own little way.

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 14:53:00 +0000 UTC]

The past that i remember is not a happy one. I'm not really sure what I'm gonna do when i grow up. I smile everyday, but it's fake. Oh, and you don't need to be there for me. I don't want to be a burden or waste anyone's time. Cause that is all that I am... a waste of time.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 15:07:25 +0000 UTC]

A waste of time? Please. If you were a waste of time, would I take my time, look for the words I need to talk to you? No one is a waste of time. Just because you don't know what you're going to be mean you can't think of the future. What is your ideal but realistic idea of an "happy" ending? Besides suicide. Your smiles may be fake but keep in mind, when people see those smiles, it brightens their world a bit too. And maybe someday, you will smile a genuine smile like I finally did myself. You will trust me. Stay strong

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 15:14:46 +0000 UTC]

My idea of a happy ending is me finding the right guy and finally being happy again. I did find a guy that makes me happy, but then I come home and that happiness that fantasy that I just lived for a moment is destroyed. It is very hard to stay strong in today's society.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 15:28:02 +0000 UTC]

A person who makes you happy is a person to hold onto. Make that dream a goal. Try your best to achieve it. It may seem impossible but guess what- if you put your heart to it, nothing is impossible.

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 15:35:08 +0000 UTC]

i'm trying, but I've been cheated on before(by my first boyfriend) and I'm afraid that the same thing will happen again. I trust the guy i like(aka my boyfriend), but I don't want to lose him.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 16:10:11 +0000 UTC]

Don't then. Spend time with him and tell him how much you appreciate him. If he truly cares for you, he will always be at your side. And if he doesn't, there's always a hundred more in the world who will love you as well.

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 16:13:10 +0000 UTC]

meh

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 16:17:12 +0000 UTC]

Trust me... don't be afraid ^v^ He's your boyfriend and any guy who can make someone happy even in sad times, chances are isn't going to cheat on you

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 16:22:23 +0000 UTC]

thanks... =/

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 16:28:55 +0000 UTC]

Stay strong okay? And strive to reach your goals. Life may be cruel sometimes but you can do anything once your mind is set

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 16:29:58 +0000 UTC]

it's really hard to stay strong, especially when you have friends/parents like mine.

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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 16:39:15 +0000 UTC]

Then remember- in the end, it'll always be okay. If not, it's not the end. You will get better I'll make sure of it,

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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 16:44:36 +0000 UTC]

meh

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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 10:25:37 +0000 UTC]


I don't hate you.
Would you like to smile for me?

Even if the world is against you, please don't become the enemy of yourself.
Because the decision to be saved or not depended entirely on whether you can love yourself or not.

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spottymoo98 [2012-06-18 04:53:35 +0000 UTC]

Umm.... no. YOU should live your life happily, YOU should do all of the things you have stated. You can say what you want about yourself, but not overstating it to be the opinion of others as well.

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CingCingartist In reply to spottymoo98 [2012-06-18 14:08:38 +0000 UTC]

again, my point wasn't to say you guys are selfish. My point was what you're doing- hurting yourself, is not okay and that you can do better than that -_- I myself was given the same message. You can imagine how "happy" I was to hear my actions were selfish. But I got the point; the message. I have to forgive myself for those actions, realize it's not helping matters, and move on. Maybe I should have been more clear...

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xBefore-IDie [2012-06-18 04:45:36 +0000 UTC]

im sorry. but no. you had a couple points. but this seriously pissed me off. you should live your life and feel alive and what not. but you have absolutely no right to say half of what you did. its cruel. say what you want to say about yourself. but dont label the acts and feelings of other people.

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CingCingartist In reply to xBefore-IDie [2012-06-18 14:04:00 +0000 UTC]

*face palm* My point was that you can do better than hurting yourself and that you have to realize, life isn't going to be easy but it's the way you cope with it that determines your outcome.

I figured some people would get angry at me. After all, the last person who told me this made me frustrated, hurt to the point I yelled. But guess what? I listened to her, realized what I was doing wasn't going to help with the matters, and moved on. A year ago- I hated her and said she didn't understand and she was harsh and a jerk. Now, I realize as harsh it was, she had a point. I thank her now.

In a way, my relationship with her is the same of the book, Tiger Mom. Sure her teaching ways are harsh and definitely asking more than most moms ask for but in the end, her children become more than accomplished. What I, the person before told was that you have to get up, realize what you did isn't going to help me, get over it and move on towards the future knowing what you're planning to do. It's asking a lot, but I know every single person has that ability to accomplish it as the girls(from tiger mom) did.

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xalmuz [2012-06-18 01:27:53 +0000 UTC]

i hope that i myself can manage to change things like you have

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CingCingartist In reply to xalmuz [2012-06-18 03:19:19 +0000 UTC]

You will. Every single of you can and I'm sure you will.

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