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carmachiel [2012-07-04 20:06:43 +0000 UTC]
thank you for this...
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kirafaclaws22 [2012-06-18 17:14:23 +0000 UTC]
You're right.
I am selfish for cutting and wanting to die. I know that there are people out there who's lives suck three times more than mine does, but I can't help it.
I've tried to be kind to my other classmates, but all they do is take advantage of it, or laugh at me. I've had enough of it. I don't hate them though, because I can't. I just hate myself instead. I'm just weak, physically and emotionally.
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RinascereAddiction [2012-06-18 08:43:56 +0000 UTC]
You're right, I'm selfish. I hate myself, I cut myself and I want to kill myself. You've probably been through things that seriously tested you and you've got through it. That's fine with me and it's your life. Thanks for sharing. But this really hurt me.
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CingCingartist In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-18 14:28:23 +0000 UTC]
Sigh... okay, for one you're not selfish. But you're doing is nowhere okay. You want to kill yourself? Why? Because the world feels wrong and that you have no reason to live? Because people hate you and you do too? It's not world that makes your decisions, you know. It's you. You can cut yourself and get away from life as you want to and die blissfully, or stand up, throw away the knives, the scissors you used to cut yourself and move on to your potential in life.
Hating yourself is also not okay. Did you do anything bad, did you hurt others, did you do horrible things to the world? So (if) you did. That's okay. Everyone is flawed. I am, you are, everyone is. But you have to get over it and see the through those bleak points to what's so great about living and simply being human. I know it's hard to get away from the hatred that plagued your mind, but you can. You have every potential to do it.
I know how you feel about this entry- I myself was told the same thing.And I was no happier than you about it. But I want to you remember, life is short, bitter, sweet, or a mix of both. But to get through it, you have to realize the truth, forgive yourself, see your potential, and move on. It's the hard and I know killing yourself is the easy way out- but believe me, the harder way makes you feel a lot more accomplished and proud in the end.
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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-19 13:10:29 +0000 UTC]
No. Because the people around me love me too much and they keep trying to get the best for me. However, I disappoint everyone because I'm me and I like things I shouldn't. My character shouldn't be like this. I should be more hardworking and I should score better. I should love medical studies and not pursue volatile dreams and think more of supporting my family. But I can't do it and I remain this way and keep hurting the people around me. I can't do what they want, which should be the best path for me.
I have no right to ignore my responsibilities even for a moment to be myself when my family need me.
It's because life is so short that it's harder to decide what is the right decision. You won't get another choice but you can't only think of yourself. I don't even have the right to kill myself. I can't leave everyone behind... I would only be hurting them more then I am now.
This sort of person I am is useless; unable to move forward or stop either.
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RinascereAddiction In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-22 09:25:27 +0000 UTC]
And what if I do fail at the very end? All my work would've been for naught. My life will just crash and they'll be blaming me for failing to support them with the 'wrong' choice they'd told me about. Dreams never seem to happen.
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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-19 13:19:00 +0000 UTC]
not sure.
beside the codependency thing, what else are you confused/lost/worry about?
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RinascereAddiction In reply to xllAngelSnowllx [2012-06-23 04:02:37 +0000 UTC]
I can't understand people's feelings. If they're talking to me and not obviously happy and smiling, I will get scared and immediately ask if they're sad, angry or anything. If they say no, I will immediately doubt myself for probably doing something that makes them not trust me to tell me their true feelings. I will keep asking and asking again and I'm like unable to guess their feelings either.
I hate it when we're texting and they don't put any smileys or anything and I can't find out how they're feeling.
I try to be friends with everybody and I don't hate anyone in particular but then there's also someone who's dissatisfied with the fact that I'm friends with someone they hate. But I can't just stop friending one of them either. And the problem is most of the time I can only find out why someone is drifting away from me when I ask them directly and if they actually answer me.
I've also been told I'm irritating because I literally go around my group of friends and telling them I love them (as a friend). Maybe I'm trying to unconsciously bind them to me? I may have a fear of abandonment.
Wow. This turned out longer than I expected.
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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to RinascereAddiction [2012-06-25 15:55:23 +0000 UTC]
It is normal for people not able to know how other people feel. And some do have a bit more disadvantages than other at facial and nonverbal cue readings. But it can be help. You may need to do some practice and facial recognition and other stuffs related to culture cue readings. Depend on how severely flawed the system is, the practice varied. But I am no expert on the issue. This is a suggestion for you to look it u more though.
But yes, I do sense a hint of fear of abandonment. I do not know the root cause of it, however, but probably got to do with how you are unable to read other people emotion and how you have been neglected in some way during your childhood.
So in a sense, I take it as your mind is telling you that if you are unable to read other people emotion, you are vulnerable and open for hurt. In short, you feel a sense of loosing control. Thus, it make you feel anxiety, scared and restless.
Is this explanation similar to how you feel?
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xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 06:21:51 +0000 UTC]
Hm... You aren't the only one that thinks that I'm selfish. My mom, dad, and sister all think that I'm selfish and maybe I am. I cut to let my anger towards myself out. I hate myself. I blam myself for practically everything. And my parents do the same.
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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 13:54:02 +0000 UTC]
sigh... My point is that you have brace yourself. You're not selfish. But what you're doing isn't okay. At all. You have to get up, realize you can do better than blaming and hurting yourself and move on. It's hard- I know that feeling all too well. But by staying strong, fixing those patches you made, you can do it.
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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 14:37:52 +0000 UTC]
The thing is that I have lost hope in myself. There is only one person that gives me hope, but they haven't messaged me or anything like that this summer. Hurting myself is better than hurting others.
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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 14:47:30 +0000 UTC]
Then you have to find it yourself. Do things, listen to things, remember things that motivate you to smile, live, and be happy. It can be from the past(old books you loved, memories from your childhood), your ideas of the future(what you want to the government to be, your ideas for artworks, what college you want to go if you haven't yet), or even from the present. If you lose hope in yourself, you still can't give up. Not now, not yet at least. You have to push yourself to keep living, keep smiling and find things in life you enjoy. Like I said, it's not easy, but it's not impossible either.
I'm there for you no matter what- in my own little way.
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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 14:53:00 +0000 UTC]
The past that i remember is not a happy one. I'm not really sure what I'm gonna do when i grow up. I smile everyday, but it's fake. Oh, and you don't need to be there for me. I don't want to be a burden or waste anyone's time. Cause that is all that I am... a waste of time.
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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 15:14:46 +0000 UTC]
My idea of a happy ending is me finding the right guy and finally being happy again. I did find a guy that makes me happy, but then I come home and that happiness that fantasy that I just lived for a moment is destroyed. It is very hard to stay strong in today's society.
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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 15:35:08 +0000 UTC]
i'm trying, but I've been cheated on before(by my first boyfriend) and I'm afraid that the same thing will happen again. I trust the guy i like(aka my boyfriend), but I don't want to lose him.
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CingCingartist In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 16:10:11 +0000 UTC]
Don't then. Spend time with him and tell him how much you appreciate him. If he truly cares for you, he will always be at your side. And if he doesn't, there's always a hundred more in the world who will love you as well.
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xxuracuttiepiexx In reply to CingCingartist [2012-06-18 16:29:58 +0000 UTC]
it's really hard to stay strong, especially when you have friends/parents like mine.
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xllAngelSnowllx In reply to xxuracuttiepiexx [2012-06-18 10:25:37 +0000 UTC]
I don't hate you.
Would you like to smile for me?
Even if the world is against you, please don't become the enemy of yourself.
Because the decision to be saved or not depended entirely on whether you can love yourself or not.
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spottymoo98 [2012-06-18 04:53:35 +0000 UTC]
Umm.... no. YOU should live your life happily, YOU should do all of the things you have stated. You can say what you want about yourself, but not overstating it to be the opinion of others as well.
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CingCingartist In reply to spottymoo98 [2012-06-18 14:08:38 +0000 UTC]
again, my point wasn't to say you guys are selfish. My point was what you're doing- hurting yourself, is not okay and that you can do better than that -_- I myself was given the same message. You can imagine how "happy" I was to hear my actions were selfish. But I got the point; the message. I have to forgive myself for those actions, realize it's not helping matters, and move on. Maybe I should have been more clear...
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xBefore-IDie [2012-06-18 04:45:36 +0000 UTC]
im sorry. but no. you had a couple points. but this seriously pissed me off. you should live your life and feel alive and what not. but you have absolutely no right to say half of what you did. its cruel. say what you want to say about yourself. but dont label the acts and feelings of other people.
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CingCingartist In reply to xBefore-IDie [2012-06-18 14:04:00 +0000 UTC]
*face palm* My point was that you can do better than hurting yourself and that you have to realize, life isn't going to be easy but it's the way you cope with it that determines your outcome.
I figured some people would get angry at me. After all, the last person who told me this made me frustrated, hurt to the point I yelled. But guess what? I listened to her, realized what I was doing wasn't going to help with the matters, and moved on. A year ago- I hated her and said she didn't understand and she was harsh and a jerk. Now, I realize as harsh it was, she had a point. I thank her now.
In a way, my relationship with her is the same of the book, Tiger Mom. Sure her teaching ways are harsh and definitely asking more than most moms ask for but in the end, her children become more than accomplished. What I, the person before told was that you have to get up, realize what you did isn't going to help me, get over it and move on towards the future knowing what you're planning to do. It's asking a lot, but I know every single person has that ability to accomplish it as the girls(from tiger mom) did.
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