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Published: 2013-05-29 07:55:31 +0000 UTC; Views: 221; Favourites: 12; Downloads: 0
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Vent Art. I (apparantly and most likely as according to my psycologist) suffed from something along the lines of 'Social Cue Disorder' meaning I have trouble or fail to naturally recognize social cues. Pretty self explanatory that.For the most part I have taught myself over the years (impressively she says) to recognize and react to different cues- but new situations or ambiguous situations still confuse me. I often don't know what I'm doing wrong or why people might be reacting a certain way. A lot of the time it makes it hard to connect with people- especially in big groups, I'm better one on one.
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Ah, I've met a few people recently who seem to have an undiagnosed form of this recently. They usually don't seem to notice anything in my body language or my expression that tells them how I'm feeling at all. It's quite jarring! I never noticed this with you, though. You've learnt well!
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Well I wanted to have friends.. so I learned to learn. I guess I'm lucky in that regard.
But at the moment I'm having lots of situations come up where not only do I not do the right thing but I just can't tell where I went wrong...
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I have the same situation every single day, it's kind of annoying.
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It certainly is..
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Is that similar to a sort of autism? Just wondering, it kinda sounds like that.
I would never have actually picked you as having any trouble like this, though - you appear remarkably socially apt, so having heard that's been self-wired is remarkable to me as well.
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It is actually. In the current psychological model it would be considered part of aspergers- but my psychologist said in the model that's replacing it soon it's more of a spectrum and that's where I would sit, because I can recognize some cues and I also feel empathy and have a theory of mind (ability to recognize that other people have their own separate consciousnesses like mine.)
She says it's somewhere between just being really smart and on a different level to other people and having social cue disorder.
Well remember in primary school when I had no idea how I should act towards other kids and had anger management issues and couldn't understand how to make friends properly and always wanted to control how everyone else acted in games n stuff? That was me still learning how to behave in social situations. I can literally remember logically processing how people acted and how I needed to modify my behavior in order to fit in- and still having moments where I struggled a lot. So yeaaah..
Maybe because you're also very intelligent I found it easier to communicate with you in primary school and up.. xP
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Yeah, that is a huge differential point between serious aspergers ad milder cases I guess - and I'd say the empathy is the important part. Ah yeah, I can see what she means - being really bright in some areas does drag you back in others, naturally, anyway.
Ah right, that does make sense - lol, still doing better than me. I never realised when I made a social slip-up unless I was majorly shamed, and I only understood half of interacting with people after my parents just darn well explained it to me XD I didn't even think about it, so you're quite mindful to do that.
There is that, we communicated more with words and less with emotions and behaviour, I guess. Man, long response for such a prompt one XD
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Yeah- she said it's like partly because things like that are trivial like small talk and so I (and it's true) just don't see the point in them usually..
My parents told me I was doing it wrong a lot. Not all at once just little reminders. Also I found drama frustrating and embarrassing when it happened because I knew everyone else was wondering WHY there was drama at all. I didn't want to deal with the constant embarrassment i guess..
Yeah we were good at that- we barely even PLAYED games we were too busy explaining them to one another. It was just a whole level of complexity about other kids games and that's why trying to play with other kids usually frustrated me- I couldn't explain to them because they couldn't understand.
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Yeah, I know what that's like, I get a bit like that when I'm irritated.
Lol, I just can't play anymore - not role-based games, anyway. My mind gets too caught up in what's happening, and I normally don't have the brain power to 'run' a game real time while thinking about it.
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Yeah especially when already bored or irritated it's like- if I have to EXPLAIN myself a second time to you I am going to scream xD;;
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I don't go to a psychologist but I can say that I very much relate
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yeah
I can't really be around anyone with strong emotions like Someone who is really happy and energetic or Someone who is angry
and I don't really understand why some people react so dramatically (what I consider dramatic a guess) and I myself have little to no reaction at all
so yeah not fun makes it hard to empathize with people or make friends
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Ahh see I have a sort of flipside of that- I empathize with obvious emotions but subtle things throw me off cos I don't understand what's actually going on. I often have quite dramatic reactions as well and I have to remember to tone it down and be 'reasonable.'
Either way it's like a barrier between you and everyone else..
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yeah but it is interesting to talk to someone with a similar and yet polar opposite problem
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It is.. I'm sure it's not that uncommon..
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I guess but I don't talk to many people
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Yeah makes sense.. well I don't mind talking to you (:
(See that I added a smiley because apparently when you add smileys to things it's better. Or something. According to people..)
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I've always found "(:" to be kinda creepy
but that's just my opinion
and you really don't mind talking to me?
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Yeah me too.. I prefer smileys like this: ;u;
but then people might not recognize it as a smiley...
not at all lol
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yeah I've had the problem before with people but they just look so much better ouo
I'm always afraid I'd bother or annoy someone if I talk to them ;o;
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owo
Yeah me too hehe.. it's even harder to tell over the internet as well cos it's all text..
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yeah
but I have ways of emphasizing words and the Many ways of changing a text helps a lot
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True true- but when other people use text I know I sometimes have difficulty deciding how they meant it..
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yeah i guess your right
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