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sanitylover [2019-02-15 02:09:22 +0000 UTC]

Quality time

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PrankStarz101 [2019-01-19 23:51:04 +0000 UTC]

I do all of them <3

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Telumindel [2018-12-27 01:29:26 +0000 UTC]

Chapman's work seriously helped my relationship for exactly the reason you described.

I have been with my husband since I was 14. Previously, I could have counted on one hand how many gifts he had given me in that time period, which did not make me happy in the least. When I confronted him about it, he was hurt, like why did I need him to "buy me stuff"? I tried explaining it wasn't about him "buying" anything. I wasn't asking for diamonds and gold! Heck, just write me a cute note and fold it up and leave it in the mailbox for me, no $ required!

Then I took the Love Languages assessment. I found out my primary love language is receiving gifts, and my secondary is quality time.

And then I made my husband take it. His primary is acts of service and secondary is physical touch.

No wonder we didn't understand each other. Our love languages are COMPLETELY OPPOSITE. I started thinking about it and realized while he never got me things, he DID things for me. I'd come home from work (when I was working 60 hours a week and going to school 25 hours and was exhausted) to find he had done all of my laundry and folded it, washed all the sheets so I'd have a clean bed to go to sleep in. He would clean the kitchen and wash the dishes so I could make my lunch. He was showing love in HIS language - acts of service. Likewise, I would get him little gifts - a keychain of his favorite character, a boba tea from our favorite restaurant, a new coffee mug, etc. - and be confused as to why he wasn't as thrilled as I'd be if someone did the same for me. (Turns out, "receiving gifts" is his absolute dead last love language.)

It's made a huge difference in how we communicate. While we do still default to our own language, we both make a conscious effort to use each other's as well. I've also encouraged my friends to take the assessment, because I think it is applicable in all relationships.

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RIPZyden070121 [2018-12-18 21:07:13 +0000 UTC]

I saw this love language on DanPlan, very curious

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Nortstar [2018-12-16 14:11:12 +0000 UTC]

awwww^^ it is so cute ^^

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Asillan [2018-12-14 21:12:59 +0000 UTC]

To me, it's acts of service first, and then words of affirmation. Physical touch is a close third, but it has to come with one of those other two to really shine.

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DreamingDrag0n [2018-12-10 06:24:09 +0000 UTC]

I love that you used cats for this XD
Mine would either be quality time and physical touch or quality time and words of affirmation, but I wouldn't know cuz I am and always have been a single pringle

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Froststrike5829 [2018-12-09 18:40:19 +0000 UTC]

Same! You know, all your drawings are really drawing me from my sad mode earlier! Thanks!

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FeatherQuilt1988 [2018-12-08 20:12:12 +0000 UTC]

I'm aromantic asexual, but if these can apply to platonic love as well, then my languages would probably be quality time and physical touch.

These are very sweet little drawings!

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TickledPinkOpossum [2018-12-05 03:45:29 +0000 UTC]

As much as i fight it, recieving gifts is my first one, with quality time being second.

I try very hard not to be materialistic, but i just have to face the facts that I kind of am sometimes. haha.

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ShaelleFay [2018-12-02 23:09:44 +0000 UTC]

I think it's probably physical touch and words of affirmation.

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Brooklyn96 [2018-12-02 17:53:19 +0000 UTC]

The "acts of service" almost look like the grey/gray cat gave the orange one a cigarette; I know it was not intentional, but it just looks like one to me for some odd reason. Either way, you did a nice job with the art on all 5 of them.

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JetEdge [2018-12-02 03:04:20 +0000 UTC]

weird, I qualify for all those

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LiteralSinRoll [2018-12-01 22:26:43 +0000 UTC]

I really quite enjoy and love this topic, since it's very important when dealing with loved ones ^^ my personal two love languages are Quality Time for #1 (yay for having the same one haha) and my 2nd is Acts of Service. Those two things REALLY show me that someone actually cares about me and my wellbeing and happiness. And it's generally how I show appreciation and love too (well I show it through Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation especially, but) it's definitely important to understand what someone else considers to be a show of genuine care. x3 OH and your drawings are so incredibly ADORABLE.

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Berryzem [2018-12-01 19:28:42 +0000 UTC]

Oh my gosh I just finished reading this book about a month ago and was talking to my friends about reading it to them. It's wonderful! This picture is so darn cute and illustrates the love languages very well. Nicely done ♥ 

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AtomicKawaii [2018-12-01 17:15:48 +0000 UTC]

These are too adorable!!!!!!!   

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Singels [2018-12-01 14:35:05 +0000 UTC]

Can I be very greedy but as at the same time giving for a moment

I think all 5 should be there in both directions, frequency can differ of course, not everybody is the same

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LadySionis [2018-12-01 03:36:54 +0000 UTC]

I might be new to this, but I love it! Here I thought love was only spoken through flowers.

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DexAntares [2018-11-30 23:42:33 +0000 UTC]

I just recently learned about the five languages of love myself. My therapist told me about them, and use them to illustrate how misunderstandings can work. It's funny how sometimes taking things back to basics can help us understand more complex issues in our lives. 

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puddles--sketch [2018-11-30 18:32:43 +0000 UTC]

i admire how clean your ink-work is

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awkwardbot [2018-11-30 18:25:29 +0000 UTC]

Quality time 

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SlyFXZ [2018-11-30 18:13:04 +0000 UTC]

Going slightly off topic; I greatly admire your handwriting!

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Telltale-the-Wendigo [2018-11-30 18:10:39 +0000 UTC]

Quality time and physical touch uwu

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