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Just a cute little quote that I found a long time ago and just remembered. It really is true. If you can easily fall out of love with a person then I doubt you were really in love. I hate it when people say "I loved her" or "I loved him" or especially "we were in love". You either still love them or you never did. The word love is so often overused. My philosphy is: say it if you mean it, and only if you mean it. Never say "I love you" to satisfy someone else. On the other hand, if you do mean it, TELL that person all the time. Let them know you care
. Haha so there is a little look inside my head and my random thoughts that float around in there.
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This is somewhat naive, but cute. A belief, perhaps, that teenagers infatuated with one another would hold.Β
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But you used the word "loved" in the statement towards the end.
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The thing is - this is not quite true.
People change all the time. When you love the person someone is at a specific time in their lives, you will never stop loving that person. If they significantly change, your feelings will, too. There may be feelings of loyalty still, but when they are a different person to who they were when you loved them, you don't love the person, you love the memory. And that's OKAY, that doesn't mean you didn't genuinely love them when you said you did. People can and do change, and it's okay for your feelings to do the same. Feelings of love change and they can leave. Love, per definition, is a mix of attachment, passion and commitment. And each of these components can change and dissipate depending on circumstances - doesn't mean they weren't all present for a certain amount of time at a certain point. It's insane to expect one to only say "I love you" when they can promise it will be forever, because no one can. There are things you cannot foresee, and that's okay. Change is constantly present, people change all the time, nothing is meant to be forever, and that's fine.
TL;DR: Love = Passion, Attachment, and Commitment. Do not invalidate a time where all of these were strongly present by saying they never were, just because at one point they no longer are, or one of them isn't, etc. By your definition you're saying love is only "valid" if you can 100% promise forever and forever is not a thing. Circumstances change, people change, feelings change, neuronal connections in your brain change. It's a cute quote, but in the real world it won't get you far.
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I just agree with your description.
In our society the words "I love you" are truly overused and it makes me everyday sad to see how other people use it without knowing what its meaning is.
Especially in our young Generation.
Having different "relation ships" week for week.
I don't know whether I'm wrong or not, because I have not many experiences about life, but something annoys me a bit: If I love someone, I would love all parts of him, wouldn't I? If I love someone, and accept his failures and nice parts, why should I break up ?
Doesn't loving someone mean to accept him/her? I still don't get it, maybe I have too less experiences, or maybe our society is just broken.
I'm sorry for that long comment, but I'm curious.
Greetings
ChimaNamii
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I agree with this very much so, and the phrase "I love you" is overused so much. When you love someone, you love them for everything, including their faults. You should never try to change someone in to who you want them to be.
That being said, love is very complicated. I've been in a relationship since middle school,-I'm a senior in high school now- but we have had so many ups and downs, and we've had to take a break from one another multiple times. This type of experience comes with loving someone/having a relationship with them. People don't normally just break up because they want to go out with someone else; normally it is because the relationship isn't working anymore, you're fighting constantly, etc. It changes from person to person.
As time goes on, you will most likely experience this. Our society is broken in many aspects, but love has always been like this. Many people get into a relationship, and find out it either isn't for them, they bicker constantly, they become depressed, and so on and so forth. Any couple can conquer bumps in the road, but relationships take hard work from both sides. You can't let fights or dumb things get between you.
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Yes, some of the relationships broke up because it doesn't work between both, but if I see the teenagers in my school I always ask myself "How many 'relationships' did you have, and how old are you?" I don't get it.
It seems to me that most of the people don't know what love is.
Why should I have a relationship if I don't love him/her?
I'm just 16, and I always said myself "well, if you have a relationship in this age i wouldn't be a long one, because I know that most of the Teenagers haven't a SERIOUS relationship."
But I had one, because I fell so hardly in love with someone. I just fall in love with him and after a time I really love(d) him.
He said he loves me, I trusted him. And at the end, he didn't.
Just told me he doesn't want me. And I still regret why I broke my phrase (? Sorry my English is not that good).
I'm still not sure whether I still love him or not, but I still miss him. But nevermind, something what u want to add is
It also makes me angry to hear how other classmates talk about "oh did you know! They are ALREADY 3month a couple!" " Really?! Such a long time.."
I guess it shouldn't be so surprising to be a long time with someone a couple.
It will be always a bad idea to have a relationship without love ... okay that's what I think. Because being a couple has the base of love.
Finally it's a really complicated topic as you have said. In fact a long range of book wouldn't describe this topic.
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Honestly, I don't believe this is true whatsoever. This is going to be a bit of constructive criticism on this piece. You can't love someone still if they've broken your heart somehow or if they've moved on. If they left, they left. There's nothing more you can do, and you can't keep on "loving" them because if you do, you'll have never moved on. You'll keep making the same mistakes you did before by trying to get back together with that person, and being hurt by them over and over. Sure people can make mistakes, but most of the time you'll just keep getting hurt because people don't change. You can love someone with all of your heart, and they could shatter your heart into pieces. They were once "loved." Doesn't mean you never loved them in the first place at all. You've moved on. You can't say you still love your ex when your married can you? That's like cheating. If you love someone, you'd still be with them. Sorry for such a long comment. Wanted to give my two cents on this piece.
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I just wanted to add something to your criticism, "you can't love someone still if they've broken your heart [...]" well in fact I guess you can. But it is in your hand, whether you decide to move on or rather not, and keep the feelings up day for day.
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I loved someone.
She's dead now.
You can't love something that isn't there. It's like saying you love walking on the moon when you've never been there. It doesn't make sense. I don't hate the girl I loved. Sure I'll say I love what she was. But not what she is now. Because she no longer is a thing that you are able to love.
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Well, I just want to add my opinion to your comment, and I guess in fact you are right, but at the first look when it happened I'm sure you (or if other people in such a Situation) would think about " i miss you.. i love you...(etc. Imagine your part)". After thinking more about the issue, you will think like how you said but I guess you will still miss the *memories* of her. And that's often meant by that I would say. Loving the memories of the person.
On the other hand, you can just say that on your point of view, you don't know how other feel. (That's why I said often, and didn't use words which are used for generell things).
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I posted this comment a while ago and I have changed my opinion on this subject. I do believe that you can fall out of love with someone (say if a relationship failed) but if someone you love died you can still love them. I know I still love someone who died. You don't have to love someone who died, you can move on and no longer love them but that doesn't mean you never really loved them in the first place. If that makes senses
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I disagree. Time changes all things. I think that is the true allure of all art: pictures, writing, drawing, recordings...all are an attempt to capture a moment or feeling or thought in time because all things are fleeting in the face of time.
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Oh god..... :c That makes me sad for no reason. Good job though! The color combination sets the emotion for the quote!
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so true and most people don't get it. Wait for when you REALLY mean it.
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Soooo true, it's hard to find people who feel this Β way.
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That is the both the sweetest and the cruelest way to define love, and a spit-glob in the eye for those who think one can mend a broken heart.Β
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I guess that sometimes its easier to say "loved" then to remember how the person still owns your heart and no matter what you do you'll never get her back.
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That was intense. That right there, was intense. c:
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So true if you truly loved them you wouldn't be able to get over them
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Interesting but it's going against its self by saying 'Loved' near the end
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This is absolutely true, found this like a month ago, and faved it. I ended up adopting the philosophy, and I decided to come back and comment on this, because this really doesΒ make a whole hell of a lot of sense to me, and this is also very well done.
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thank you for being the first ive seen to post something like this! oh my God, thank you for posting the truth that everyone should know but are too damn blind to see it and frankly, I've always known this but I see everyone else around and ive never really told anyone that there is no such thing as lovED because love is forever, but everyone is so judgmental so i assume its like trying to teach a 5 year old with Down syndrome a college education.
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A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty and
he
said no. She asked him if he would want to be with her forever and
he
said no. She then asked him if she were to leave would he cry, and
............once
again he replied with a no. She had heard enough. As she walked... See Moreaway, tears streaming down her f......ace the...
... See Moreboy grabbed her arm and said.... You're not pretty
you're beautiful. Idon't want to be with you forever. I NEED to be
with you forever. And Iwouldn't cry if you walked away...I'd die...
β₯β₯ ~~THE END~~ β₯β₯.......Isn't that sweet? Tonight at midnight your
true love willrealize they like you. Something good will happen to
you at 1:00-4:00pm tomorrow, it could be anywhere on IM or email,
outside of school,anywhere! Get ready for the biggest shock of your
life. If you breakthis chain letter you will be cursed with 10
relationship problems forthe next ten years. If you post this to 15
pages in 15 minutes, you're safe
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I heard that quote ages ago and I've been searching for it since; thanks for this! 8D
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Whoa! This is so true!!! Scary to admit, too true to deny! i love this.
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The sad truth...is when you care more about them then they do about you. 
How could I make a picture like this? How did you make it???
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I guess your right
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I think most of the problem is people get confused between loving someone and just really really really liking them. Cuz there's a difference. Love is what there is after the romance dies away and two people completely trust and care for each other.
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Love is unconditional. If you find something about someone you don't like, you still except them. You can love someone your attracted to. And you can love friends and family, its the same love. This is why love is not an emotion. Which make love confusing and portrayed incorrectly at times. Love is rather a state of consciousness. Another way of saying it is Love is a way of thinking. When you except someone for all their flaws, ALL OF IT and you dont have to like it, it is love.
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This is such a good point!
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It's so very true!
My ex and I were together for some time and I still love him even though I'm with someone else and they're with some else...
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