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Published: 2012-09-01 03:35:14 +0000 UTC; Views: 7352; Favourites: 174; Downloads: 3
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So much this. I appreciate people trying to help, but shit like 'look at the bright side', 'others have it worse' etc. just makes it worse.Related content
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Iβve fought major depression my entire life. The type of depression I have is not sadness, but an angry and aggressive form of the illness. I havenβt had a depressive episode since 1997 when I was lucky enough to find a superb diagnostician who prescribed the proper medication to alleviate my symptoms.
When I was in the midst of a depressive episode in 1992 I was involved in verbal and sometimes physical altercations every weekend. My wife told me that she was living in fear that I was going to kill someone or someone was going to kill me. She insisted that I get help.
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I went through a year where I would wake up in the morning and weep that I hadn't died in my sleep.
I'm in a better place right now, but the memories linger and will likely never be entirely gone.
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This makes a lot of sense. The second paragraph is really right on.
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i am like that people think i am over emotional when i cry,because they don't know the reason i cry , so i don't cry anymore...i keep it on the inside...and smile through the pain...
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I felt hopeless when i read that... hope you're ok.
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I turn my frown upside down a lot. I try to be the most amazing, useful person people can know... because inside I'm a useless failure of a human and I really don't like to admit it or let anyone see that.
This may actually be one of the first times I've actually properly admitted anywhere online... I have a feeling I did it once before, but even so, I rarely let this people see this side of me.
I really struggle to see a bright future as it is even if things are going well, so why does the world have to guarantee a negative future? 
I can't stop thinking about these things and wish I had some way to switch off or to avoid it... I know I see a lot of things in a dark way because of the way depression distorts the mind, but I can't help feel that it's also a more realistic viewpoint, rather than being delusionally optimistic.Β
But I hate how s*** I feel most of the time, and how useless I am at even pretty basic things. I feel sad for seemingly no reason at all sometimes too, like now. I felt amazingly happy about 3 hours ago, and now I don't even get why I feel rubbish atm.. Sorry if I'm ranting btw... I think this quote might have triggered me a little bit.
I'm lucky I have my gf; she reminds me what it's like to be happy and is probably the only source of hope I have. 
Depression is horrible and shouldn't be underestimated. I'm glad you posted this Rationalhub! This quote sums up some of the bigger misconceptions and truths of depression very effectively.
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It's like a voice in the back of your head constantly telling you that you suck, that you're worthless and that everything is just dark.....even if that's not really the case. It isn't something that can just be switched off....some days, you CAN tell it to do one. Some days, it hits you like a ten ton truck.
You pretty much got it spot on.
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Agreed completely. I have Major depression for about 3 years or so now.... It sucks :/
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Same major depression for 3 years... how fun how fun...
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I know what you mean.
Sometimes I just really want to tell people like that to shove it up where the sun don't shine! 
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"Life's shit, so your bound to be depressed" I was told this, by a PSYCHOLOGIST!
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Ugh - when I was younger I had this a lot in school ~ It's so deep and you are just stuck in an everlasting vortex of darkness - When people say - OH COME ON, PLEAAASE- just get off your ass and do stuff (or get happy!)
Won't help one bit - In ways,it makes depression worse.
I found a good way for depression,is to just have someone with you if there is someone that is. Sometimes talking about how you feel even if you don't get out of it will help.
Anyway, Depression isn't just a feeling - I will seriously agree with that - depression is an illness, a state of mind that people do not choose to be in.
I've been there, but to be honest we all mixed it up ~ I was actually bipolar so when it came for help - antidepressants? Never worked.
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I had depression not too long ago, and I still have flashbacks in which I feel totally useless and ask myself why I acted as I did. Why. Just why?!
Those sunny side people make it worse. most definatly. I, for one, just needed someone to hold hands with, just to have a shoulder to cry on. Not necessarily talk to, but just to hold on to.
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I felt so bad for a while, thinking I had no business to think of myself as depressive.
Now I know what I am :/
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sorry.
Its not funny.
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no its not :/ but sadly I have nothing to say considering I'm not in the position to be happy - Why do you think I act like so? to fool others ^^
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Don't try fooling others. It'll make yourself unhappy and there will surely be a day you cannot hold the facade up anymore.
Better to show who you are.
I'm not saying that you should show everyone your feelings, but not to pretend.
Ugh. I'm horrible at giving advice.
I'm better at :hugs:
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I don't need advice Hun XD if you don't like me being happy then just don't comment ok? I'm sorry if you rookie as a misunderstanding but it's just who i am. And it fools people because I act like so even she I'm hurt - now if you don't mind I didn't come to.be lectured over things I already know - I appreciate the mild concern but I seriously dont need it lD good luck yourself
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I'm sorry.
I didn't want to come across like that,
Good luck to yourself and Thank you.
Holly
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you too! ;u; and no problem!
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I suffer from it. And its just there. its not that im sad about anything particular. I just am sad. Does that make since?
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It's something that pops up out of no where - I agree - makes sense completely - hang in there sweetie ;n;
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very well spoken my friend... depression's taken the lives of 3 people I know, and... if only I knew this speech...
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Very, very true. It's amazing how many people think they can make you feel better with their best motivational speeches. *facepalm* Thanks for sharing!
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This is so true. And when people say stuff like that it either feels like they're trying to get one up on you or that they just don't care about the way you feel. It's not helpful, and sometimes the best thing they could possibly do would be to just shut up and be there for you, not saying stuff about things they don't understand.
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Depression really is a horrible thing & very hard to deal with.
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Thank you so much for this! So many people just don't understand!
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Yeah, you can tell people how 'lucky' they are compared to others in the world all you want; it doesn't make their own pain go away, or make it any less real.
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