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I've seen a lot of people write off AvPD as "Oh, so that means [s/he]'s just shy".It's really not.
Not gonna be a hugely popular stamp (Hell, most laymen don't even know what AvPD is), but since I'm Avoidant, I figured it should be made.
If anyone wants a stamp like this for a different personality disorder or mental illness, ask, and I'll see what I can do.
Intending to do a depression one in a few minutes.
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Thanks. I have been diagnosed as Avoidant a few months ago, so I will be using this stamp.
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Bless. These stamps are really useful and necessary, so thank you for having made them.Β
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yay for avoidant people
it's even worse with avoidant/anxious personality disorder
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This is true!Β I was diagnosed with AvPD Β on 30 June, 2015 
To anyone would like to know more about AvPD: I recommend this:Β mentalhealth.com/home/dx/avoidβ¦
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I haven't been diagnosed with this specifically (what I WAS diagnosed with was Asbergers, Social Phobia, and Anxiety...which I also believe whole-heartedly),Β From reading some of the comments to this, it sounds like I could have this as well.Β I've recently started thinking I'm turning paranoid, Avoident is probably a better term for it.Β I've always avoided people to some extent, because I fear they're going to judge me, reject me, and/or bully me, as I've been bullied and rejected and judged in the past.
It is NOT fun...especially when you have to work under a serial bully. >.> Thankfully I'm not there anymore, but I was there for 3 years or so (during which time I felt like I constantly had to be looking over my shoulder, alert for that bully-boss), the damage has been done, and I don't know if I'll ever recover fully.Β Doesn't help that any attempt at job search almost always ends in rejection.Β They say to shake it off, and keep going until I get someone that won't reject me...but, the thing is...I CAN'T just shake it off. Every rejection is like a personal blow to me.Β They say I should be "over it" in regards to that job-bullying incident...but it's 4 or so years later, and I'm not "over it."
I walk down the street...and I get paranoid if there is someone walking behind me...even at a distance.Β I don't like going to grocery stores (that's where the job I mentioned with the bully-boss had been), but I go because I HAVE to to get food.
I was in a job-readyness class once...that was supposed to help me find work (HA!Β that's a joke...a bitter, non-funny joke!)...at the end we had to break into groups and use this special technique they taught us (that, to me, seemed horribly forward and pushy) and go up to a COMPLETE stranger and practice with it...
...Well...despite my group members being supportive and encouraging...I had a panic-attack, and didn't end up being able to do it.Β I ended up retreating into the classroom that was blessedly empty.
Usually, I'm better at social-ness online...but recently, I've started to doubt myself here too...and double-, triple-, quadruple-check what I'm writing to make sure I won't offend someone with it unintentionally...even then, after submitting it...I worry.Β I often find myself apologizing, for things, probably unnecessarily.
I've recently started taking medication for the anxiety, at the insistence of the job-search-help people, but I doubt it's effectiveness.Β We'll have to see whether it helps in the long run, but...I kinda doubt it.
Oh man, this got long.Β Sorry for blubbering my sob-story at you. XD;
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i don't truley understand it
But is it kinda like a paranoia? But much worse?
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It's not like paranoia. It's like for example, you want to have a friend but you are so afraid of being rejected by that friend eventualy that you don't try. And when you have those friend you are always fearing that they will reject you, that they are badmouthing you, that they think you don't trust them, that they feel bad because of you when they are sad. You always feel like you said something wrong to your friend even if you didn't.
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Avoidant Personality Disorder is what I suppose to be "AvPD" to be, yeah?
I used to think that I was just extremely shy, but now I feel paranoid when I'm out of my house. Everyone is looking, they're all out to get me, and it makes me feel awfully scared.
I have trouble talking to be I don't know, but luckily it's nowhere near as bad online, usually it's face-to-fave or voice-to-voice contact that scares me so much.
Near the end of school, we had to present in front of the whole class and after having stomach cramps for a week before even presenting, I ended up nearly passing out. I had to keep an iron grip on the big table next to me in order to keep from collapsing in on myself, I was so nervous.
People need to learn what "Avoidant Personality Disorder", "Social Anxiety Disorder" and even just "Social Phobia" mean and can do to a person before they go blasting off about it...
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That sounds a little bit like me...when leaving the house, I get anxious when I see so much as a human shadow down the street, or a car passing me. It gets worse when someone walks by me on the sidewalk, and sometimes I have to look over my shoulder to make sure they're still walking and not stopping to turn around and...I don't know what I expect them to do exactly. I can handle it some days, but often enough I'd rather just not deal with going out.
I can handle talking to someone over the phone pretty alright, but it depends on a few things how worked-up I get. Even less of a problem over the Internet.
Oh, group presentations...I can handle it somewhat when I'm with a group of people I'm acquainted with, but if I have to go up by myself? Expect a lot of stuttering, shaking, jerky or otherwise flailing gestures,Β and deliberately trying not to look at ANYONE in the audience, especially not in the eye.
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I've never been diagnosed with this (or with any other mental disorder, for that matter), but if I do have this, I think it might be mild, since most of my symptoms go away when in the company of friends.
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I used to have to walk a few blocks to get to home from my bus stop everyday. Cars would tend to slow down when they passed me [and the neighborhood I was in had PLENTY of child molesters] and it always nerveraked me so bad and now every time a car goes by me, I always put all focus on the car until it's gone.
Phone conversations are hard for me too unless it's with a really close friend. I tend to not speak much over the phone, and I never know how to tell someone "Okay, I have to go now, bye." without it coming out like "Hey, I'm really - uhhh - sorry, but I - um - have to go now... bye... I guess...?"
Needless to say I try to avoid answering the phone at any costs when it rings unless it's my mother, step step father or someone else in my family who I know relatively well.
When I did that group presentation, I came letting my gaze flow down to the ground, or whenever I held things up to show, I'd look at the object I was showing. I tried looking at the audience and I started crippling inside so I looked away. I just can't STAND doing presentations. I'd rather sit alone in the back of a room writing a 10 page essay on the thing I was supposed to present over presenting.
I haven't been diagnosed either, but I've taken REAL medical exams online [not those phony "How much sanity do you have?" or "How socially awkward are you?", ect.]. I've taken a couple specifically for diagnosing anthropophobia and it gave me my results, which weren't very good results, at that.
My parents even call me "psychotically paranoid" and my mother told me "you're going to have to force yourself out of this phase, because otherwise you'll grown up and live alone and sad all your life".
Thank you mother.
Your words really help.
As for friends... it depends on where we're at. If we're taking a walk down the street and a car goes by and my friend is with me, I'm okay.
If I'm at some kind of store and with friends, it doesn't help much. It really just depends on how many people are around.
Annagh... sorry for the long novel of a reply. It's just nice knowing someone else at least can understand and compare to what I keep trying to explain to other people. Nobody else takes it seriously, and frankly, it pisses me off...
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I have this, people just go off saying that I'm emo or something along those lines. I developed it because I was bullied as a child. Great stamp, thanks for making.
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Thanks for the stamp creation, since I suffer from this apparently
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Could you do a stamps for Dysthymia, Social Anxiety Disorder, and Asperger Syndrome? If you haven't already.
Anyway, great stamp.
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I don't mind people calling me shy but I have this disorder and people call me a "crybaby", say I have low self esteem, some even go far to say "I'm doing it for attention." thats what gets me
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"doing it for attention"Β ugh.Β My ex boss said I was doing it for attention...as an excuse for her to bully me...which just added to the problem in the first place.Β But that was before I had a diagnosis (of Aspergers, anxiety, and social phobia)
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I know what you're feeling, it's really annoying isn't it? I'm only self-diagnosed, but even if I'm not truly diagnosed, I know I have it. People use to tell me those two things a lot.
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I self-diagnosed myself too I just show all the symptoms etc. but I'm getting a little better my friend thinks I'm just paranoid I think she's right
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I don't think I have Paranoid Personality Disorder, but I seem to be pretty paranoid. However, I do have AvPD and Social Anxiety Disorder (once again, self-diagnosed, but I know I have it. I also know that I Dysthymia and possibly mild depression).
That's good to hear! I hope you fully recover. I, on the other hand, am, if anything, getting worse. I'm even going as far to rarely talk. I only talk to a small group of friends. The social outcasts, to be precise. I'm even starting to refuse talking to my family, and teachers. I refuse talking to the counselor, because I'm very anxious/afraid that even the counselor will judge me, embarrass me, or reject me.
Oh, and I remember back in third, fourth, and fifth grade I use to cry a lot. They use to call me a crybaby and I was constantly bullied in fifth grade. I remember in fifth grade I suffered from chronic headaches, we never figured out the exact problem, but I think it was because I was suffering from either a depression episode or very high levels of anxiety due to very low self-esteem and bullying. In sixth grade I stopped crying in school, because I was afraid they'd make fun of me. I still cried at home frequently. I was also made fun of. For example, I have dark circles under my eyes due to allergies, I also squint a lot due to the allergies and I was made fun of because of that. Typically they'd mimic my actions, they'd squint, make a stupid expression (they thought I was stupid because of my squinting, which, for some reason, looked stupid to them), and lower their neck (I do that without noticing, I also slouch a lot). They also made fun of how I walked, I usually slouch when I walk, and I generally have a stiff, awkward walk.
Anyway, if you think you have AvPD or PPD (Paranoid) then you should talk about it with your family maybe? I tried, didn't work because my parent's don't care, but it might work out for you. Or you could talk to a counselor, or something. I'm still trying to build up the courage to talk to a counselor.
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I'm afraid like you they'll judge me and I'm afraid of their reaction. And I can relate I was bullied all of elementary and middle school high schools much better, I still have low self esteem but its not as bad as it once was. And I'm slowly building up the courage to speak up more. I used to talk to the counselor now I'm trying to handle problems on my own.
And whenver I try talking to my parents they always yell at me so I'm kind of done talking about my private life with them
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Right now I'm in middle school (7th grade) and its, luckily, gotten better (meaning I don't get nearly as bullied as I have before). Really? I always thought high school was hell! But I guess that's because mainstream media presents it that way.
I understand. When I try telling my mom about my problems/about AvPD and SAD she yells at me. My dad, well he works the late shift so I only see him on weekend. Plus all he cares about is drinking and watching TV.
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Oh wow my parents excpet so much and it just makes me sad knowing I can't reach their standards
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Same here, basically whenever something goes wrong they find a way to blame it on me. They think I have to be absolutely perfect.
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I don't think its fair at all I kind of have a little trouble in school I'm not the smartest but I'm not the dumbest my best report card was 2 B's and the rest A's I was so happy and proud of myself then my parents yelled at me
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I know how you feel. I'm smart I guess, but ever since the middle of sixth grade my grades have been going down, because I feel....empty, I guess? I just don't feel any motivation to do anything, and even worse I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me. I'm just so unhappy, so my grades started plummeting last year. But right now it's the beginning of the year, I have a fresh start and I think I'm doing great in all subjects, except Algebra. I don't know my grade in Algebra yet, but I'm guessing it's a C, other than that, I think I have an A in everything else.
But those grades will probably last only until the middle of the year, when I lose all interest in school, once more.
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That ALWAYS happens to me! I'm get a B in Algebra, 4 A's and 3 other B's an 1 C its not bad I guess
And I always think people are talking about me, judging me or mad at me.
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Sadly right now I have a D in Algebra. 
Oh, yes, I really agree on that. My family does not seem to understand that I'm most likely mentally unstable. I simply cannot go anywhere without feeling like everyone's eyes are on me, as if they're following my every move, waiting for me to mess up so they can gossip away. I need therapy, and badly, but my family can't get that through their thick skulls. Not to mention that I'm extremely lonely, I have only a very small group of friends. I also talked to my sister about my problems, since my parents don't care, and she told me to just "quit being sad. Everybody judges others and you just have to ignore it".
Not to mention that my sister thinks I'm rude, but in all reality Im just too anxious to talk to others; I'm so afraid that I can't even say hi, not even to my friends. There's also the fact that most people in my grade I can't relate to. Everyone else (mainly people who are popular) claim that they aren't bullies, yet they socially neglect me just for being different.
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Me too but last year in 8th grade people were like that now I found better friends who understand me. But I'm still way to shy to speak up or anything. In my Physics class a group of boys make fun of me because apparently my name is "funny" (Its Shada) I was bullied about it last year too. I want to tell the teacher but I just can't get myself to tell. And my teacher accedently marked my homework as missing and it dropped to a C and I have to tell him I turned it in but I can't, I might just turn it in again for a late grade.
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Sorry to hear that.
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Me too how old are you? I'm 14
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I'm almost thirteen.
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Wow, I did not expect there are even stamps for this... However, thank you. Haha, actually quite funny about what I had to think now: I often seriously hide when someone is coming around on the streets or so. -_-Β°
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It's annoying to have people call me shy when I actually have Avoidant PD.
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I love this stamp! I'm diagnosed with avoidant, and a little bit of borderline and depressive personality disorder.. Before the doctors told me about these disorders, i didnt know they even existed..
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I've traveled a long way to finally understand the real problem about me. I felt that something died in me, but I don't know what exactly.
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Looking into this, it fits me to a T and I wonder if I have it...
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I kind of choose to be avoidant since I have no social skills in RL (tactless, accidentally/unaware of being rude, doesn't know what to say or do in any social situation) and no desire for socialisation. Maybe deep down I'm afraid of judgement and criticism of myself and my future dreams. Also, I guess I'm afraid of losing control over my actions and my consciousness - eg. drinking too much at a party or going on a date. I have these future plans that I want with all my heart, have made actual plans for (not just daydreams), know somewhat how I will reach them and know entirely that, despite what people may think or say, I'll get there.
I don't know. When I'm alone, I'm in control and I don't have to bother with what other people want and I'm free to do what I like, as I'm selfish and rather vain. I also enjoy the lessons and consistant structure of school and I spend the entire morning and lunch breaks reading in the school library. The teachers are kind and are spportive of me and there's really no fault that I can find with school. I got to choose the subjects that I like and am interested in, so no more awkward drama lessons or extremely awkward Citizenship lessons.
All I have to feel anxious about is RE enrichment (not so much about religion, but philosophy and ethics), Citizenship enrichment (jobs which I don't have, young people's rights and everything that I want but can't be bothered or am too young/immature to get... but it hasn't been like that so far) and the German lessons when we'd probably have to use werden to talk about our future and current plans. Ich werde nie heiraten. Ich werde eine Englischlehrerin sein. Ich werde in Deutschland wohnen. Ich werde allein wohnen. Ich habe keine Teilzeitarbeit weil ich zu jung bin. Ich will eine Teilzeitarbeit.
But no, I really couldn't write that in German lessons... I couldn't write my life story in my German book like I wrote here. In German they sound okay to me, but when they're translated into English the sentences just sound strange. The only reason I know that one's personal future would come into the lessons is because I've looked in a GCSE German revision guide and on the Sam Learning website.
Sorry for spamming your comments and going completely off-topic. I have this habit of taking perfectly fine topics or comments and unloading my life story onto them.
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There are other personality disorders, not just avoidant. If you rationally choose to be alone AND you feel comfortable with the way it is - that's schizoid PD IMO. It's very similar to avoidant PD, but it's not the same.
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I love this stamp, but the color is a little off-setting and makes the smaller text difficult to read...
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This stamp means something to me, since I show most of the signs of AvPD. I hate it when my parents think I break down in social situations because they think I'm simply shy. I didn't even know about this personality disorder until a few days ago, but I realized it was practically describing me when I found out.
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Did you get diagnosed with this or have you self diagnosed?
I've self diagnosed and am hoping to see someone soon
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Hmmm... Could you do one for autism? That might be a bit tough considering the wide spectrum, but god, I would love you for it.
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Hmm... well, I don't have a lot of experience with it. What would you say would fit well into the "More than just ___"? I'm perfectly willing to make it, but I don't want to make any assumptions.
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what is avodiant?
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