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Published: 2020-04-10 16:02:06 +0000 UTC; Views: 336436; Favourites: 1999; Downloads: 816
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My patrons voted and for this month it was decided that I'd make a bondage tutorial. So here it is: The Tietorial!While I'm not a teacher, I have done some instructional work from time to time. I don't know how well that translates into making bondage tutorials but I guess I'm happy as long as you don't set each other on fire following my guidance.
Also if you do try it and it works out, by all means let me know!
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You raise good points. This tutorial focuses more on the technical aspects of this specific tie rather than the overarching safety measures for bondage in general, which there are many of. Perhaps I ought to make a supplementary work explaining concepts such as safewords, signaling, nereve pressure, blood circulation issues, emergency release, general mindset et cetera.
As for the boxtie not being comfortable I actually did not know. I just went by the personal experience from those around me in the know, which invariably have described it as such.
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You might need a disclaimer this is just for technical stuff for reference or whatnot!
There needs to be some info about arm stretching and how the rigger should rotate their partner's shoulders for them so they don't get fatigued as quickly, and testing to see which wrist feels more naturally on top.Β
The single column tie in Step 1 doesn't have instructions for how to do a non collapsing knot or details on directions of the bight so it won't loosen itself, or that the single column tie should be loose enough so your partner can change which wrist is stacked on which for their comfort.
That Step 2 first upper body wrap is totally going to be uneven compared to the second upper body wrap being tied like that in the illustration. Also there's nothing about massive importance of placement so the nerves between the muscles don't get damaged (potential permanent damage!!). It is also missing the step to clear the skin by running a finger under both sides.
There's also nothing about how or why to use an X friction knot to keep it flat and make it so the wraps don't become uneven with movement. Also usage of a half-moon knot to keep the second set of wraps flat and secure.
In Step 3, I have also been taught to leave the rope between the kannuki wraps loose rather than connecting it to the main stem so they can slide and move when your partner self adjusts.Β
Between step 3 and 4 there is a little lack of information, for how to line the shoulder rope between the arm and kannuki so it doesn't pinch into the skin and how it would work better if it went up to the opposite shoulder along the back so it wouldn't add more wraps between the arm and sides of body.
Β In step 4 I really don't recommend having the rope that is connected to the main stem behind the neck, just because that single wrap being pulled down is going to squeeze against the neck when it gets pulled down, and it is also going to lift up the bottom wraps based on how it's tied in the picture.
Honestly, it's way too difficult to show the intricacies needed to do a Takate Kote safely that can be worn for a longer time in a picture tutorial.
This tie originated in Kabuki performances to convey to the audience that someone was tied up, it wasn't even originally meant to be restrictive, it was a stage tie. It was years and years of horny pervs who found ways to take the aesthetically pleasing look of it and actually make it function as real bondage.
Please don't take this the wrong way. Having seen how a dangerously tied TK permanently injured one of my friends makes me want to make people aware this isn't a tie you decide to do one day.
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While this instruction assumes that the practitioners are already familiar with safety measures and techniques, you are right that this isn't clearly expressed and that blanket statements like "safe, sane and consensual" might not cover it.
As soon as I'm able to, I'll make another pass on this. I would not want to see people getting needlessly hurt and I'm sorry that it happened to your friend. Thank you for your input!
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Great job! Are You planning more tutorials? The idea is pretty laudable
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Thanks! And I mean why not. It seems like people enjoy them so I wouldn't mind making more. I'd have to read up first though since those certainly could involve ties that I'm not familiar with.
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An excellent and well-explained technical tutorial, but I have some constructive criticism for it, if youβd care to hear it.
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Yes you can go ahead. Though I cannot promise any major changes I'd welcome another's opinion. If nothing else it will aid me in the future should I decide to make more work like this.
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One of the most dangerous (and often glossed over) risks of box ties is nerve damage to the upper arm - the radial nerve wraps around the arm at the bottom of the deltoid and can cause wrist drop if damaged, and the ulnar nerve is vulnerable just above the top of the elbow (if youβve ever hit your funny bone, congrats! You know your nerve location)
The upper and lower wraps, respectively, can be placed poorly and compress those nerves. Good tension is paramount, and while Iβm aware that is nearly impossible to teach without in-person instruction, a cautionary word on rope placement never hurts!
Other than that, this was a very clear and concise tutorial, and I look forward to your future work!
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Ah that's a very good point and definitely something I shall keep in mind for future work on the same topic, thank you!
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Oh this is very helpful, thank you for sharing!
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This is an excellent tutorial and contains great basic advice as well.Β Thank you VERY much for making this!
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Actually you should thank my supporters. I had thought of making something like this for a while but I didn't have the confidence that I'd do a well enough job to be teaching serious things.
It's quite a bit of reponsibility to shoulder, but the latest patron vote gave me the needed boost to actually go through with it. And seeing all this positive response I'm glad I did.
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I will thank the one I know anyways hee!
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Is there more information on the wrist tie you used? I searched online for a square knot and it seems to join 2 ends together, and with the rope doubled up it is difficult to picture its use in a wrist tie.
Am I just looking at the wrong resouces online for a refference to a square knot?
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yeah, that's the ticket. It shocks me how often Knots can stump me.
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I can confirm that topologist has the right idea. I figured that the square knot was a basic tie that people would have experience with, but maybe I could have clarified it better.
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I was more specific in my searching and found the single column tie (burlington bowline) which looks alot like your drawing, is this the correct knot?
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Wonderful tutorial.
Great how it is illustrated.
And always keep the basic rules of BDSM in mind: Safe, Sane and Consensual (often shortened to SSC).
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Exactly. While some of my other pictures may take liberties with each of those rules, I am a firm believer in that such scenarios should remain strictly fantasy and that real BDSM play should follow the rules to the letter.
And thank you!
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I often enjoy stories which violante one or even all of those rules, but i also always keep those rules in mind.
That is the wonderful thing about fiction, it is FICTION!
At no point in time does my appreciation for it cloud my awareness for reality and the rules we impose on each other to make coexistance possible.
Playing a game like Grand Theft Auto Online or Warhammer would be impossible otherwise.
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I like them too, especially since they are one of the most comfortable ties while still being very strict.
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Thanks for the very useful tutorial.
Best wishes,
David
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Will this be on the exam?Β I wonder if Daisy Ridley is available for a study group. Β Β
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Yeah it's a mistake that could lead to arms falling asleep very fast and even worse loss of circulation or nerve damage in severe cases. And there is no need for the rope to be biting into you. If done correctly, this particular tie should be nigh inescapable even when the ropes aren't super tight.
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Thanks this is really helpful! Instructions are clear and the artwork is cute too - best of both worlds!Β Β
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Thanks for saying that! I tried to find a balance between the cuteness and the more schematic instructional approach.
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