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xZethanyx — Unrequited.
Published: 2018-05-19 06:50:04 +0000 UTC; Views: 500; Favourites: 11; Downloads: 0
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that sucks. love sucks. i've been with this girl for 7 years, we had alot in common. so having her fall out of love for me, it hurts. i'm sorry your suffering. seems like everyone is suffering some kind of pain due to love. hell i've been depressed for 3 months. takes alot to get out of bed. hmm...
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I get what your going through really considering after a 5 year relationship my previous partner decided to end it. truthully i thought wed get married too. i know what your feeling and how that numbness can feel like its becoming the normal thing. Its been 3 years and ive not been in a relationship since though ive had some crushes during that time nothing was very fluttery and romantic. A big shock in a relationship like that can cause a whole mess of emotions to just fly around in a tornado inside you. You can try to be proactive but the slightest reminder of the past would bring you down.
Its hard to admit you like somone after a long, seemingly invincible relationship ends, and it does hurt if it turns out not to be, however healing does happen. The way ive noticed and the advice ive been given, you tend to find the one for you when you just stop searching. Personally i think a Friends with benefits situation is very dangerous, but i suppose some people make it work.
Its good you let this all out, it always helps to vent out your frustrations. You will be fine, the only thing taht can happen now is you jsut pushing forward and whatever happens will happen. Just want to say though never blindly do w hat love tells you. Love is blind after all. A relationship takes two people to work on it so dont sell yourself short in the hopes that it will cause somone to suddenly fall for you. I have tried tat and it hasnt ended well.
From what ive seen from you you are a strong individual, nobody really knows what they truly want in a relationship but when it clicks, it will click when we least expect it.
You be safe and rest well dear, youll be fine, just take some time to rest and organize your thoughts. Everyone int eh world is just a jumble of emotions, everyone reaches a breaking point at one point in their life.
Stay safe dear, you have many people to talk to if you need it
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Have you tried to talk to him about it... I mean if you are honest and these doubts are getting to you, then maybe it's best to talk it out... if he understands and still wants to be with you, then maybe it was meant to be, if things fall through... it's not your fault nor his... it was just things finally hitting their course and the butterflies finally. Do not build a relationship on expectations or insecurities, that's like tying to build a building with cheap parts and in time... there will be cracks.
I know acceptance is hard and it always feels like people are looking down at you, I've kind of felt that most of my life, hell I'm 27 and I still haven't found a Girlfriend, but not of a lack of trying... I know relationships can be scary, even when your in love... crushing, and you do things that normally would never do if your head is on straight, but these things happen. Just know that if you bottle these feelings, it will only hurt you in the end, like a mental poison to the point that it breaks you and puts you in the most vulnerable state, that's the last place you want to be... I know the unknown can be scary, and what lies in the future is uncertain and ever changing, but instead of trying to see what's to be, take a step back and focus on building up the now. Rome wasn't built in a day and like life, relationships has their highs and lows and always remember that your health comes 1st. We all need our down time to breath
I know I'm the last guy who should be talking about love, even after blunder that happen last year, but all broken things can be fix. Maybe this vent was what you needed, or maybe further action is needed, I can't really say... What I can say I've known you for 6 years now and you have been through crapper relationships and a whole lot worse, your a strong woman and can find away to get through this low problem. Just don't act on blind love or to please just him (I know easy said then done so don't quote me on that...) A relationship takes two to work together to build a home for their love... share, not give and take.
Please take it easy Zeth...
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If you mean for me to talk to this new guy about these feelings, I think I'd really rather not... I already annoy him with all of my talking his ear off at night about vague emotional bullshit. Above of all, I know that if I confess my feelings to him he will put an end to our Friends with Benefits thing and things will never be the same between us. The last thing I want is to lose him as a friend.
If you mean for me to talk to my boyfriend about all of this, he will not be happy with me. He would probably never be able to trust me again and would become an even bigger asshole than he already is. If we decided to break up from there, it would probably ruin him for a lifetime.
Thank you very much for reading and offering all of your kind words... It means a lot to me.
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I meant the latter... as I said that's something you or you two have to work it out... but whatever happens, happens. I only hope you can work it out, but if you want the answer... have the prove their love for you, then you will have your answer then.
Nps Zeth, as I said, I'm not the best when it comes to love, but I'm will to try I'm the best way I can.
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