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Right, so, in my school, there's this blind kid. he is really annoying, rude, disruptive, and mean.Now, making fun of people is never nice. But people do it. But whenever someone says "God, [blind kid] is so annoying. I'm sick of him. 'Do you know it's pronounced STAAAAAAAY-TUS, not STAH-TUS?' Like really? God. Why the hell does he go around saying that to every. single. fucking. person. I don't care how status is pronounced!" or something similar it's like "YOU CAN'T BE MEAN TO HIM HE'S BLIND!!!!" If I said this about anyone else, you'd say "lol, so true. He just needs to shut up. No one cares."
I can't be mean to him because he has a disability? Really? So if he wasn't, it would be totally fine? That's stupid. He's an annoying little blighter. I'm going to complain about him like I would any other person. Him being blind doesn't mean he's so special, above being insulted.
Quit treating him like glass. So he can't see. That doesn't make him less human.
Edit: So that kid I mentioned? The blind one? Well, apparently I'm "the only one who can correct him" about something, and so when my friends told me to because he was getting on EVERYONE'S nerves, I agreed to. Then this girl who I had a rather explosive ending to a friendship with, over hears, and says that's mean. Telling someone they're wrong is mean, apparently. I said no, and then she gave other examples of when I was less than polite, and THEN said I was "just being mean to him because he's blind!" I replied "no, I'm treating him like I would anyone else." "yeah, right." "Oh do shut up. You're the one treating him like glass, like he's different just because he's blind. Grow the fuck up."
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I am autistic, and one time when I had a meltdown I said some mean things to my teacher. I don’t usually say mean things, but sometimes I lose myself during a meltdown. I had a memory blackout, and my other teachers told me what I said, and said to say sorry. Then I said sorry to my teacher, and we made up.
Even though I didn’t have full control of my actions, it was right of my teachers to reprimand my behavior. I hurt somebody, even though I didn’t mean to. I have been mocked for my disability and that is different. I’ve had people imitate the sound I make during a meltdown. That is frustrating because during meltdowns I struggle to speak. The only way I can communicate is through sounds.
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I'm glad that you had the ability to make up. It's perfectly acceptable to acknowledge that not all things can be controlled, and I love your approach to it.
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T r u t h
i can remember back when I had to ride the short bus. All of the special needs kids were so rude to me. They’d would tell me that they hate me and, block me from sitting with them when there was NO WHERE ELSE TO SIT.
like, Jesus. Nothing was done about it either. If I did that to them, I would of been kicked out of school.
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This. All of this. When we found I had Autism, mum told me I wasn't allowed to use it as an excuse to act out. So it's really irritating when people get away with being assholes because of their disability, race, gender, sexuality, past, etc.
Sorry, I know this is an old post...
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Some of the kids in my SPED class are extremely annoying, and yet when anyone tries to ask them to stop doing a certain thing, the teachers are all "baaaaaw but they have (insert disability/disorder here) they can't help it"
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Well, if said person is being an asshole, then s/he is an asshole. The fact that s/he is disabled changes jack squat.
Disabled people are still people, right down to the personality flaws.
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I have autism, but I don't use it as an excuse for bad things that I have done before nor do I expect to be treated like a special snowflake.
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I think that the parents of an a critically disabled child should be allowed the option to voluntarily end their critically disabled child's life medically, but ONLY if they get notes from at least 2 Pediatricians saying that their child will NEVER have good Quality-of-Life.
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Thats really sad, but I agree.
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I AGREE. I myself suffer from some disorders, and I hate it when people attempt treating me as some kind of God. If you don't wanna be ableist, then don't place a disabled person on a LOWER OR HIGHER regard than anybody else.
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I'm surprised that no one has said "but being mean to the disabled peeps is ableistiiiiic!" yet. I'm pretty sure that if this was shown to Tumblr, everyone would go nuts.
But I agree wholeheartedly with this. I myself have Aspergers, and I really hate it when people treat me as if I was a sweet little baby just because of my condition. And I don't have to treat other disabled people like deities either; if they're rude, mean and obnoxious with me, I'll treat them the same way. Simple.
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I AGREE. I myself suffer from some disorders, and I hate it when people attempt treating me as some kind of God. If you don't wanna be ableist, then don't place a disabled person on a LOWER OR HIGHER regard than anybody else.
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I feel ya. I sometimes tend to think that the people who put disabled people on a pedestal are far worse than those who use "slurs" even unintentionally.
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the guy I have to deal with isn't 'disabled', but he's really overweight and an ASS
none of us at school can put up with him, and yes, even though we DON'T know why he's the way he is, I've been bullied too and went through tough stuff. I don't use THAT excuse to be a bitch though
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I'd like to kick the blind douchebag's and your asshole former friend's asses. They sound like dicks who don't need to live on this planet.
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Gosh, thank you so much for this stamp. There's this blind man at my school who practically gropes the girls unfortunate enough to get near him/try to offer him assistance and if they complain or get uncomfortable "Give him a break! That's how he sees!" Um, he doesn't need to "see" our hair, bodies, and faces. Oh, and lacing his fingers between another girl's hand or forcing her hand through his hair when he literally just met her is not helping him "see." And no, he doesn't ask before he just starts puppeteering your hands.
He really made this one girl uncomfortable once as he seriously kept padding her down when she was clearly uncomfortable and she just felt she couldn't say anything. Fortunately one of the men called him out on it when he noticed. I didn't say anything at the time because unfortunately I was listening to the morons who told me that I was just being intolerant when I said I didn't like a strange man snaking his fingers through my hair. (And just to put down anyone trying to bring up "gender roles," every man who hears about him gets absolutely infuriated that he does this to their female friends. So nobody better dare "Boys will be boys!")
Oh, and then there's the retort, "What could he possibly do? He's blind!" Well, he sure made her (and several other girls) feel uncomfortable for one thing. Nobody has the right to touch anybody if they don't want them to. Those girls have as much of a right to be at the fucking school as he does without feeling victimized or harassed. Also what if this girl was harassed or sexually assaulted before? Does she have to risk getting triggered/relive the moment because he's a fucking pervert who happens to be blind? So it's okay to make an innocent girl uncomfortable, but not okay to make an oppressor feel uncomfortable by telling him to knock his shit off? Hell, this one girl was afraid of speaking when he was around because she didn't want to be padded down when he heard her. If he hears her voice when she didn't know he was there, he waddles on over and just grabs her arm and starts touching her hips. If he hears a woman (one time a woman who was clearly in a hurry) he seriously chases after her (without anyone else's assistance by the way, funny how independent he suddenly is when he sees opportunity to get touchy) and takes her hand, making her feel awkward and guilty that she has to hurriedly excuse herself before being late for whatever she's trying to do. It's fucking gross.
Oh, and if "that's how he sees" then why doesn't he feel the need to "see" men? He never gets that touchy with men. In fact he interacts with men on a completely normal level. If he really needed to see and excessively groping was the only way, then why isn't he groping men, running his fingers through men's hair, putting men's hands through his hair, padding men down, and lacing his fingers through men's hands? "Well women are nicer than men--" Yeah, no, you morons are really stretching it now just because you don't want to admit someone with a disability can be a horrible person. He's a fucking pervert who is using his disability as an excuse to get off on women who were nice enough to try to help him in the first place. The fact he's using his disability to take advantage of people is, in my opinion, the worst thing about this situation. Though it's sad so many girls are feeling harassed and scared to talk around him, I feel using a disability as an excuse to do whatever you want is a crime against the people around you and others suffering from the disability.
Seriously, all of this could be avoided if one person was allowed to say "You make girls uncomfortable when you do that." Even if someone does say this (and someone did), we should be allowed to report him at the school office. And falling back on the "He's blind, what could he possibly do to you" argument: If his perverted behavior continues, what is to stop him from finding a non-disabled pervert to help him lure a girl under the pretense he needs help and then doing something worse to her with the help of the non-disabled man? He's not mentally disabled. He can easily think up a plan if he wants to hurt a girl on a sicker level. When he freely gropes women, he is taught this behavior is okay. This perverted behavior will be fed until it grows into something much, much worse. And if worst comes to worst, will people still be singing "Poor boy is disabled! Go easy on him!" With the behavior I'm seeing, I'm afraid that is exactly what will be said. Seriously.
This is all very revolting because I've seen blind people live and interact on a completely normal level. If they need to touch, they just want your arm or something. They don't want to sniff your hair because they can't find the library. The blind people I've seen are completely independent and usually have dogs or hired assistants, if they need them at all. Not random (strictly) women they guilted into tolerating excessive touching from a stranger. I feel like he's an insult to people with blindness. He represents them as helpless, horny idiots who manipulate the preferred gender into being touched excessively when blind people are capable of living perfectly normal lives and finding healthy relationships.
Oh, and I have a mental disability. If I do something inappropriate, I want people to correct me! Especially if I'm making someone else uncomfortable! For the love of god, if I'm making an ass of myself, correct my behavior! Let me know! The reason I'm not aware a social interaction is inappropriate in the first place is why it's a mental disability, but it is not an excuse for the behavior to continue. (Though mind you when I do something inappropriate or annoying, it's not physically harassing someone.) If I do something that bothers someone else and am corrected, I will give my most sincere apology and try to work on it in the future. I won't even bring up my disability in that situation.
By the way, people with autism are sensitive to being touched. I can't be hugged by a family member unless they let me know it's coming and even then they have to ease into it slowly, otherwise I jump. It's literally painful for me to experience unexpected touch. I love how suddenly my disability is thrown under the bus just so he can get his fun time.
This is all wrong to me because I see people with disabilities as equals. The only thing a disability means to me is a disabled person may need a different life style or way of doing things. I would not tolerate a man (or woman for that matter) to just walk up and start feeling up strangers, why is him being blind so different? Ignoring glaringly awful behavior just because someone is disabled is a form of ableism in my opinion.
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An actual conversation:
A Special Needs Kid: *blabbing on about everyone is supposed to love him or some special snowflake shit like that idefk what he said tbh*
Me: "Have you ever considered that some people don't want to be around you?"
Some White Knight Chick: "That's mean."
Me:
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I remember when I was in school, there was one kid who made SUPER loud engine and explosion noises in the back of the classroom, he would knock things over, disrupt peoples work and generally be annoying, so I say to the person next to me that he's annoying the crap out of me and he says "Well you have to be very, very nice to him he's mentally ill" I swear I almost choked, being mentally ill is no excuse to being a loud ass, anyway, dont expect me to be all nicey nicey to everyone on this planet, just because im a girl doesn't mean I dont feel anger, it pissed me off, Im just happy I aint got nanymore school
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There is a girl who called me a bitch for no reason in my school. I said that she just seems to think everything is funny, and she snobbishly replied that she doesn't, when I retaliated, she started bawwing about how she's disabled. She looks slightly autistic, I have autism too. Even after telling her that, she stopped listening. I was still wondering how her "disability" came into this discussion in the first place. I knew I had won the argument when she shoved her self pity down my throat.
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A disabled girl at my school loves touching people or stabbing them with her fingers to make it feel like a shot when they don't notice her. But the teachers don't care since of her issues -_-
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Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand there's people's reasoning behind not doing jack shit when I tell them I'm being made fun of. Just because I'm mentally challenged doesn't mean people should do anything to stop me being made fun of. But the perfectly healthy people, now they're the ones who deserve the help!
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Oh my god... I had an experience like this last year... There was this kid in special ed, and he was just the WORST. He was annoying, always got in other peoples way, and liked to go up to people and turn off their computers. Doesn't matter if they had unsaved work or were working on a major project. He thought he could get away with anything because he was special ed. My one friend finally told him off because "if special ed teachers really want their kids to be treated like everyone else, then I have the right to get mad at them whenever they act like that"
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I actually hate how people raise people up high just because they are disabled. This will be amazingly mean but they are actually holding people back and society. In the future they wont be able to work correctly and will always require help. So why do they get to be annoying, they should be grateful that society looks after the disabled rather than abandoning them like we did before civilisation.
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So to society, I must be treated like royalty because I can't see 2 feet in front of me
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yeah, there isn't really an excuse for being a dick, I'm disabled andi ssupport this stamp. Lol
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People with disabilities should be seen and respected but not worshipped.
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i am in the special ed class at school. the kids there are all nice and funny and friendly.....except for joanne.
i can only assume that she has severe autism.
she's a nut. she's always holding her pencil to her nose and smelling it while making 'mm mm mm mm mm' noises. and i used to sit in a cubicle desk due to my social anxiety. one time she did this neonyanderehotdogz.deviantart.… .
i'm not kidding, that scarred me for life.
she raises her voice when debating with the teacher and starts yelling. which scares me even more since i am hypersensitive to noise and such.
she lies about stuff, is a snitch, threw a mini tantrum when the teacher was on the phone and she asked her something, stomping on the floor. she also screamed and ran around the room one day. and she used to moan and scream in the bathroom when constipated. she always disrupts class somehow.
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Theres this guy in my classes who is Gay, Catholic, and has ADHD and autism.
He never stops talking about how much he hates athiests, and he is incredibly melodramatic and obnoxious. He never stops talking, and he is always rude and has no filter. And then he blames all of his behavior on his disorders. If he makes out with his boyfriend in class and someone tells him to get a room, he accuses them of being homophobic. He also thinks he has the right to touch anyone he wants at random times. He also goes into waaaaaaay too much detail about his sex life and sexual urges... Talking to him is an energy drain to the max. I don't put up with that shit. I dont have any problem with him being gay, catholic, or having disorders. He just needs to take responsibilty for his actions.
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Your not a lone ranger, there was someone in my class like that in school, he annoyed the crap out of me, he was homosexual and and he always ripped on me for being a female bisexual and always complained about me kissing my girlfriend during break when he would always stick his tongue in his lovey in class 
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Bisexual high five! /\
Yikes. What a hipocrite.
Yeah this guy... He would glare at me whenever he made out with his boyfriend in math. It was entirely disturbing. Before I got together with her, he was possessive of my girlfriend and wouldn't let me sit next to her. The only excuse he had for his deplorable behavior was that he forgot his ADHD meds at home. Really? I didn't think having ADHD alone causes complete asshole behavior.
to this day he continues to touch people when they dont want to be touched, yell, violently handle chairs and other objects, and argue endlessly. He's pure hell and bullies my gf when I'm not around to tell him to fuck off. My brother is autistic and has ADHD and never uses his disorders as an excuse for the things he does.
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Bisexual high five! (ouo)/\(ouo)
Sounds bad >.< But really? the donk in my school blamed everything on something called "turn disorder" (Obviously fake name) I know he based it off bipoler, since a few people, including me, had bipoler he thought he would make a knock off version for himself and acted like a 2 year old whenever he got in trouble, Im serious, this is what he said "Oh teacherrrrr, I have a wittle pwobwemmmm" immature, so immature...
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Agreed. I actually know a girl with mild autism who goes out of her way to be an obnoxious bitch to people.
It's as if having a disability deprives the person of control of his or her behavior in the public eye.
It's annoying, illogical and outright dumb.
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There's this disabled girl that has dwarfism, and she gets all pissy if I spend time with my best friend, just because she knew her ''longer'' than me, and that I ''took her away from her.'' She's a selfish stuck up bitch who uses her disability for an excuse, there's this annoying boy that she fancies and she gets butthurt if we make jokes about him. So yeah, she gets on my nerves and she gets away with crap just 'cause she's disabled. >:U
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I know what you mean - there's this kid who swears at me, annoys me and just generally gets on my nerves about everything; I told my guidance teacher about it and I got I. Trouble for 'attempting to get someone in trouble for having a disability' - HOW THE BLOODY HELL WAS I MEANT TO KNOW THAT HE HAD TOURETTE'S?
Th fact that he's basically got verbal diahorrea isn't any reason to let him away with murder. My Science teacher told him this in class when he tried to set my shirt on fire - good on ya, Dr Keith!
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There's a kid who I've gone to school with since 6th grade; I never found out what exactly happened, but he has some developmental and physical issues, so people are always patting his ass and treating him like he's three years old... and then, in seventh grade, we were playing kickball in gym and the other kids were running slowly and throwing the ball to him carefully, so the teacher yelled at them and told them to let him play like everyone else.
Best teacher ever.
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Haha, I agree. I hate it when people treat people differently because of something like that. Sure, some people do need some special treatment, but most that aren't cognitively disabled(they likely need special treatment and often can't understand a lot of things) won't like it if you're just nice to them because they're disabled.
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Exactly. The boy I mentioned does have trouble understanding some things, but he understands enough to know that he doesn't want to be treated differently.
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Ain't that the truth. I don't care if a kid has any issue, if it's mental or physical, anyone who's a bitch to me wil get a slap to the jaw.
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can't tell brother to stop being rude. why. coz he's autistic. :U ahaha so? boy can still learn some friggin manners
HE CAN'T LURNZ yes he can, just takes longer >.>
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The issue is people make fun of their disabilities, and that's what the purpose of the phrase "You can't make fun of hi,/her, she's disabled" comes from. Make fun of a guy who's rude, annoying, and an ass, sure. I don't care if he's disabled. Just don't go "HAHA your spine is broken!"
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Oh god I'm glad my schools weren’t like that. Except for the elementary school but that place was a shithole run by a 43 year old virgin dictator who separated the playground by age group. Grades one to three had to stay on one side of the playground and the rest had the other half. Also only one grade was allowed on the structure per day. That meant only one day per week. Seriously, what the fuck is that?
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Totally agree with you! I had a similar problem once. There was a boy with Autism at the school library that uses the threat of screaming at me to get me embarrassed if I don't get out the right books for him and turn a blind eye to him bringing in books 2 months late. He's also so rude. I wish I could say something, but the last time I reminded him to say 'thank you' his helper teacher chewed me out for nothing. >:Y
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Now part of me really wants to meet someone like this and say "Yeah? I'm disabled too* and it doesn't automatically excuse any of my behavior."
*60% hearing loss
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My mom's best friend has cerebral palsy, and she likes to pull that on the occasional disabled douchebag. Her particular favorite, though is calling out 'normal' people that assume because she has a severe limp and stiff arms that she's mentally retarded. The best reactions usually come in places like the grocery store checkout, where the cashier starts talking like she's a three year old.
Going out with her is so much fun!
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No one should be mean to anyone, but unfortunately humans are douchebags.
I just tell people exactly what I think of them, even if it's not nice. I'd rather be honest, at least, so if they don't know they're being irritating they can fix it. There are a lot of times when I wish people would do the same to me instead of talking behind my back.
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I am a carer for a disabled relative and I applaud you taking this stance. Nothing deprives a person of a chance at a normal life more than being treated as if they're abnormal, be that in a positive or a negative way. Support is good, but spoiling is not.
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THANK YOU.
I was walking through a Bust Buy, checking out the video games section, when I walked past the demo for the latest Dance Dance Revolution game. I gave it a once over, and some kid (somewhere between 8 and 12) in a wheelchair rolled up behind me and informed me, in his outdoor voice, "I HATE this game! I can't PLAY IT, because I CAN'T WALK!"
Yeah, one of those.
I counted to about ten, then put on my best 'dealing with jackasses' smile, and knelt down beside him. I told him about how you can play DDR with the controller, and that while he'd never look cooler than the guy using the dancepad, he could easily kick their asses with enough practice. Then I told him "if you wheel around making sure everyone knows you're a cripple, that's all they'll ever see."
Then I walked off, feeling like a boss...until I saw his mom on the next aisle, looking like she was about to have a conniption fit. Cue hasty exit. >_>
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