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I actually love getting complimented on how I look. Its because I get that compliment maybe once or twice a year
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I always found compliments about my personality to be much more impacting than any compliment I ever received about how I look. I think she is just trying to say that she doesn't want to be seen as just a pretty face, I think she honestly wants people to see the inside, which is what matters more anyway.
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It's like being stuck up because you're rich. You didn't do anything.
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Surprisingly, this does strike home with me, not because I've been complimented for this reason (it's rarely happened) but when someone comments on my appearance I can't help but feel superficial since I obviously had no say in how I appear; same reason why I don't like make up, if someones going to like you then let them see what you're truly like, not just 'fatten' up your appearance. I think the fact that you've thought of this is beautiful within itself
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Well you don't have to work to be beautiful. She's not being conceited, she just doesn't see the point in complimenting her on something she didn't really do. I'm sure the ST would much rather like to be called smart or interesting, because those things take time and effort to accomplish, while being pretty is effortless and shallow.
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Perhaps your inner beauty isn't that great if you don't like it when people give you an obvious complement?
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Hey, that's very true... I never saw the point either.
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To all the people who are upset with the ST for her point of view: Calling somebody pretty and never seeing beyond their appearance can hurt just as much as being called ugly. I've been called both at different times in my life and believe me, it sucks either way.
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I even went as far to tell her she made me feel uncomfortable talking about my weight all the time*
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There's a fine line between confidence and conceitedness that people are confused about. I find that pretty people often have to appologize for their looks or weight because someone is going to be there to say "You're pretty or skinnier than me, I'm jealous"
What do you say then? Smile say thank you, then shuts up (and feels terribly awkward about it.) Some even go as far to go on and on about it as if they are trying to validate themselves. I've had a customer once go on and on about how skinny I was, why am I so skinny (I had no freaking answers except "metabolism" and "genetics") and she would never shut up about it. It made me feel awkward, I even went as far to tell her that because I really don't know what to say to make her shut up on her jealousy rants. I often had to resort to saying "Well my mom was skinny at my age till pregnancy..." and that shut her up.
Don't apologize for your looks, just say "Hey, this makes me feel awkward" to people whom you know and trust. For strangers it's best to just nod and smile and say thank you, unless they go on and on about how they have acne/scars/facial nit picks on themselves you can tell them to stop.
Then there's humbleness
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I've actually heard several women complain about the fact that they are pretty and I get where you're coming from. The same way people label each other, they don't always see past looks.
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i dont agree with the negative comments here. and i also think nothing is wrong with the wording Oo
what is bad about wanting people to compliment you for something that you did with your own strengh.
I find this secret totally awesome! and the total truth! i really like the comparison xD
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Good god, get over yourself. seriously. Your mad because your pretty? i dont believe you! you just want attention.
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I don't understand all the negative comments! ST's not being stuck up about it! ST's not bragging! The ST is telling a secret!!
I say go ST. I can relate. I wish people would see me for who I am on the inside instead of the outside.
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I completely understand. I used to be ugly, but now I'm older and look way better. It's not nearly as nice as I thought it would be. To tell the truth, I don't like the attention at all; all beauty got me was creeps and jealously. I wish I could go back to being invisible. So, it goes both ways. Ugly wants to be pretty, pretty wants to be ugly, some people are happy as they are. It's just a matter of which side you're on.
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Hey, just enjoy the compliments and I'm sure I speak for at least a few other people if I tell you to just take them on behalf of all the girls who never get any. Or you know, if you feel bad about it or something you can set up a system where every time you get a compliment you compliment someone who looks like they might need it more.
This probably silly, but anyways it's my POV, I just hope you don't say that aloud too much (might hurt someone's feelings). I'm guessing you don't though since you posted this as a secret...
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A little on the stuck up side...? Or maybe it's just the way you've worded it.
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Thank god a pretty person who isn't shallow about it!
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You're welcome ^^
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My first reaction: "This girl is so fucking conceited."
Then I thought a little more.
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I know exactly how you feel. I get comments on my looks all the time, and I know some people begin talking to me because of how I look. It's really irritating and makes me feel like I'm one of those people who only has a pretty face going for them when there's really so much more to me. It's hard to make real friends that way.
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Exactly why the internet is such a good way to live. If people are gonna compliment me, it darned well is going to be on my actions and opinions!
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This is fantastic. It's hard to remember that there's a person behind a pretty face- or an ugly face, for that matter. I'm glad to know that some people realize that there SHOULD be.
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Your signature made this awesome.
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You might not have worded this the best way possible. This makes you seem like a straight up bitch. If this is how you're always like, then people should continue only seeing you for your looks.
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Have you considered the fact that she isn't shallow about her looks?
She says she knows she's pretty but doesn't want to be told it. What sort of a bitch doesn't wanna be the center of attention?
(I'm guessing its a girl cause what guy would call himself pretty? XD)
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I have, but the way the secret is right now makes her seems like a total bitch.
I think you should read exactly what I posted because I only commented on the wording and what it made her seem like. You can't just assume things, you have to work with what's given to you.
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I think the point of this secret is not hidden in a conceaded concious. The ST is someone who wants true relationships and friendships based on appearence an comments that mean something to the heart, rather than a vague "You're pretty." Anyone can be pretty. So what? She's right, it's like breathing. Everyone is pretty in their own way. An amazing comment would be you're Pretty amazing. Or Pretty perfect. Or Pretty wonderful. Not just pretty.
I'm sure you're a wonderful but misunderstood person, ST, and I hope people realize this about you.
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I'm sorry, ST. I really think people are missing your point here. You'd rather be more than a pretty face? Then show them how lovely you are as a person too. Anyone can be pretty if they work it right. Not everyone can be a good person. So, be one. Let it dominate you, and soon people will realize that you're not just beautiful on the outside.
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So, in other words you want people to see your personality and not your face( irrespective of beauty) this i understand.
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Wow...I never thought of it that way before.
I could be wrong, but maybe since people are telling her she's pretty all the time she almost feels like she isn't a good enough person. She could be a really nice person or a really mean person but no one cares because they can't get past their appearance. It's much like people constantly telling you that you aren't that great looking. That also says nothing about them as a person, and you're too concerned with their appearance that you just don't care. I mean...we live in a society that seems to base all our self worth on appearances. I think what ST is trying to say is she maybe wishes that appearance wasn't so much. She'd rather be complimented on being a good person rather than being good looking. Do you really want your looks to be all your worth? Do you want to be remembered after death as just another pretty face? I certainly hope not, and I firmly believe looks alone will not get anyone anywhere. (With the exception of Hollywood.)
But then again...I could be wrong. And even so, it's still okay to accept a compliment regardless.
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omg. Get over yourself.
Id give anything to get comments for looking pretty. Geez.
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Well, I think I'm over myself if I don't want to be called pretty. I just feel awkward when someone says something "omg! you're so pretty today!" I'd rather have people compliment me for my actions or things I work hard on. Looks are something you're born with. You have no say in them.
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Wow, take a compliment and move the hell on. I mean it's nice that you want to be an individual and everything, but you could be "cursed" in so many worse ways. Get over it.
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I do take the compliments. That's why this is a secret.
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Obviously not if you mull over it and are internally upset that someone complimented your looks instead of your brain/personality/etc.
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Depends what you mean by taking a compliment. I say thanks or awkwardly smile. There are specific reasons the general obsession with looking good bothers me. I've always been a bit of a tomboy. I once had a friend who I spent hours and hours with, but when she got other friends we drifted apart. On of those other friends said something like "*'s confidence has gone up so much now that she has friends to tell her she's pretty." That hurt. I thought, how was I supposed to know she needed that? since then, compliments on appearance have seemed more and more annoying. There. That's why I mull over it.
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I don't know what a friend is to you because it's usually different to me, so the fact that you didn't know what your friend needed tells me a couple of things and the fact that you're still stuck on it tells a whole other story. You're not your friend, obviously, if people think you're cute you're going to get complimented on it and how your friend took/takes them shouldn't have anything to do with how you take them.
People in general are superficial, we all want to hear we look nice and we all have opinions on how other people look (even if we swear we're not shallow like that). Human nature and all that.
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"I KNOW I'm pretty. SO WHAT"
hahaha wow.
So you really want people to comment on your personality? Because I do not think it will be what you expect.
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I guess it's like for girls who have big boobs - they know they do, but want people to view them as more than just their boobs?
yeah, think of it that way. I don't think she's being rude about it, she just wants people to view her as a person, not an appearance. o.o
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Well, there's a difference between having big boobs and thinking you're pretty.
No one can really argue if you have huge boobs. I mean. If they hit you in the face while you're jogging, yeah.
Someone being pretty varies from person to person, it's an opinion. I find people pretty that others think are ugly and vice versa. "Yeah, I know I'm pretty" is pretty much putting words in my mouth.
Not to mention that being a bit humble goes a long way
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maybe they have a high self esteem? Idunno. >.<
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Exactly. It won't be what she expects. Maybe her "outside" deserves more compliment than her "inside"...
I don't really understand the secret tho... it could mean the ST wants people to stop being superficial.. but depending on the tone you give it, the ST could sound rude :/
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