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Published: 2011-05-08 17:45:57 +0000 UTC; Views: 11209; Favourites: 178; Downloads: 2691
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I came in today and just needed to do this, it's far from the best but I just felt so defeated and pointless.When people say they're fine, it often means they really aren't. It's a bluffing technique, that's all it is. They say one thing and mean another, not wanting to bother or worry you, bottling it up, while deep down they want to scream their problems at you and tell you how injust the world is and how people are mean, cruel, careless and insensitive. How they can ignore you, let you down, pretend they care and throw it back at you, take you for a ride, manipulate you and take you to the end of your tether then just keep going till you are no more than a mumbling wreck.
Then plead with you and ask - why?, why can't anybody see how the worlds cruel teeth have ripped me limb from limb and taken all I had to give? Why can't they see me struggle through the day? Why does noone ask how I feel or even try?
That's what they want to do, that's what they need to do
But they don't because the know you wouldn't understand, you'd be another hateful, inconsiderate fool and tell them how ungrateful and selfish they were or say that they should toughen up and that the world's a cruel place.
So instead they say they're fine and avoid inconviencing you in your busy little world as you couldn't give a shit anyway. They let themselves be sad and stressed so as to escape the embrassment the greater public would give them and desparatly try to keep their own little island ticking over without the seismic cracks showing. Your throw-away comments shake their very existance and break their voice into tiny pieces. It no longer matters how much they want to say or how much they want to say it, your ignorance has silenced them and they sink below your awarness like atlantas.
They are now forever 'fine', the words blanketing safety keeping their wall strong and binding together the stones of their baracade.
We are the nation of Fine, forever yet never.
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Im an "Im Fine"-er, Im fine is my biggest lie. That being said lets do this critique, this is my second so Im sorry if its not that good.
The overall look is pretty good, its making a statement which is made clear in the "Fine". Each of the blurbs either goes with "Im", which I find very powerful. I have never seen this particular phrase done like this, but I have seen the idea. The different fonts make it more interesting to look at, and depict different moods "Im Fine" can mean. And I can easily say that I've used "Im Fine" for 95% of the phrases in Fine. So the impact and overall feel for this is at a personal level for me, amnd Im sure for many other people. If I would have to change anything, I would say that you might want to change the colour of the little words to make them stand out.
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Thank you so much! Sorry for the long reply though
Seeing this in my inbox totally made my day - people can actually understand what I'm saying!
Fine is my biggest lie too, I only ever say it when I'm not, desparatly hoping someone will say something to make me feel better.
As for the improvement, I think the different colours are a great idea. At the time I was all black and white with the contrast cause I was annoyed and this was made in a defeated rush. I may re-do this in the future and make it better, so I'll take the colours on board.
Thanks again 
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You're very welcome ^^
Oh they definetly can...well at least I can.
Ooh, that will be cool, looking forward to seeing it ^^
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IM FINEΒ
THAT MEANS IM GOOD AND CHILL NOT SAPPY EMO SHITΒ
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This is pretty much me right now, I'm just "fine"
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hmmm this piece is great though I prohibit myself with all the negatives, somehow we just have to let them..fantastic art!
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Oh my god. So true. I think you've kind of captured the bulk of human existance here. If I had a nickel for every time I've said 'fine' and meant the opposite...I'd be filty rich.
This is amazing.
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Thank you - so many people like/understand this, yet it was such a spur of the moment thing but I think that's the only reason it connects is because it was just I felt and I'm sure so many peopl feel.
I'm the same, I just say I'm fine, it's easier than going - well actually I'm utterly crap right now.
It's the worlds biggest lie, we are never 'fine' we just don't want to tell everyone about how fine we're not.
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I couldn't have said it better.
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I love the picture and what you have written.
I always say that I'm fine, also because noone can help me with some stuff, so why bother them? They can't change it anyway....
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Thank you
That's exactly the kinda of thing I feel sometimes - 'why bother them?' - they don't understand anyway.
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awww *hugs*
I love this picture but it's so sad π: 0 β©: 0
I'm Fine we took a survey in school and the Fifth question was 'Which friend are you most worried about?' Three of my friends came up to me after taking the test and they said they put me because i say 'I'm Fine." but my eyes say 'I'm Really NOT okay!' (They tell me I'm fine is my catch phrase.)
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This is a good, concept, and well executed. If you could find words which begin with each letter which illustrate how you fell, that might bring it home a bit more. Also, to suggest this as an acronym, you could but a period after each letter.
When my son began to see a counselor, the counselor told us what "fine" really stands for. Its and acronym, you see. F is "fucked -up", I is "insecure", N could be "neurotic" or "numb", and E is "emotional", I think. So, in saying "I'm FINE", you are revealing how you really feel. It's just that few know the code.
Adults find someone to listen to them. They're called therapists. Sometimes, I tell "lay people" how I really am, what life has thrown at me, and they're shocked and put-off by it. I'm not a teen anymore, far from it. People were more supportive when I had breast cancer then when I had a son who was in and out of a psych hospital, depressed, lonely, anxious. Which one caused me more pain? My son's problems -- which stabbed me like a knife in my heart. Fortunately, we found help for him, and he is so much happier, and is doing well. He was depressed for 6 or 7 years before we found out. Oh, and I'm okay as well.
So, tell someone. Tell your mother, or a teacher, or your doctor how you feel. Go to an emergency room if you are at the end of your rope. Get help. Look on the internet for mental health groups and suicide prevention.
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I'm guilty of using the word "fine", because if I told somebody everything that was wrong with me, they wouldn't really care and instead think of what is bothering them, then I feel I'm being selfish and letting everyone down, just for saying what I really feel inside, the truth.
So I'll be honest, this is a very clever piece of artwork, got me thinking, a little depressed, but why? So now I'm laughing at myself, for letting it affect me, but maybe that's the idea?
And to be totally honest... I think I will tell the truth a little more, the word "fine" has so many meanings, it's a little bland to be honest? It doesn't get straight to the point, feeling shite? Come out with it! Then leave it at that, no one needs to know your reasons, and same if you're happy you might explode, whatever happened to the good old days, where people lived without all this technology, and spoke to each other, attentively, interested??
But yeah, that's my rant done
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You have my sympathy.
Whenever someone asks "How do you feel?" I never say:
"Well, I felt okay until I was on my bicycle and a construction truck hit me so hard I landed at the other side of the intersection. It turned the muscle in my right leg into jelly and now I have permanent nerve damage so I spend each day in constant pain."
If you say that, no one wants to hear it. So I just say "fine."
The problem is that saying that makes me feel defeated and pointless.
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I couldn't agree more, saying 'I'm fine' feels like giving in.
You've obviously had it hard, I hate when people can clearly see that you're clearly not really all that 'fine' but still ask and accept that as the answer.
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In "Cannery Row", Steinbeck wrote about how people seem to want to hear a lie more than they want to hear the truth. The 'beer milkshake' scene in the book is one of the best bits of writing ever done.
Sometimes, if I'm disgusted when someone asks how I am, I'll say "You're too nice a person for me to tell that", or "We could be here all day if you really want to know."
But you're right. They really don't.
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"fine" oh the way humans use that word, never does it mean fine, not when speaking of yourself. But the secrecy, the bottling-up of problems is a two-part offense. 1st is the one listening. Our brains are wired to detect secrecy in speech, when someone says they are "fine" you know 90% of the time when they are not. If you then don't ask, it's on you. The person saying "fine" on the other hand, they assume that nobody cares, so they just don't tell you, or they have the misconception that it would bother you to know. Most people who know your name do care, some more than others, but if they know your name they care enough to try and help. And it really hurts when we can tell you are not fine, and you don't tell us why. Makes us feel untrusted, drives a wedge between us. Oh if only human speech was more simple.... But then where the hell would we be?
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I'm having a good day, actually - thanks for asking
The thing about "fine" is you can challenge it or you can let it stand. It only takes a "Fine? That doesn't sound like 'awesome' to me" and the walls can come tumbling down. Because I always get annoyed when people tell me what I think or act as though they know without asking me - and assuming I won't care about them is just one way that happens.
And then, yeah, sometimes, I really just don't have the time. Or they don't. Or both.
So this little piece of work is awesome for all those reasons you gave and a ton more besides. I might have it on my iPad as wallpaper to flash at people who say they're "fine". Or I might just use it when people ask me how I am...
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i love it, reminds me so much of my girlsfreind, and i always have to decifer what kind of fine she is xD this may help a little..
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XD, I can understand your problem. Trying to guess how someone's feeling when they don't want to talk about it can be really difficult.
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What a great idea!! Of course, I'm in that group that always says "fine," just because I don't want to let poeple know that my days are sometimes like shit just because I'm clinically depressed and I can't do anything about it.
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Saying 'fine' is so much easier than trying to explain and hoping they might give a shit.
I always feel slightly defeated when I use it and don't mean it, like I should really say so,ething but don't want to take up someone's time.
Getting through the day isn't always the easiest thing to do for everyone and people who have no problem don't seem to understand that it isn't so easy for everyone.
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