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Something I'm learning in therapy right now that I think is really important to share: IT'S OKAY TO HAVE FEELINGS. It's okay to have any feeling. It's okay to have every feeling.
Feelings tell you how you're doing. Even 'negative' feelings are important. The one I have the hardest time with is anger; I've always thought it was horrible. But you know what it means when you're angry? It means that your needs aren't being met. It tells you that something needs to change.
Growing up, I wasn't allowed to be angry, and I wasn't allowed to be sad or cry. I have a really hard time with these emotions now, and I avoid them like the plague.
But they're important, and I need to learn to accept them.
I actually have this written on my inspirational whiteboard in my bedroom. "I feel ______ right now and that's OKAY."
Re-learning how to think is really hard, but we can do it together. ♥
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Im only ever afraid to express myself when it comes to crying in public (at home I'm a mess though), I don't really know why. I go to the store in my pjs and couldn't care less about what others think. but I always hold back tears when I'm in public. It really doesn't make any sense
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I feel the same way about crying. I think that, for me personally, it's partly about peoples' responses being more personal. Sometimes people try to comfort you or ask what's wrong, or avoid you, but you might feel pressured to start answering their questions, or just start wishing they'd leave you alone....
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my "best friend" decided she didnt wanna be my friend anymore because i was depressed (even though i thought i was doing better than before, and i literally only fall into some depressed state every few months)
since then ive felt pretty bad about myself, but i gonna try to involve myself with better people and try accepting how i feel. because being sad isnt wrong. being happy isnt wrong. there is no feeling that is wrong or invalid.
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i actually stayed at a behavioral center because of my depression, but it made me feel worse. all the staff kept telling us we werent allowed to be sad or cry because "no one wants to see that"
im glad im not going back there again
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Using! I love this so much because it's okay to express how you feel!
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I'm adding a tiny tidbit for younger adolescents unable to discern from the two -- YOU ARE ALLOWED TO HAVE FEELINGS. YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO ACT OUT ON THEM OR EXUDE THEM IN HARMFUL BEHAVIORS. I've seen the dichotomy whereas one claims it isn't morally compassable to have potentially negative emotions, and another that states coping mechanisms, even if they hurt people, are fine. It is within human means to be angry, to be sad, to be [X], but if you act out on it and it negatively affects people around you -- and perhaps even yourself -- don't do it.
Sorry for this tangential addition -- Your stamp is lovely
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I agree. It is important to learn how to express yourself safely.
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HEY I NEED TO ASK YOU A SOMETHING
Pastel-Patches, Pastel-Dream, or Pastel-cloud
what is your favorite because i can't decide okay bye thanks random person
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lol!
I'm all for alliteration, usually, but I think I like Pastel-Dream the most!
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Thanks
Sorry for bothering you, byebye!!!
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Using because yeah
I feel like this a lot
People don't keep my feelings in mind when they make me feel like shit
yeah
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Yeah. I think a lot of people get uncomfortable when other people have feelings around them, so they try to shut that person down. But it's okay to have feelings, and while it's healthy to learn how to cope with negative feelings, there's nothing wrong with experiencing them!
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This really brought my day up. Thank you! I needed this <3
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but they told me it wasnt ok to cry.
so im not shure how being sad will have any effect if im not allowed to cry.
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The answer is that it is okay to cry.
I wasn't allowed to cry when I was growing up, either - except for very specific circumstances in which my dad would get mad at me for 'not caring enough' if I didn't cry. It always felt wrong to me, so I didn't completely internalize it, but it's still a problem I deal with sometimes. My therapist actually encourages me to cry when she sees that I'm holding tears back.
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woah.
thats so sad.
and thank you
i really appreciate the kind reply
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How do ppl use these on there da page??? I always wondered
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Go to the social media sidebar to the arrow next to "Tweet". Click it, copy the code under "Thumb", and paste that on your page. It will paste the image with an automatic hyperlink! c:
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Of course! Just use the thumb code. ^^
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Makes sense to me. I'm just a bit of a jaded person, so I don't really feel as much as others would; However, I still feel stuff and when I do it hits harder than it would others.
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Sometimes I get really depressed and whenever it is in public
People would say " smile " or " turn that frown upside down " which I could understand they are trying to help but the way they say it is like a bad thing.
So, thank you for making this stamp!
///ihopeididnotsoundlikeapitybitch
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Yep; where I used to work, I was a server at a retirement center (so I was very familiar with the residents, because the clientele didn't change). If I wasn't being chipper one day, they would say, "Smile!" Which, sometimes, is very sweet. Sometimes, it was just aggravating. I get that at my current job, too, if I'm handing out free samples. People are telling me to smile when I'm standing at the door, bored because nobody's interacted with me for half an hour and, you know, I'm at work.
Anyway, I understand you! It's okay to have your feelings, and I think you don't need to hide them.
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Haha it's good to know someone has somewhat the same experience like mines
Also thanks for replying back that means a lot to me love (●´ω｀●)
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