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I'll tell you something: my cousin was girlfriend of her boyfriend since she was 12 & he was 17. They are married now waiting their second child. She is 22 & he is 27. In life everuthing is possible
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I hope you make it, ST.
Just to be able to say "I told you so." to all the people who say it's just puppy love, just something that won't last.
(we're all allowed to be smug once and a while, aren't we?)
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I know a very happy couple who are almost happy and have been married since they were 20, and together since they were 16. So go ahead !
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Kinda the same, I met my current bf when I was fifteen and he was sixteen at the time, though there's just thirteen months between us. I love him so so so much and I though we'd last no longer than a week. But we love each other and fit perfectly. It's horribly amazing at how well we go together <3
We are each others longets relationship <3
I have crushed on him since the day we met and him the same for me. I loved him when it shoulda been too soon, but he felt the same way.
It's your business and your love's business - nobody elses <3
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i mett my husband when we were 17, (i'm now 27) it was love at first sight. we didnt marry for 7 years you dont need to rush, you have all the time in the world. i don't recomend doing any thing about it quite yet but don't let them get you down it dose sometimes work.
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:3 Same spot. Well but I'm 15 and he's 18.
Good luck. 
Just remember; Love can happen at any age.
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I completely agree with you on this one, ST.
I'm 16, he turned 17 in June. We got together nearly 8 months ago and I know that I love him with all of my heart. I know that he loves me, too.
Love is complicated, beautiful, scary, wonderful and crazy all at the same time.
I know that he's the only one for me.
Don't let others dictate your life
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Love doesn't happen at any age. Infatuation does. Not that I'm trying to kill your dreams, because bless you if you make it. But remember to consider the latter. Even if you love him forever, doesn't mean he will.
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That isn't always true. Love can happen at any age just like infatuation can.
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I could wright a poem about this kind of feeling, but i guess i'll just wish you good luck ^-^
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this is the exact situation i'm in. good luck (:
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guh im in a similar situation with a larger age gap. its not really that people dotn take i seriosly soem poeple do, but its the fact that some people are calling me a whore for being in the relationship or people instantly assume that hes in it for the sex. hes not, the fact that im still a virgin infact makes him very nervous about it. and im definatly not a whore, i used to be completely against relationships with older people, but then i fell inlove with him i had difficulty getting my head around it, and its not actually a bad thing, we really truely love each i wouldnt risk dating him if i didnt.
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As long as you both love each other enough you guys will last a loooooong time.
Ignore people that tell you otherwise and just be happy for now
Don't think too much about the future... because you'll miss out on today...
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love can happen at any age as long as you both are in love spiritually, mentally and physically. Those are the three stages of love and in order to make it last you need all three, not just one or two.
I hope this works for you and that you two as you grow up and experience new things can grow together and not force each other to be something nether of you are. Just know there is a possibility that you two will grow apart and find new things, don't hold yourself back if that happens because you will regret it later if you do ^.^
)0( <3
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I was 16, he was 18. We were in love. After 8 months, we fought and it exploded. He tried to get me to do things with him, i wouldn't let him. He was mentally abusive to me (in the way that "I love you, but I'm too busy to be with you")
Everyone keeps saying TAKE IT SLOW. Yes, please listen. And please don't lose yourself entirely in another person. Loving blindingly is powerful, and it'll tear you apart. It was a year before I got over him and realized, "I don't remember who I am anymore"
I'm with another boy. He's 16, I'm 18. I love him with all my heart, and we're about to be separated, but we plan to live the rest of our lives together. The difference between my ex and me, I know what I'm doing now. I know these things can exist in life, but please PLEASE makes sure you're doing everything for the reason YOU want to and not to keep him. And stop to think from time to time if everything is working out the right way. 
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Hey ST ...
I fell in love at the same age as you. I'm in the same situation. I was 15, he was 17. It's been two years now and neither of us could be happier.
If you guys truly love each other and care for each other, anything is possible.
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My only advise is do be careful; I've been in love with the same girl for 5 years, and I'm glad we didn't get together till this point. The older you get, the more different such a relationship feels... even if we do act like kids about it
Either way, I wish you both luck!!!
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I believe that love is completely legitimate and infinitely valuable at any age, and should never be bashed, suppressed or discouraged.
I don't know what will happen ST, the odds seem to be stacked against you because most couples who start off at such a young age statistically end up breaking up. At the same time though, you should definitely NOT let that get you down, and should do your very best to make it work if you really love him. I hope that you protect your heart a bit, just in case so that you aren't left completely heartbroken in the event that you do break up. That being said, I wish you all the luck in the world!
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The reason people are telling you that is because if you have been together for less than a year, the feeling you are feeling is COMPLETELY different from the one you will be feeling after that time. I said "I love you" at three months. I didn't know what it meant until over a year later. Wisdom comes with age and experience, neither of which you have- it's not meant to ruin your dreams, its just the truth.
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I agree wholeheartedly. I said 'I love you' too three months in (in response to his) but honestly, looking back now I think I really felt it truly at 6/7 months. And as we've barely reached one-year, maybe even that will change.
Love deepens, and I think as a teenager you're so much more prone to fall 'in love' than love itself - which is far deeper and stronger. I thought I was 'in love' with a guy from 11-17, but it wasn't, only puppy love at most to be honest; but the feelings I had were still incredibly intense and all-consuming... it still took me 2 and half years to get over him...
ST, enjoy it while you can. But don't be TOO optimistic. No one knows what the future will bring, and at such young ages, you guys will have so much change happen to you... and you can either grow together or grow apart. But really, that's part of the natural process anyway
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I am a 32 year old mother of three boys. I was completely in love at 17. I being the operative word. He told me he loved me and wanted to get married and have a family. I was still a virgin. Once I turned 18 he tried to get me to do things with him and four months into it, I said- I trust him, love him, do anything for him. The first time we did anything- condom and everything- I got pregnant.
Everyone who is telling you that you have no idea what love is, well, they are only going about trying to protect you in the wrong way. Honestly I see this secret and I think- if it is a secret and you put it here- you are not mature enough to deal with the bigger issues that come with love and believe me- THERE ARE A LOT OF THEM.
So again, I reiterate what everyone else is saying because it bares repeating, TAKE IT SLOW...if it is meant to be, then it is meant to be. Love is about enjoying each moment, not rushing into it trying to make it a fairy tale dream come true. Fairy tales are fictional and reality is harsh. Everyone has gone through this and honestly, I can assure you they have suffered enough to be able to give you the advise to take it slow. I am one of them. You can take it or leave it because it is ultimately up to you, but never say we didn't tell you so when things turn sour.
Love exists in spades but there is no sense in rushing something. Your body is precious and if he tries to take it from you- tell him no. Love respects that decision, if he does not respect your decision...its merely lust.
Life is harsh sweety, sometimes amazing and warm, but mostly harsh. Wake up now before it turns into a nightmare.
I will quote my sister for you " write all your hopes and dreams down for this relationship- tell everyone how much he is your dream guy and how much this is perfect and a fairy tale. Then take that and re-read it. Look at it and then FORGET IT. That is not reality and that is an idealistic approach to a very dangerous and very serious issue that could possibly harm your life, for the rest of your life. It takes one mistake to turn your life down the wrong path. Do you want that or do you want to learn the hard way?"
My sister and I both learned the hard way with years of abuse from the men we loved. All because we were blindly in love with someone who promised us the world when it was not theirs to give. With my three children suffering because their father can not bring himself to be a man, with my sister's husband non existent in her two children's lives...and guess what? They promised us forever.
So with this? What are you going to do? Live in your idealistic world and throw caution to the wind, wake up in a nightmare wishing you had a time machine to turn back time or are you going to wake up to reality now and take it slow- think about it logically and realize if it is going to happen then it will happen in good time? The choice is yours, but keeping this a secret shows some lack of maturity in this issue. Maybe what you want is a little much to ask for right now.
Sorry its so long- but your life is on the line here sister.
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My paternal grandparents eloped when they were 16, and were together until my grandmother died about 10 years ago.
Just take it slow and be careful - good luck.
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I met my fiancΓ©e when I was twelve, she eleven. We fell in love at first sight and got together a few days later. As I stated in the beginning, we're now engaged. Granted I'm only seventeen, turning eighteen this December, and she turning eighteen next year (April), but she's going to be moving in on her birthday.
There is always an exception to the 'rule', though none exists here. People seem to think that just because two are young they can't know 'real love', or that as some have said on here, it is only infatuation or lust. Sometimes it is, other times it isn't. It is up to you and whoever you are with to decide whether or not you two are truly in love with one another.
Count your blessings and consider yourself lucky if you do get married. And I wish you luck with your boyfriend.
Truth be told, I wish I could get married, but it is still illegal for two women to be wed legally in my state.
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I was 16 he was 18. We are now 22 and 23. Been together for almost 6 years. Married for 3. It can happen
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This has *facepalm* all over it.
Now before you think I am bashing, I am not.
I can relate close to home about the SAME situation about my best friend. She said that, and in fact she is 15 and he is 17 as well.
Do you know what happened to them? They only lasted a year. They said it was love, the said they were going to get married, they said ALL of that. But do you know what happened? She was left with a broken heart and her innocence taken away. Please, I advise you to take it SLOW. Do not do anything more than a kiss. It will only lead to broken dreams and become a night mare.
You WILL be broken if you two do not last, and at our age, it is merely infatuation. Now, I can say there is love, but it is proven that our brains don't fully grow until our mid 20's. Do you know what that means?
Well, your brain is saying one thing and your body is saying another, they are going two different directions and you will see your life spin out of control. Our hormones are NOT stable, I do not care what you say, they are not. Save your heart, don't give it all away, even if you are planning on keeping everything. Stick to your word.
It's okay to take risks and chances, you just have to learn from mistakes. But what will really save you, is to learn from others, so you will not fall into the same trap to cause the same pain.
I hope my words have influenced you and to help, I care about who ever you are, and if you can just hold on 5-6 years even, it will be worth it. I know that may sound like forever, but with that you will be way more happy.
Good luck with ever happens, I hope it turns out for the best.
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Thank you for saying that! Could've taken the words straight out of my mouth!
I'm so tired of seeing endless teenage comments about "true love" and "I know when I'm in love." Don't get me wrong, I'm not nihilistic or anything, but 99% of the time it all turns south.
Looking at previous comments on here, I'm surprised how many people were convinced they would be together forever after dating for such a short time. 8 months seems like a long time when you're 15, but it's amazing how much your perspective can change after just two or three years.
When I was a freshman in high school, the boyfriend I had for 9 months came out as gay, and honestly, I never saw it coming. Thought we would be together for a long time. Anything can go wrong at any time, regardless of how old you are. Your point about hormone instability is exactly what they need to hear! I'm 21 and just recently accepted the idea of being with someone forever.
There's no harm in waiting to make sure the relationship is 100% solid. It's always possible for the dream to come true (my parents got married at 20), but it's best to not become too attached at such a young age.
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just a little side note.
You know nihilism is the denial that there's any meaning to life right?
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Yeah, but a lot of people think love gives life meaning...kind a loose transition I guess.
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I agree, that they need to take it slow, and I agree with most of your points. However, I do think it's possible, and if they are careful and they truly care about each other, they can last a long time, maybe even last forever.
I'm a hopeless romantic, in case you can't tell by my comment.
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Well of course it can!
My grandparents both met each other when they were like 13, and were married for like a gabazilllllon years until one of them died. 
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Awww, that's so sweet!
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You're just a kid and those dreams will go away.
Sorry, I couldn't resist. :l
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we're just kids, let us dream while we still can...
sometimes lies survive just long enough to keep us living...
we'd all like to think that we have something to wake up for...
maybe you're right, but there's no need to rain on our happiness, even if it's not right or permanent
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I can definitely say that you are 100% right when you say "sometimes lies survive just long enough to keep us living". When I was 15, and my boyfriend was 21, we were both convinced we would get married. Granted, it never did happen despite the 2 years we were together, but having him definitely made life worth living at the time
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Haha, you do realize that I only said that because the ST specifically said not to, right?
Who knows, maybe she'll work out, maybe she'll get her heart broken.
Either way, it's a learning experience just like the rest of us have to go through.
As for letting people dream while they "still can"? Sweetie, growing up and getting older doesn't take your dreams away. :]
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I did realize that, but I relate to the st and I'm inclined to defend the point they're trying to make.
There are dreams that go away with time.
Sometimes you only have so long to hold on to what you have before you're alone or you find something else.
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I believe that love can happen at any age. And I thought I was going to marry my ex, but it didn't happen that way.
Just, don't be blinded should something eventually end up happening for the worst. Best of luck.
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I'm in the same exact situation.
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ugh. I know what you mean!
I'm 15 and my bf 17, and I was 14 when he asked me out. (literally four days before my birthday) We haven't been together for very long, but it's definitely a serious relationship. I hang out with people of all ages and everyone always bugs him about how old I am. he shrugs it off but I know it bothers him (not in a way that he wants me to change, he justs wants them to stop)
it sucks when people don't take you seriously because of how old you are.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating 8 months now
and my mom said we wont get married
but i want to
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THANKYOU for saying that. Cause I hate it when people say love at this age isn't possible.
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Uh, I hate it when people tell me it's not love either.
You know what is right for you, ST, that's what's important.
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GUH I KNOW THIS FEELING. Been with my boyfriend since we were both fifteen. We're both eighteen now, it's been three years, and it's only been in the last year, since near the end of highschool/beginning of uni, that people have taken us seriously. -_-;
(That being said, they may have a point about the odds being against your favour. Out of everyone I know my bf and I are a freaky anomaly.)
Either way, good luck, and I hope it works out for you~ <3
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There are always chances that it won't work out, trust me I know that more than anyone, but if you really want it, go for it baby ^-^
Life is short, live well and have fun damn it!
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