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Sounds like a inferiority complex. Same like me.
It's hard to live with that. I kind of KNOW that I'm not ugly or dumb oder whatever. But somehow, I'm never convinced at all. I often can't understand why people like me, and I let them feel that.
The problem is, that they get very mad because of that. Then I feel even worse... *sigh*
It's so hard. I'm afraid it will ruin my life and I'll lose all my friends and all people I love...
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I'm the same exact way. I read this secret and thought wow- how did this person get inside my head?
I've gotten to the point where I don't know what's true anymore, and the good and bad part about that is that I can teach myself what is true and what is not, which sometimes makes things easier depending on the subject.
Anyway, just try to keep your head up. You can only go so far down before the only way to go is up. Find one little thing in your life that gives you even the tiniest inkling of happiness, or if not happiness, then at least hope. A good book, a movie, even a made up scenario in your head about something you know will never happen- whatever works. It will start to spur new things.
Hang in there.
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I remember doing this.
Then I fell in love and wanted him to accept me. The first thing I felt I had to do was to stop doing that.
I miss I was able to do that. I get hurt so much easier now.
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I hope you do learn to love yourself
But I understand. I know it's hard.
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I do the same fucking thing.. I've never really taken a compliment. I gave up trying to. I would like to, but I'd rather just work and hope that maybe one day I can prove to myself I can do well..
and maybe I won't, but it feels like it's worth the try.
I guess if you want something, just go for it with everything. Don't let your low self-esteem pull you down, if you don't think you can do something, try anyway, you could be surprised.
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Look in the mirror every day. Look for something POSITIVE. Like "damn my eyes look good today" or "damn this shirt really brings out of my curves" or even "damn I was thinking super hard just then that rocks" lol 
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His could have been written by me. I feel this exact same way sometimes.
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Mhm, I think wanting to like yourself is already a step to doing it actually, so I am sure you will get there.
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I do that, too, ST. I would really love to learn how to as well.
How about we do that together?
Please, ST, we both need to get through this, so please don't hesitate to note me. At times likes this, it's a lot better if you have someone else to talk to.
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'Kay. Stop. Take a deep breath and pause. Think. "Why? Why am I doing this to myself? Where does it get me?"
Flip those comments around. "I'm beautiful/handsome!, I'm smart, I'm strong." Above all you are strong. Why? Because you actually said what's been bothering you. Not everyone is strong enough to do even that. So, you're already ahead of the game! You know you are one of the best. You are wanted, you are attractive, you are intelligent. You are anything you want to be.
The only thing you need to do now is flip the switch from downgrading yourself to empowering yourself! Forget what others think! Right now it's ok to be confident, to be strong, to be powerful.
I really do wish and hope that you will find your pathway of life, wherever it goes, for whatever purpose. I know you're strong. Doesn't matter if I haven't met you, or not. And you are powerful. The sooner you see that...the sooner you'll see doors and windows of opportunity flying open and actually begging for you to walk through them. I don't mean any disrespect or anything of the sort but you do need to realize how much good you are capable of. Loving yourself will come along the way. You have to like yourself before you love yourself. And you have to love yourself before you can truly love others.
I'm hoping for the best, ST. Please don't let your light be extinguished. Not for a second.
Sincerely,
Naivax-Maundrell (aka. XMS)
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well, everyone is upset about something or sometimes everything about themselves.
just admitting it proves you are the bravest person here.
just accept little compliments like "your dress is very nice" with smiles and go out into the world, and soon the compliments you will be getting is "you're beautiful" or "you're the nicest person i know! thank you so much! 
there's going to be a time before you like yourself, (i won't lie) but once you started liking yourself even a little bit it will just snowball until not only you but everyone around you that you ever meet loves you immediately to!
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as they say, admitting the problem is first step in solving it
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I don't know if saying this will mean anything to you, but your secret made me think of something my therapist told me:
Yeah, you're not in a great place right now, but you know that not everything you think is always accurate. You know that you're being hard on yourself. A lot of people spend the majority of their time in therapy just learning to realize that not everything they believe about themselves is true just because they think it. The fact that you're aware of your thoughts puts you a huge step ahead of a great many people in learning to love yourself.
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Here are some tips:
1. Don't worry about what other people think, that will only put you down.
2. If you have a bad day, talk to someone, it will help. Don't hold it all in.
3. Believe in yourself, once you can do that, then you will be able to love yourself.
4. Sometimes pushing yourself helps you, even if it is too hard. How do you think people become rich and famous? They work hard for what they earn.
Once you become sick of not liking yourself, one day things will turn around and you will be sick of feeling down.
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aww I know how you feel ST.
for the first time in my life though, I am beginning to like myself. I'm 17.
maybe you just need to give it time?
I wish you the best of luck<3
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I can agree with this. But, maybe coming to love yourself, comes with learning to love someone else to start with? I've always hated myself, until i met my current partner. Now, there's certain parts of me i love.
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First of all, do your best to stop telling yourself bad things. Tell yourself the positive, even if you don't believe them. It works, trust me.
If you wanna talk, feel free to note me 
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I'm exactly the same. I take compliments as lies and insults as truth.
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that's a pretty sad secret 
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you might not love you but i bet a lot of people do.
open up your eyes and see the beauty in yourself.
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Zelthie has a great comment. It makes a lot of sense. And while it's hard to do, it's worth trying.
I had an epiphany once, made a piece about it (won't link it cuz I don't want to seem like I'm promoting myself... even though this comment sounds like it now 
It is ok to love yourself.
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Change those mean comments to yourself every day to nice ones. :] It may seem stupid at first, but if you continue at it everyday, you could start to believe it just like those mean comments you give yourself every morning since you were seven. Instead of telling yourself that you're stupid, fat, and unwanted (which I doubt any of those are true!), tell yourself instead, "I am beautiful. I have friends that care about me and want to see me happy. I like my figure. I will have a good day today."
I used to be the same way as you ST, but I started telling myself nice things every day instead and it really helped out. :] Just as I hope it will help you at too. I have faith in you<3
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I am exactly the same way. Please try to struggle and be positive just once a day. Believe in yourself, just one little time. It will make a difference.
Feel free to note me if you ever want to talk
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Ambition is a good thing but don't take it that far... If you are like that I'm pretty sure you've taken your ambitions quite far. Why won't you start looking at the positive aspects of that? I know it's easier said than done. But give a try. I'm sure eventually it will happen 
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Know the feeling ST
I've developed the inability to smile. At anything.
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Oh my gosh ST I'm exactly the same! I know how tough it is! Feel free to note me if you wanna talk. HUgs
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